Are you a loner?

[Klippy]

Some people like being alone, others are social butterflies. What makes you what you are and do you wish you could change it?

 

[Centipede Chan]

I am a very big loner. I hardly talk at all, and most of my talking out loud is to myself like at 3 AM. I wish I could be more social but it's so hard, especially when the students in the school around you have the maturity of a 9 year old.

 

[Omicron]

I am mostly a loner irl.

I do not have many friends but it isn't something that bothers me. I enjoy my time alone. Reading, listening music, basking in the sun, gardening and playing are among the things I do the most and I enjoy doing them alone. (although I do not exclusively enjoy them when I'm alone. I can enjoy playing or basking in the sun as much as I do while alone with company, but doing them alone is relaxing.)

I do go to the occasional party and enjoy it, but it isn't something of utmost importance to me.

I used to have terrible social anxiety, but it is mostly under control now.

Either way, I spend a lot of my breaks at school alone and it doesn't really bother me. I like it that way. I used to wish I was more social and that I had more friends, mostly when my social anxiety was prevalent, but now I don't. I'm like that and I enjoy it, there really is no need nor reason to change.

 

[Sonata]

I'd love to change the way I am. I'm pretty much a loner. I try to go out of my comfort zone, but end up butting in to conversations where I'm not wanted or just altogether coming off awkward. Even when it comes to online interactions where nobody can see how frustrated you're getting while trying to reply to something they typed, my heart beats faster and I overthink things too much. I hate being alone though. I loved it when people who weren't loners would come up to me and try to get me to be active and social with them. Even if I did decline half the time and instead sat in the corner with my headphones in, it still made me feel good inside and made me want to go be with them.

 

[Salzorrah]

I like to be alone. Not on the Internet tho, I love being a social butterfly in it, but irl, no no no.

Sure, I have friends, but I feel like you'll do a big impact on stuff, and if you screw things up, it's over, so I prefer being in a cell, with internet connection and a laptop by my side, and my sanity will be safeguarded.

 

[starseed galaxy auticorn]

Oh, definitely. I don't like socializing with other people. It's often overwhelming for me, especially when I have nothing to say. I do have a few friends I talk to, but I still find myself being more of a loner. I like to keep to myself and basically socialize when I really want to do so. I do prefer being alone in my room listening to music and browsing the interwebz a lot though. I've always been kind of a loner in life, so it's something I've actually gotten used to over the years.

 

[Dedenne1]

Hehe umm that depends for me
At home kinda i dont do much outside if my home at night or hang out a lot but im not close to a loner. In social positions though im a social butterfly i guess cause i love talking hanging with friends when i can and talking HAHA. Basically i dont have enough to do when i get too long of a break like a vacation im on here a lot cause im bored but i guess thats just the season and sometimes i need a break from people. Really i cant wait till summer though so i can be a social butterfly in my own way ;)

 

[Sirfetch’d]

I am mostly a loner irl.

I do not have many friends but it isn't something that bothers me. I enjoy my time alone. Reading, listening music, basking in the sun, gardening and playing are among the things I do the most and I enjoy doing them alone. (although I do not exclusively enjoy them when I'm alone. I can enjoy playing or basking in the sun as much as I do while alone with company, but doing them alone is relaxing.)

I do go to the occasional party and enjoy it, but it isn't something of utmost importance to me.

I used to have terrible social anxiety, but it is mostly under control now.

Either way, I spend a lot of my breaks at school alone and it doesn't really bother me. I like it that way. I used to wish I was more social and that I had more friends, mostly when my social anxiety was prevalent, but now I don't. I'm like that and I enjoy it, there really is no need nor reason to change.

This describes me a lot too, Omi. Social anxiety has been a huge factor in my motivation to do things with people in real life. I don't have this problem online fortunately but I wish I could say the same offline. I want to do things with people but when the motivation isn't there....being alone is always my first choice.

 

[Sylphiel]

Definitely a loner by nature here. I would say it's anxiety making me like that, but I don't think so, at least not entirely. I don't think it's anxiety that drains me when I've been out with people, since it happens even when I'm around people I'm entirely comfortable with. Especially if I've been hanging out with more than a few people, I absolutely have to be alone at some point or my mood will drop.

Although this is mostly when it comes to real-life interactions, online ones it doesn't tend to happen so much. I still need my "space" to disappear when need be, though. I actually had it happen just last night; too many people talking over a voice chat for a while, along with other noises around, it basically overwhelms me and I had to go off to listen to something else for a bit after all was done.

