Belldandy
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I just want to know what people think about some dating sites. There are popular ones i.e. eHarmony and Plenty of Fish, and there are many media-driven reports of it working for many people, but what I want to know is:
ღ Have you tried using a dating site to find friends, potential partners, a spouse or a significant other?
★ If you have tried a dating site, which one did you join and were you successful in your "goal"?
★ Similarly, what motivated you to try a dating site in the first place?
★ If you haven't tried a dating site, what factors have affected your decision not to try it out?
ღ Do you hold any prejudice against people who use dating sites? i.e. "Uncool," "Nerdy," "Losers," "Perverts"
ღ Did the perception of people in your social group positively or negatively affect your decision to try or not to try a dating site?
ღ Do you think dating sites are designed to attract "suckers" and simply prey on their desire for love or to be loved to earn money? Simply: Are these sites money-driven more than people-driven?
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Something that bothers me about eHarmony in particular are their ethics. It is very patriarch in that women should show how they can impress men, while men are encouraged to write anything they want about themselves; who cares? The women will just "flow" in. I can't remember where I read it - probably a magazine last year - but apparently that's what eHarmony discretely says in their biography section of the profile.
I'm currently on Plenty of Fish looking for friends / if that develops into a long-term relationship, that's good, too. So far, the majority of men who have seen my profile and have commented that they'd "want to meet me" (or whatever the equivalent is in English) have been perverted. Really drives prejudice against the online dating scene lol and makes me want to just try face-to-face and hope something happens because then there's no underlying "I'm here for it to happen." It just does. Plus, I probably won't have to shift through perverts like Eric Cartman on Chat Roulette.
If you don't get the reference, click here.
Then again, I've also met some nice people so far. One is way too addicted to videogames (Hey, I like Pokemon, too, but that's all he wants to talk about... Bummer). One is genuinely a nice individual who shares my anime interests. Another is an educated social marketer from Toronto with similar gaming interests among other things. That's three out of the many people who I've tried to talk to / who have contacted me.
Yet, I still feel somewhat foolish / stupid / embarassed to even be on a site like that because of the typical perception of "Haha! You can't find someone in real life; you have to date online. Haha!" so I feel ridiculed even though no one's actually pointing and laughing at me.
So I just want to know: What do you think of dating sites?
ღ Have you tried using a dating site to find friends, potential partners, a spouse or a significant other?
★ If you have tried a dating site, which one did you join and were you successful in your "goal"?
★ Similarly, what motivated you to try a dating site in the first place?
★ If you haven't tried a dating site, what factors have affected your decision not to try it out?
ღ Do you hold any prejudice against people who use dating sites? i.e. "Uncool," "Nerdy," "Losers," "Perverts"
ღ Did the perception of people in your social group positively or negatively affect your decision to try or not to try a dating site?
ღ Do you think dating sites are designed to attract "suckers" and simply prey on their desire for love or to be loved to earn money? Simply: Are these sites money-driven more than people-driven?
♫
Something that bothers me about eHarmony in particular are their ethics. It is very patriarch in that women should show how they can impress men, while men are encouraged to write anything they want about themselves; who cares? The women will just "flow" in. I can't remember where I read it - probably a magazine last year - but apparently that's what eHarmony discretely says in their biography section of the profile.
I'm currently on Plenty of Fish looking for friends / if that develops into a long-term relationship, that's good, too. So far, the majority of men who have seen my profile and have commented that they'd "want to meet me" (or whatever the equivalent is in English) have been perverted. Really drives prejudice against the online dating scene lol and makes me want to just try face-to-face and hope something happens because then there's no underlying "I'm here for it to happen." It just does. Plus, I probably won't have to shift through perverts like Eric Cartman on Chat Roulette.
Spoiler:
If you don't get the reference, click here.
Then again, I've also met some nice people so far. One is way too addicted to videogames (Hey, I like Pokemon, too, but that's all he wants to talk about... Bummer). One is genuinely a nice individual who shares my anime interests. Another is an educated social marketer from Toronto with similar gaming interests among other things. That's three out of the many people who I've tried to talk to / who have contacted me.
Yet, I still feel somewhat foolish / stupid / embarassed to even be on a site like that because of the typical perception of "Haha! You can't find someone in real life; you have to date online. Haha!" so I feel ridiculed even though no one's actually pointing and laughing at me.
Spoiler:
So I just want to know: What do you think of dating sites?