Stop the Bullying!

[c l e a r]

humph, weak.

If you acknowledge that problem, why don't you do something to take care of it? By not doing anything, you are acknowledging that you are indeed weak. It is half-minded ideas like ignoring them, or thinking that a higher power will stop them, that shaped the crapsack world that we share.

You want to know why there are people that doing things like that? It's because that they WANT to, and they can do it. There is no legislation or any law that can stop someone to doing to you if they WANT to; especially when the purposed punishment is just as half-baked as the said will. You know how to stop a bully? It's simple. You make sure that you mean business. You fight back and make good sure for the said person remembers it.

In my high school days, I experienced almost everything in the book of things that no one gives a damn about: threatened, spat on, my house egged, threaten at gunpoint... and not at one point anyone has done anything to stop it from happening, or have them punished. It is not only that the bullies for doing what they did; but also the bystanders and schoolmates that did nothing, as if they are standing there enjoy my misery. It is not until that it has affected my academics greatly when I realize that none of this matter, cause they, the people that make life a miserable hell hole, don't matter.

The instant the gave up the bubble that I had cling on to, every step that I took become that much lighter. I have not given up on justice, but I have given up hope to those that are suppose to enforce it; with their lies and deceits, they also contributed to my pains as well, and will not be forgiven as long as I can live.

Much to my delight in the present, most of the people that contributed to my past pains have gotten what they deserve, one of which, from what I heard have gotten long sentence for doing Armed Robbery x8, now it is their turn to be rejected and shunned by society.

So yes, to put it simply, reach deep and find a set, cause you are doing to need it if you want to make it in this world.

 

[twocows]

The issue is two-sided. On one hand, bullying can really get out of control; I've seen some really nasty stuff. Kids especially can be really rotten little buggers.

On the other hand, there are people who just need to grow a pair. Not everyone in life is a fountain of affection. You're not a special little snowflake to everyone else and not everyone is going to treat you like one. Some people are going to treat you like rubbish to be tossed aside. There are people who are legitimately jerks that you'll meet throughout life who are able to get away with it and that you'll just have to learn to deal with. That's reality. We tend to protect kids from it because it's tough, but they need to learn sometime.

I think it really depends on the nature of the bullying and how severe it is. I guess that's something that's hard to determine without being there, though.

 

[.:CoralSoda:.]

I bullied 2 kids in elementary school once and people stepped in and stopped me and I never did it again because I was obviously in the wrong. I don't know where it is that everyone else lives, but they clearly don't have there crap together if bullying is ruining as many kids life as it is. Also once I got into junior high and high school I always acted really weird and dressed weird as well and I wasn't targeted and it's not like I was strong or anything either. I just walked around comfortable with who I was and everyone didn't seem to care. As for internet bullying, if you take any of it seriously, that's a bit silly. Not trying to be rude, but welcome to the internet. While there are nice places on the internet (such as this forum). There are bad places, the internet is a place of complete freedom and while some people get offended by it, I don't want it to ever become a place where I can't voice my own opinions or say whatever I want because someone won't like it. Just try to remember, everyone on the internet can't hurt you if you don't let them.

 

[Volcanix769]

humph, weak.

If you acknowledge that problem, why don't you do something to take care of it? By not doing anything, you are acknowledging that you are indeed weak. It is half-minded ideas like ignoring them, or thinking that a higher power will stop them, that shaped the crapsack world that we share.

You want to know why there are people that doing things like that? It's because that they WANT to, and they can do it. There is no legislation or any law that can stop someone to doing to you if they WANT to; especially when the purposed punishment is just as half-baked as the said will. You know how to stop a bully? It's simple. You make sure that you mean business. You fight back and make good sure for the said person remembers it.

In my high school days, I experienced almost everything in the book of things that no one gives a damn about: threatened, spat on, my house egged, threaten at gunpoint... and not at one point anyone has done anything to stop it from happening, or have them punished. It is not only that the bullies for doing what they did; but also the bystanders and schoolmates that did nothing, as if they are standing there enjoy my misery. It is not until that it has affected my academics greatly when I realize that none of this matter, cause they, the people that make life a miserable hell hole, don't matter.

The instant the gave up the bubble that I had cling on to, every step that I took become that much lighter. I have not given up on justice, but I have given up hope to those that are suppose to enforce it; with their lies and deceits, they also contributed to my pains as well, and will not be forgiven as long as I can live.

