Almost unlike me...

Okay very unlike me... I need some advice PC... romantic advice... Kinda... more like input to help me make that kind of decision.

Ironic isn't it? The one who practically gave up on trying to find love suddenly needs help about it.

So, I am sure a few of you remember how I talked about someone I went out with a long while back... I broke up with him because he really just ticked me off... a lot... we'd butt heads a lot and I'd get really aggressive about it.... They weren't really big things, looking back (Except for the whole religion thing, but I have become more tolerant) but the anger I felt left a mark in me.

Well, he asked me if we should become a thing again... But he recently went off to Oregon for college... If it were back then I would have said no... in a heartbeat... but the thing is... I have spent time with him a bit before he left.. He didn't get on my nerves, I wasn't uncomfortable... it actually felt nice... so suddenly that emphatic "no" suddenly becomes a shaky "maybe" at best.

So... looking at it this way... he really ticked me off in the past, but now it's just minor annoyances and not the full on agression I felt before... He... He really likes me... borderline loves me... Maybe it's not even borderline... I haven't let myself think about it... I like to think I am a forgiving person but this says otherwise just a little....

So... I would like some opinions on the matter... Should I give him a second chance?

Again, inb4 no one helps XD

I say drop it. From personal experience with this delicate concept of "love," I say that walking away is the best thing to do. No matter how much you enjoy your relationship with him, it's never worth all the pain when it ends.

I'd also say drop it; there's a lot of vindictiveness that can come up and unsurfaced emotions (especially on his end) that could overwhelm the relationship.. plus you guys already have a disposition of certain things (like "oh I already know what he's like regarding this.") Now that he's going to Oregon it'll be even harder because you wont be able to spend that critical time with him in person to really get vibes on how the relationship is reforming.

I would leave it. If he's still interested after college THEN maybe I would consider giving it another shot. But right now.. no.

I've heard of a few people who got back together after breakups, but mostly they didn't go well because of the same reasons they broke up in the first place. I'd think hard about whether either of you has changed enough where you could have a relationship that would work.