this is my favourite thread to ever exist
the only two areas where men face issues which could even be considered as sexist are parental custody lawsuits & female-on-male or man-on-man rape cases
and in both cases, the perceived sexism is a result of the society that men have built for themselves, a double edged sword
this 'sexism' is simply the patriarchy working in a way that does not suit men
for centuries, possibly even millennia, men have deemed that women are only fit for the kitchen and raising kids
and now, in modern times, this is working against them in parental custody lawsuits - more or less the only area in law which is not heavily favoured towards men
because women have for so long been typecast as the only being fit for raising kids, naturally there is going to be a bias towards them, the loving mother who gave up her life to raise the father's child
and for rape
well
blame the patriarchy again
female-on-male rape cases are treated as a joke because, thanks to age old thinking that man > women, a woman cannot be superior to a man
she cannot be physically stronger
as emotionally empty as a male rapist
it cannot be possible for a woman to take advantage of a man the same way that men have since the dawn of civilisation
tl;dr - sexism against men is not an issue
the patriarchy is
oh honey
feminist drivel
that exact phrase is why feminism exists
and if i gave off the impression that the issues that i outlined were not an issue then that is my fault
but i think that more attention should be paid to the far larger and much more wide reaching problems facing women today than 'sexism against men'
you people are so quick to throw around the idea of 'we need to be equal with everything!!!!' when it's men who are threatened
oh honey
feminist drivel
that exact phrase is why feminism exists
and if i gave off the impression that the issues that i outlined were not an issue then that is my fault
but i think that more attention should be paid to the far larger and much more wide reaching problems facing women today than 'sexism against men'
you people are so quick to throw around the idea of 'we need to be equal with everything!!!!' when it's men who are threatened
Yunno, this is why I miss communism. At least people had ideals worth fighting for. And the name of the game was solidarity, not finger-pointing.
Oh, lol I'm not even getting on that level. I was thinking how communism was like "here you go take all the rights you've been denied for millennia. Have fun!" As well the attitude of solidarity - except against the bourgeoisie, who were the enemy.
But men aren't the enemy in feminism, are they?
Woaw, woaw, woaw, WOAW.
You talk about sexism and then you bash an entire country? Talk about double standards here. I can confirm something and that is your view of Sweden is so scewed and wrong I can't even begin to correct it. You've got to be trolling or something.
Is this the "raging racism is okay, but smidgeons of sexism isn't" thread?
Correction: the only two areas you are aware of that men face that could be considered sexist are those two topics. Making such a broad, absolute statement as you just made is overreaching. Even if you were an expert on the topic of men's issues and studied and discussed it for years, there could well be issues some men face that would be outside of your knowledge. And discounting the validity of every other possible issue other than the ones you listed without so much as mentioning why you discount them does nothing to advance the discussion and merely unfairly trivializes men's issues.the only two areas where men face issues which could even be considered as sexist are parental custody lawsuits & female-on-male or man-on-man rape cases
Are you somehow suggesting that every single male in existence is part of some vast conspiracy to keep men in power at the expense of women? I guess I didn't get that memo. I certainly didn't "build" anything that is designed to treat people unfairly. Or are you saying that attitudes that have been around for thousands of years, since hunter-gatherer societies, attitudes that I myself argue against, are something that we are responsible for? That anything that happens as a result is our just rewards since we happened to be born male? Because that's even more absurd. And if you are saying we're responsible for perpetuating them, even if that is the case, it doesn't excuse the injustice being done.and in both cases, the perceived sexism is a result of the society that men have built for themselves, a double edged sword
this 'sexism' is simply the patriarchy working in a way that does not suit men
I'm not deeming that. Why are you holding me and others who take issue with the unfair treatment of men responsible for the attitudes of "society" any more than you hold yourself responsible? We're (or at least the people in the men's rights movement that I agree with) just trying to get fair treatment.for centuries, possibly even millennia, men have deemed that women are only fit for the kitchen and raising kids
I'm not sure what point you're making. That we "had it coming" because of attitudes that were around before any of us were even alive? I'm sorry, but that's outrageous.and now, in modern times, this is working against them in parental custody lawsuits - more or less the only area in law which is not heavily favoured towards men
because women have for so long been typecast as the only being fit for raising kids, naturally there is going to be a bias towards them, the loving mother who gave up her life to raise the father's child
I think I'll blame the rapists and not the vast male conspiracy to take and maintain power that doesn't exist.and for rape
well
blame the patriarchy again
The idea you are describing is not "the patriarchy," it is "masculinity." There is an attitude inherent in society that men must be and act "manly." This is a destructive attitude and should be argued against. There is also the (absolutely ridiculous) idea that men cannot withhold consent because "men always enjoy sex." This is downright stupid and should be labeled as such.female-on-male rape cases are treated as a joke because, thanks to age old thinking that man > women, a woman cannot be superior to a man
she cannot be physically stronger
as emotionally empty as a male rapist
it cannot be possible for a woman to take advantage of a man the same way that men have since the dawn of civilisation
Your argument as to why sexism is not an issue boils down to "only a few issues are valid" with no reason why all of the rest are invalid, and "men had the rest coming." There are plenty of legitimate problems men face in today's society (for instance, unfair bias in the legal system, including but not limited to parental custody issues). If there are some issues that men's rights advocates argue about that you think are non-issues, I can address these (men's rights advocacy is very disorganized and many people have conflicting beliefs, so it's quite possible that some issues you might be thinking of are things I also consider non-issues). As for "men had it coming," however you feel about the idea of "blaming the victim," I don't think it "excuses the perpetrator."tl;dr - sexism against men is not an issue
The idea of patriarchy isn't that men are in on some conspiracy, that men are actively discriminating against women or other men who don't fit the mold (though that does happen), but that the system as a whole is biased and usually benefits men (with the noted exceptions where it benefits women). It's not saying that you created this system, just that you are inside it and most likely benefiting from it if you're a man. That's an uncomfortable place to be in. You haven't chosen to discriminate against anyone, but you still get an unfair advantage most of the time. The accusation, I think, if there is an accusation, is that you are accepting these circumstances. I don't know if it's right or wrong to expect everyone to actively fight against the unfairness, but I think a denial of the unfairness comes off as complicity to those who see a biased system.