Much to my delight in the present, most of the people that contributed to my past pains have gotten what they deserve, one of which, from what I heard have gotten long sentence for doing Armed Robbery x8, now it is their turn to be rejected and shunned by society.

So yes, to put it simply, reach deep and find a set, cause you are doing to need it if you want to make it in this world.

Acting tough to my opinion doesn't help. Plus, for me, it's not easy defeating a bully at the internet. If you tend to be tough to me for no reason, why?

Hmm, I dont mean to sound rude or be mean but what is Aspergers again? I forget, However, I'll admit I have ADHD, i have trouble keeping focused and keeping motivation, sometime I write things without thinking about the right choice, but I never directly try to offend just try to defend myself.. But The only thing i can say is people with conditions such as Aspergers and ADHD etc.. usually are the ones who manage to do great things... Even with my lack of focus I still manage to program computers and video games. Dont let people get you down because, they will be 44 years old still picking on people on the internet you'll be out doing great things with your life because you have better things to do than flame people on the net...

It's a type of Autism. You get really smart, but you get angry very easily, you have social problems, and they don't know how to cope with it.

 

[Yoshikko]

Einstein had ADD/ADHD, and I do too. Just thought I'd point that out. I have way too much to say about bullying and I don't have the time for it right now but I do like your thread lol.

 

[kuzronk]

I been getting hurt at school the last few weeks mostly

 

[jpp8]

Acting tough to my opinion doesn't help. Plus, for me, it's not easy defeating a bully at the internet. If you tend to be tough to me for no reason, why?

If you don't accept the advice of others and keep trying to do things your own way, things are just going to stay as they are. It's one thing to be a victim of bullying because of a mental disorder (as in people are bullying you for it explicitly and no more), but using that mental disorder as a "get out of bullying free" card or to try and garner pity from others is not cool. Bullies react to the way you respond. If you respond to them in a way that is favorable to them, such as being visibly upset, they will continue to do so because they know that they can get that reaction out of you. Since this IS the internet, you can very well choose to ignore the bullying or simply contact people in higher positions because they are there to help YOU if you feel that you are in a position where you can no longer enjoy the services of the site due to the actions of others. Don't think that there aren't people that will help you; if you feel a situation online is truly escalating to a point where you can't take it anymore, don't whine about it on some other forum, contact officials on the site where you are being bullied and they will work with you to resolve your problem.

 

[Volcanix769]

Cry more. You want to know how I deal with idiots on the internet? I use the ignore/block function.

and that's it, if you can't even do that, then you are not that smart. About all the forums out there got tons of people with aspergers, so don't start thinking that you are "special" and wanting a pity party; It does not work that way.

It's not acting tough; it is being tough. What you are doing is escaping from reality, and want some attention. One must confront their problems, and crush it to dust in order to move on. Change, and quit playing your pool of self-pity.

I'm not trying to be special, plus you know that I have a hard time coping with problems like this, and that I have a life. I do have friends, I don't be here 24/7.

If you don't accept the advice of others and keep trying to do things your own way, things are just going to stay as they are. It's one thing to be a victim of bullying because of a mental disorder (as in people are bullying you for it explicitly and no more), but using that mental disorder as a "get out of bullying free" card or to try and garner pity from others is not cool. Bullies react to the way you respond. If you respond to them in a way that is favorable to them, such as being visibly upset, they will continue to do so because they know that they can get that reaction out of you. Since this IS the internet, you can very well choose to ignore the bullying or simply contact people in higher positions because they are there to help YOU if you feel that you are in a position where you can no longer enjoy the services of the site due to the actions of others. Don't think that there aren't people that will help you; if you feel a situation online is truly escalating to a point where you can't take it anymore, don't whine about it on some other forum, contact officials on the site where you are being bullied and they will work with you to resolve your problem.

Yeah, that could work.

 

[Lozz]

I know it probably sounds like a cop out response... but bullies seriously aren't worth your time or energy. I know it's super easy to let things they say affect you, but generally, if people seriously have to stoop low enough to verbally or physically attack you - they're generally trying to compensate for something. Or they're just jealous of you. Obviously if someone is physically beating you up, you can't really move past that with thought alone, but bullies have the most power over you when you build them up and give them importance. Next time some douchebag thinks they have the right to have a go at you, remind yourself that they're probably fat, sterile, and about 47 years old. If that doesn't work... tell them they have Chlamydia and then block them!

FYI - my favourite TV character has aspergers... and if they were an actual real person, I would totally marry them. Probs an irrelevant fact, but just thought I'd share.

