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Relationship dealbreakers.

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    What is one thing (or many things!) that is an absolute dealbreaker that someone you're in a relationship with can do that makes you immediately want to end it?
     
    Nothing beyond what's obvious, cheating, lying, using abusing etc. i'm pretty lenient really; there's nothing out of the norm that would make me suddenly want to end everything.
     
    I'm pretty lenient when it comes to relationships.
    The only dealbreakers would have to be someone that tries to change the way that I express myself and act, and just someone that has bad hygiene in general.
     
    There aren't many things that would cause me to break off a relationship, I'd say only about three or four. The main one would be cheating obviously. Then it'd be lying to me because it's disrespectful and usually means that they're hiding something. I don't want to say flirting because a lot of the time it's just a joke and everyone's just playing around but when they try to hide it would be something that I wouldn't be able to tolerate because like the lying part their usually trying to hide something.
     
    I'm a really gentle/lovey dovey type of person... so if they're mean or rough with me, I really wouldn't like them. Also, I'm not too keen on having kids... I'd consider it if we could have them normally, but since we'd have to adopt, I really don't want to.

    Otherwise, just obvious things like smoking, drinking, drugs, cheating, abuse, etc.
     
    I don't think much bothers me. All I can think of is lying, cheating, abusing physically/verbally, or just being an ass. Also if they always got mad at me for every little thing. Although I wouldn't even be attracted to someone like that in the first place so they would of had to have hidden it until afterwards.
     
    For me, it's children. I can't be a father; as callous as that sounds. I can't have my life revolve around a child, and that's what would be expected of me. So if somebody I was with decided that having a child was something that they needed in their life, I couldn't be part of that. It sounds horrible I know, but children need people in their lives would love them and care for them and I just don't that particular kind of responsibility. I want to enjoy my life and have it be an adventure; I don't want the life to be drained out of me by a child.
     
    I can handle a lot of things, and I try to be as close as I can. The one thing thats gets to me though is Cheating with an emotional relationship.
     
    Smoking, excessive alcoholism, drug abuse.... All of that!
    I also dislike women who have a massive relationship record. That's not a good sign in my opinion.
     
    Undesirable circumstances arising from certain events may throw me off, but nothing in itself, really.
    The closest single thing would be children, as per Shining Raichu's post, but I make a point of knowing if someone wants to bear offspring before considering a relationship with them, so it wouldn't really come up.
     
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    There are a lot of deal breakers for me, but the biggest one would be if they hated Pokémon. It's such a big part of my life, if they hated it, a relationship would never ever work. But there are many others, including drugs, smoking, etc.
     
    I'm not too picky, so mine are the standard: cheating, lying, abusiveness as deal breakers. However, the only other one I care about is whether or not they're heavy drinkers. I don't care if they get drunk at parties occasionally, but if they constantly drink everyday and are a mean drunk, I can't handle that.
     
    I'm pretty fragile. I can't be with someone that is on the rough side of things; not necessarily abusive, it's not that the person is a bad person. It's just that there are some people that are rough and fight hard because both of the people in the relationship can get over it easily and I'm not that kind of person so I can't be paired with someone that expects me to have thick skin and get over insults.
     
    I don't want anyone who can't accept me for who I am and what my interests are. If my significant other tried to get me to stop watching anime, tried to get me to buy some tiny little deathtrap of a car, or can't accept that I don't like to do things spur of the moment, then it's "Smell ya later!"

    If someone truly wants to be with me, then they need to accept me for the person I am, not try to change me.

    Oh yeah, and if I found out that three of their previous significant others died under mysterious circumstances, that would pretty much ruin the relationship, too. Heck, just lying about their past would make me seriously question how truthful they would be to me in the future.
     
    The biggest dealbreaker for me would be anyone who uses any kind of racial or homophobic slurs. I absolutely hate that kind of language. I also value honesty above anything else, so liars and cheaters are a huge no-no for me.
     
    I'll stay in a relationship as long as I'm sure they still want to talk to me. If I was in a relationship where we went without talking for a day or two (without a good excuse) I'd probably consider ending it then, and if it happened again then it'd most likely be over... I guess I'm just an incredibly needy person though haha. Basically just talk to me once a day and it's unlikely to end \o/
     
    As much as I don't care if people smoke... I don't know if I could date a smoker. Maaaaaaaaybe if she didn't smoke around me and used hella amounts of mouthwash, that could be passable. But, as shallow as it is, that's probably my only out-and-out dealbreaker.
     
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