What's your limit?

I have a topic up for discussion that I found from an old old post I made back in 2008. I am not sure if this belongs here or in OC but feel free to move it about where you see fit.
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If you made an important promise to someone you loved dearly, and they broke it, what would you do?
What if that person came back and told you that they would do anything to make it better? Would you take them back?

What if they didn't apologize, but you loved them so much that you wanted them back?

What would you say to them to make them realize they have hurt you badly? Or is it even worth talking to them anymore?

Do you think that Karma would "give them a taste of their own medicine" for hurting you in the end?

What are your thoughts?
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I realize this is situation based, so give maybe a few situations if need be.(Example, if the important promise ranged from a deep secret about you, to "promise to never cheat on me," to revealing your private information to the public, etc.

Generally, if someone betrayed me I'd forgive them if they were sorry and promised never to do something like that again. I don't think one action defines a person.

I suppose I'm like this because I'm afraid of loosing the relationships I have, and I don't like being hurt so I'm willing to allow some mistakes if overall I'm sparing myself the big hurt of a complete breakup (or end of any other relationship that means something to me). I'm not into cutting ties with people completely unless it's very painful or dangerous.

I dunno if I'm answering this correctly, but there it is.

I'm a forgiving person, and yeah, that's just it. I believe people do deserve second chances, but I also believe that things happen for a reason. If it happens once, okay, perhaps it was an error. But if it repeats, then obviously you learn more about a person as their true colors are shown. And unless that person is really good at deception, I'm pretty sure I'd realize something like that before I get too personally attached to said person.

I don't even trust the people I "dearly love" so I kind of expect them to not hold their promises. So much so really that I don't bother telling anyone anything. If it was something like cheating where a personal secret of mine isn't involved I'd be pretty hurt and I'd probably be more likely to just try and forget about them overtime rather than forgive them. I would just rather move on without them than stick around them in anyway.

Small things though I kind of expect out of everyone. Most of the time I just let it go because I actually don't even care about that person to begin with to be too hurt when they end up "betraying me."

I'm extremely trusting and forgiving. I stay in cycles of abuse for that reason, and I used to a lot more tolerant before now. Sometimes now it is one strike and you're out (as far as out of me actually caring much about you anymore). It really depends on the person who hurts me.

It's easier to forgive people who I don't know as well, like a new lover or friend. But I will ALWAYS forgive.

Forgetting is not an option. Every cross word, broken promise, and lash across the face is remembered. I forgive because I can't hold a grudge, but the pain of remembrance is always still there.

Forgiveness does not mean that I still want to talk to someone. It means that I don't hate/wish things against them. Would I truly care if they died? Probably not on a personal level, no. I don't want them to die but their death wouldn't really faze me.

The person who comes to mind is my Grandma, who I used to regard as a hero. Now, I can't stand to be around her. I wish she'd go away out of my life forever (same for all the rest of my blood family actually). I think my family's deaths would almost be a relief. I can't imagine how much pain would be over if they'd somehow go all at once. It'd be like a weight lifted. I don't hate them, but that's honestly.......That's just the way they've made things. I forgive them, but I want to make them all a thing of my past.

I'm just going to use one of the most sacred promises someone can give out, and that is to remain in a committed relationship. So, with that said...

I would respond with silence. The best way to tell someone you're unspeakably upset with is to be unspeakable. If they apologized and truly meant it, I would forgive them, but I wouldn't take them back in that way again. It's possible that we can remain friends after we reconcile the problem, but once someone breaks that bond, I'll always remain skeptical of someone breaking it again.

I suppose I would take them back if I wanted them back enough, though. I just wouldn't trust them - they'd have to regain it all back - and remain very skeptical. But if that's the case, I'd really hope someone intervenes and points out how stupid I'm being. A relationship where you can't trust someone isn't much of a relationship at all and not at all healthy, if you ask me.

Though I'm very understanding and forgiving and trusting, I don't know if I'll be the same in cases like that. I've never really had that happen to me yet.

I don't really trust people. I've only ever met a couple people who I trust with sensitive stuff. Even then, there's a lot I don't share because people change, and the person you trust now probably won't be the same later on.

That said, if a person does hurt me, I'll most likely forgive them after a time... and then cut them off. I have no room in my life for people who I don't like being around.

My limit comes with repetition. If somebody wronged me, I would probably take them back - if they wronged me again, I would probably take them back again. But if they kept doing it on an on-going basis, I'd eventually reach my breaking point and have no choice but to let them go. But as Scarf said, one action doesn't define a person, so I'd have to make absolutely sure that this was not a person worth having in my life before I cast them aside. I'm generally too forgiving for my own good, so I hope that doesn't make me a doormat later on in my life when it counts.

As for the whole karma thing, I'm not a vengeful person. My parents and my sister are vengeful people, and I've watched them say some really horrible things about people who've done bad stuff to them even just once. I've sort of trained my mind to be the opposite of that. I don't want to be like that, I don't think it's healthy and it's extremely unattractive.

I'm too forgiving for my own good. Indeed, I probably should learn to say 'no, not again' when people have wronged me. Having said that, I haven't really had many opportunities where this has happened to me, and the ones that I have had haven't been on the level of relationship breaking or anything like that. Maybe if the issue were so serious, I'd be less forgiving as a result, but it's one of those things where I feel I'd have to be in the moment before making a decision, if that makes sense... But normally I'm too forgiving. Not forgetting - I'll always remember - just forgiving.

I always forgive. Those who consistently hurt me I'll pluck out of my life but I'll still treat with kindness, but I can't hold grudges, I don't have clean enough hands to.

Offtopic: I actually thought this question had to do with alcohol limit. XD

Ontopic: I'm not really a forgiving person, but it can depend on the situation. If it is a promise, and they broke it, i'd consider it something minor and probably forgive them. Anything else, and it's a strong chance that I won't, but again, it depends on the situation, whether it be a small mistake or a big mistake.