 

[StarlightSerenity]

Someone tried to bully me when I was 6 or 7. I smacked him over the head with my plastic lunchbox as soon as I had had enough - he never came near me again.

Someone was bulling my friend at school, I told her to stop, she didnt. I kneed her in the face and got thanked by her dad for it - she became a much nicer person after realising she couldnt treat people the way she was doing.

I hate bullying, I hate bullies. There is absolutely no need to treat people in such a manner and I think people who are victims and witnesses of bullying need to stand up to them. Always worked for me. I do think that a lot of bullies do have their own issues and of course they should be helped to resolve them but being abused or whatever doesn't give them the right to treat others like trash.

 

[Throat]

When peace isn't an option, violence is the only way! Well, just kidding. See, buddy, tell the responsibles for your school about the bullying or your parents, I know it's embarrassing, but in no time everyone will forget about it and you'll have a decent life.

 

[Throat]

Yes, you are thinking that you are special. Don't even try and deny it. If you think that what I said offends you, you really have no bloody idea on seeing where people are hostile towards you or not.

Sit down and grow a set, not everything is fair. Quit thinking that people will do things for you, you are not that important; I'm not that important, if I went out there and died today, no one will care, I would have been just another statistic, just another footnote. So, honestly, who really cares about your little problem? Not you apparently, if I was in your position, I would have done something about it already instead of sitting here with you in this pity party.

You are Naive, and insecure even about your belonging. If you are thinking that's harassment, wait till you see what can somebody else do. Anyways, I am done talking here, sitting here talking to you in your self-pity is not exactly good for anyone.

I hope it goes out well for ya.

Aww, man, don't take it too hard on the boy. You're mostly right, though.

 

[Livewire]

I'm going to make my self very clear. Cut the tough guy act with Volcanix here, there are extenuating circumstances of which you are unaware and which render your criticism irrelevant. Play nicely and keep posting.

 

[c l e a r]

I'm going to make my self very clear. Cut the tough guy act with Volcanix here, there are extenuating circumstances of which you are unaware and which render your criticism irrelevant. Play nicely and keep posting.

I had been in this guy's position time and time again in the past, I have been bullied on the net, and have it to even turn into physical. Those people's actions has caused me emotional turmoil and the safety of my family. I was 14 when this all happened, so don't go and tell me that I "don't know how it feels". I was diagnosed with aspergers, I have been where he is standing before, so don't tell me that I don't know how he (at least a bit) feels.

He is not the only one with problems here, yet to me, he seems to make it a big deal that it revolves around him and him alone. He's not asking for solutions; to me, it would seem that he is asking for us to give him your pity. That is wrong, and it does not help anyone.

The point I was trying to make is for him to move on, I understand that it is a hard thing to do; as people with aspergers tend to get trapped with personal issues, to the point that it paralyzes their daily life routines. But it NEEDS to happen, there is no way to live normally while carrying all these unnecessary baggage.

 

[Controversial?]

I've never been properly bullied tbh, but I was once "kicked off" SPPF because of everyone's mutual disrespect which would've led to bullying.
I did kinda deserve it, though.

 

[Livewire]

stuff

I don't recall you having the right to talk like that, to volcanix or myself. Cool off.

 

[Arma]

@Volcanix769: Though c l e a r might be harsh, I'm afraid he's right. (well mostly)

I don't have aspergers or anything else, so I can't really say anything about that. But you shouldn't be scared of others. EVER.

I've been bullied before too. I was too scared of saying anything back because I was afraid they were going to beat me up. When I did open my mouth though, I realized they were nothing but all talk.

As others said before: don't pay too much attention to other people, especially not online. You don't have to act tough, but you shouldn't care about the things people say to you. Bullies will only pick on you because they think the way you respond is "funny". Don't ever give them that response. Just tell them that you don't give a bleep about what they are saying/thinking.

 

[Winneon]

I'm kinda used to bullying at my school and on the internet. I'm one of those 'loser' kids.:(

 

[Hikamaru]

Aspergers?

I have some form of Autism, don't know if it's Aspergers.

Yeah, I get bullied big-time!

 

[Throat]

No idea why they bully people suffering from Asperger's, it seems so natural. Anyway, aww, man... PC must be the online community with highest number of people feeling pity toward themselves. See, I'm not trying to be harsh, but they only pick on you if you allow them to and, when you get older than 15, you usually realize that and should have an attitude about it. Anyway, I'm not judging anyone, god only knows how the life of everyone here is.