Wait wait wait wait wait - Washington D.C. isn't actually physically in Washington? Is that what you're saying?
Wouldn't it be better to argue that it doesn't matter if it's a choice because it's not hurting anyone and it's no one's business what your orientation is? If you say it's not a choice ever that's kind of like saying it has to be tolerated only because no one can help it, but if it were a choice it would be okay to persecute.As for Cynthia Nixon, I don't think she realises what she's done. I understand her point, but this is not an ideal world. We don't own the game yet, we're still playing it on the bigots' terms and whether she likes ceding the point to them or not, she's just given them a whole load of ammunition.
I can't understand that story cause you have every person listed as "my friend but not that friend the other friend", lol. You should give them fake names.
"especially at your age" . . . *blinks* Gawd, don't say that. It tends to bug me a lot because when people actually say that their like "oh, you're only thirteen, you still need to learn how to comprehend the most basic features of the world." RAGEFACE >:C I may be thirteen, but that doesn't mean I'm a "child" per se.
But only thirteen year olds say "Gawd"!It's not really directed at you per se. The majority of that age group has a lot of growing up to do. Not everyone at your age understands as much as you might, which is what I meant. Not you specifically, lol. Clearly you understand this kind of stuff, especially being a member of this club yourself. Your peers though, likely not so much.
Wouldn't it be better to argue that it doesn't matter if it's a choice because it's not hurting anyone and it's no one's business what your orientation is? If you say it's not a choice ever that's kind of like saying it has to be tolerated only because no one can help it, but if it were a choice it would be okay to persecute.
See, that's what I think part of the problem is. We've built the whole idea on the notion that no one can choose. It's a defensive stance. It reinforces the idea that only those things that are beyond people's control should be protected instead of using a better measure of things-that-don't-hurt-anyone should be protected. In general that's not a good way to look at the world. "It wasn't my choice" is not very far from "It wasn't my fault."Right, well this is exactly my point: in an ideal world, it wouldn't matter whether or not it was a choice. But as I said, this is not an ideal world. We live in a world full of all different kinds of people, and for some perverse reason all of these people - a fair portion of whom are bigots - have the power to vote on whether we get the rights we should never have been without. The bigots who would vote no do so because they're convinced this is something we chose for the sake of rebelling against God or their precious societal norms or whatever it is they think we wish to defy; and they think because we chose it we can un-choose it, and therefore we shouldn't get the same recognition until we do.
The only way we can combat this is by trying to convince them (as is true) that this is not something over which we ever had any power. And we have built a whole movement around this very premise. So for somebody to then come out and say "I did choose this" sends the public very mixed messages and undermines everything we're trying to do... and for what purpose? Arguing that it's none of their business and should be tolerated either way (while also very true) would just not be effective and come off self-righteous - especially since the proportion of people for whom it is a choice would be staggeringly small.
I mean, good for her - personally I don't care whether she chose to be gay or if she was born that way, but I think her coming out with it was rather pointless and detrimental... because the reality is that we live in a world where it does matter. I think, well-intentioned as it was, this was just really not a smart move. If we're ever going to get anywhere, we have to think pragmatically, not passionately.