Do I wish I could change it? Mm, maybe sometimes, maybe a little bit. But it's also part of who I am, even if I were to get rid of the anxiety I just happen to have one of those introverted personalities, so even if I could change it more than that I don't really see the need to do so.

 

[Pinkie-Dawn]

I do not wish to be a loner, because I don't have the capabilities of being all by myself. I need support, so I try join group conversations, only to feel socially awkward.

 

[Aether★]

Well, the reason why I have my current nickname is no other than me being a solitary person. It's not a difference if it is on the internet or IRL. I am a man of few words, so longer conversations with me are really rare. Also I almost never start an actual conversation. I tend to be too honest, because I speak out of my mind, that's why I'd rather avoid debates or arguements with people either IRL or online.

 

[maccrash]

I have a lot of close friends, relatively, but social interaction tires me out after awhile usually. however I'm always down to hang with my best friends for the most part unless I'm sick or something of course. I wouldn't go so far as to say I'm a social butterfly but I'm definitely not a recluse.

 

[Skip Class]

Being alone for me is a horrible feeling. I will admit there are moments where I want to be alone, but in most cases I would like to be with other people.

I am definitely more on the social side than the loner side. I have a large group of close friends and I have friends in most places I go. For example, I go to a design and architecture university: I'm a third year, but most of my friends are in second and I still have lots of friends in third. However, I'll be friends with some first years, some 4th/5th years as well as some architecture people and then I've also got friends from the other 3 campuses here and friends from other universities.

Only downside is I am kinda shy upon meeting new people haha but I really like making friends wherever I go.

 

[mikey]

I do like to be alone, but I wouldn't call myself a loner. I do put myself in social situations quite often, because I feel that being alone too much isn't healthy. I try and push myself to step out of my comfort zone and be with others.

 

[pkmin3033]

I'm a complete shut-in, although that's as much by choice as it is by circumstance these days. I've gotten used to be alone to the point that, if I am around others, I'll seek a way out as quickly as possible. I'm just more comfortable alone now.

I find it difficult and often tiresome to engage in social situations, and I don't really get any pleasure out of it anymore; I have to constantly watch what I say, read between the lines of what others are saying, and "keep up appearances" I guess. I don't feel free to "be myself" around others, and I hate that feeling - I'd rather be alone than caged by other people's perception of me.

...I do wish I had a little more confidence to initiate conversation with people online, though. I'm fine having a conversation with people on a one-to-one basis over the phone or Skype or whatever, but I rarely initiate conversation for various reasons. Still working on that.

 

[Universe]

if the "Nature" i have set here on PC is of any example, then yes, i do consider myself something of a loner.

i like to talk online more than i do irl and can even be kinda social if i want to be. i can also small talk with people in real life easily, but it's really physically and emotionally draining to do so for long periods. just like quite a few others who have and will post in this thread, my anxiety spikes especially hard in public... so i'm not one to initiate conversation out there. B); online i'm usually the one to initiate chats, though.. because everyone I know except for Went are not keen on doing it themselves-- which is fine! but sometimes i'd like to not have to approach every single time.

my friends are also sort of.. specifically chosen; because i'm not too good with relationships. that also plays into my "loner-ness".

 

[Sableye~]

While I can appreciate the company of certain people, I prefer to be alone. It helps my mood as well as with stress/anxiety to just get away from other humans for a while. I particularly enjoy spending time outside, so it's not real rare for me to end up retreating into some woods that aren't terribly far from my home.

People end up causing me a lot of stress, so parties and the like aren't ideal.

 

[Percy]

Aww, you guys. You're in this forum. How could you get lonely? Hahaha.

Not that this is the only place that I try and make myself feel a bit less lonely. I venture out to see people a fair bit. I go to uni, talk to people, invite my good friends over…

And sometimes, alone time is great too. 8)

{:3}

I like to talk with other people, even if its a stranger! I learned how to talk to strangers here. Unknown people sending me a friend requests, and something like that :P

 

[Poki]

Hell yeah - I enjoy every second of it.

 

[Hannah]

I like being alone, but I don't like being lonely. There are also times when I like hanging around with big groups of people, but there are also times when I prefer small groups. I guess it all depends on my mood, I guess, or the people I'm with. I'm not really a social butterfly, though.