Meganium
[i]memento mori[/i]
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- Houston, TX
- Seen May 3, 2024
I'm in class right now, and I'm on a break. Weee.
My usual trip to the Galveston countryside turned into a five day trip to Austin, Texas. I went with my boyfriend Roy and his mom to go see his sister, Kelly, and her two kids. This was mainly to celebrate Roy's nephew's birthday. It was pretty awesome. Kelly is really receptive and she and I get along pretty well. However, for the past few weeks, I've realized that Roy and I have entered our "power struggle" stage of our relationship, and every time we both meet up, we would have at least one argument about the tiniest thing. Like for example, last weekend at Comicpalooza...we argued about what T-shirt he wanted and I told him I would choose. But he was frustrated that he could not make a decision of his own and wanted me to decide for him. So we really needed the space for ourselves and ended up going to different places around the con. This time, in Austin, I was the one that got annoyed at his constant moodiness. However, I did not realize until later on in the day that it was stress related to his nephew's birthday party. It bothered me that he woke up and did not say "good morning" or even talked to me all morning. We argued about that at the party, and I was the one that ended up leaving earlier than anticipated with his mom. Because of the steamy Texas heat, I took a long nap and joined the family afterwards. Roy and I never talked all day. It was bothering me throughout the afternoon because I actually made his mood worse than ever. After watching Game of Thrones with Kelly and her husband, I had to apologize to Roy about not being cooperative about Kelly and her party. I felt like I was being selfish. But then again, that's just my anxiety speaking. What's really amazing is that he was really receptive of my apology, and he knew that I was going through a stress attack. We spent two hours talking about our relationship alone...how we could do to fix it during this power struggle phase. What we could do the next time we argue like the time at his nephew's party and at Comicpalooza. What needs to be done to fix it ourselves. I'm honestly scared. I have never been in this relationship phase before in my life. I was told that it is perfectly normal for a couple to argue, kiss and make up. It just bothers me that the "spark" we had a few months ago is now gone and we have to deal with our annoyances and usual behaviors. For us, it's actually a challenge. Roy has to deal with my anxiety, while I have to deal with his OCD and mild Aspergers. I wonder how long our love will mature itself and when the power struggle phase will end. We ended up spending two more nights in Austin (we were planning to leave on Monday, but Kelly needed help with the kids as she had to travel for work). Tuesday was the day we went out to sightseeing in Downtown Austin. Got to see the majority of the city as well as rode a boat to Lake Austin. After that, we had lunch at an upscale restaurant. I'm now back here in Houston today (as I write this), and I'm now reflecting on this past weekend as a lesson that I will probably need the next time I get into another power struggle argument with Roy.
My usual trip to the Galveston countryside turned into a five day trip to Austin, Texas. I went with my boyfriend Roy and his mom to go see his sister, Kelly, and her two kids. This was mainly to celebrate Roy's nephew's birthday. It was pretty awesome. Kelly is really receptive and she and I get along pretty well. However, for the past few weeks, I've realized that Roy and I have entered our "power struggle" stage of our relationship, and every time we both meet up, we would have at least one argument about the tiniest thing. Like for example, last weekend at Comicpalooza...we argued about what T-shirt he wanted and I told him I would choose. But he was frustrated that he could not make a decision of his own and wanted me to decide for him. So we really needed the space for ourselves and ended up going to different places around the con. This time, in Austin, I was the one that got annoyed at his constant moodiness. However, I did not realize until later on in the day that it was stress related to his nephew's birthday party. It bothered me that he woke up and did not say "good morning" or even talked to me all morning. We argued about that at the party, and I was the one that ended up leaving earlier than anticipated with his mom. Because of the steamy Texas heat, I took a long nap and joined the family afterwards. Roy and I never talked all day. It was bothering me throughout the afternoon because I actually made his mood worse than ever. After watching Game of Thrones with Kelly and her husband, I had to apologize to Roy about not being cooperative about Kelly and her party. I felt like I was being selfish. But then again, that's just my anxiety speaking. What's really amazing is that he was really receptive of my apology, and he knew that I was going through a stress attack. We spent two hours talking about our relationship alone...how we could do to fix it during this power struggle phase. What we could do the next time we argue like the time at his nephew's party and at Comicpalooza. What needs to be done to fix it ourselves. I'm honestly scared. I have never been in this relationship phase before in my life. I was told that it is perfectly normal for a couple to argue, kiss and make up. It just bothers me that the "spark" we had a few months ago is now gone and we have to deal with our annoyances and usual behaviors. For us, it's actually a challenge. Roy has to deal with my anxiety, while I have to deal with his OCD and mild Aspergers. I wonder how long our love will mature itself and when the power struggle phase will end. We ended up spending two more nights in Austin (we were planning to leave on Monday, but Kelly needed help with the kids as she had to travel for work). Tuesday was the day we went out to sightseeing in Downtown Austin. Got to see the majority of the city as well as rode a boat to Lake Austin. After that, we had lunch at an upscale restaurant. I'm now back here in Houston today (as I write this), and I'm now reflecting on this past weekend as a lesson that I will probably need the next time I get into another power struggle argument with Roy.
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