If that's the case, it's like I said. I never signed up for this and I sure as heck don't want it. I want to be treated fairly. When I'm applying for a job, I want to be judged on my merits. When I'm fighting in court, I want arguments to be judged on their content, not on who spoke them. I don't want (and actively speak out against) unfair bias of any kind, "beneficial" or not.The idea of patriarchy isn't that men are in on some conspiracy, that men are actively discriminating against women or other men who don't fit the mold (though that does happen), but that the system as a whole is biased and usually benefits men (with the noted exceptions where it benefits women). It's not saying that you created this system, just that you are inside it and most likely benefiting from it if you're a man. That's an uncomfortable place to be in. You haven't chosen to discriminate against anyone, but you still get an unfair advantage most of the time. The accusation, I think, if there is an accusation, is that you are accepting these circumstances. I don't know if it's right or wrong to expect everyone to actively fight against the unfairness, but I think a denial of the unfairness comes off as complicity to those who see a biased system.
The idea of patriarchy isn't that men are in on some conspiracy, that men are actively discriminating against women or other men who don't fit the mold (though that does happen), but that the system as a whole is biased and usually benefits men (with the noted exceptions where it benefits women). It's not saying that you created this system, just that you are inside it and most likely benefiting from it if you're a man. That's an uncomfortable place to be in. You haven't chosen to discriminate against anyone, but you still get an unfair advantage most of the time. The accusation, I think, if there is an accusation, is that you are accepting these circumstances. I don't know if it's right or wrong to expect everyone to actively fight against the unfairness, but I think a denial of the unfairness comes off as complicity to those who see a biased system.
I'm not quite sure where I was "finger pointing" if that's what you're saying. I specifically made use of language like "if there is an accusation", "I don't know if it's right or wrong", and "comes off as" since I was trying to stay relatively neutral and describe one view of things.First, more finger pointing, but also another common one. At least that's what I get from reading your post. "It's not your fault you have to do this, but you're a bad person for doing it" or better, "hate the sin and not the sinner." Again, the only reason the males have dominated this society is because the majority of the women have, and still do, allow them too.
I think what I was trying to say is that there is, within the worldview that accepts patriarchy as something that exists, an argument of complicity by inaction. A kind of state where one thinks "I don't like this system" but still plays along with it. So perhaps then one would say that a person who is complicit would have a skewed perspective, or at least a perspective in which we should note where it's coming from.But Scarf, that viewpoint is the "check your privilege" tumblr nonsense I was referring to. Our perspective is automatically considered skewed or discounted because society wishes to offer us an advantage, regardless of whether we accept it or not?
It may suggest that, but if you talk with people about it it's not so clearly the kind of "men are bad, they get everything" view the name suggests, if it does suggest that.Patriarchy is a loaded term because it suggests everything is in favour of men and no one else, which is just such a wrong perspective to have. Everyone is mistreated in different ways for different things, it doesn't matter who has it worse...how does that help solve or address anything? All it does instead is trivialise the struggles of anyone who isn't female when in reality we all deal with them.
I think by definition you can't discriminate against everyone because discrimination is about taking one section of something (or one group of people) and treating them differently. Yes, everyone has problems, but not all problems are discrimination. Or rather, not all problems are systematic discrimination based on your belonging to a group.We're not a "patriarchy", we are a broken society riddled with archaic ideas that discriminate against us all. This needs to change to make us as a society of human beings -- not "men" and "women" -- better.