I have a legit-ish question.
I've been dating this woman for some time. After it was a decent amount of time, I decided to tell my best friend of ten years that I was dating a woman. I had come out t o him before, but this is the first time I've told him I was actively dating someone and was very serious. He took it very well. Honestly, he says he doesn't care, and actually asks about how things are going with her.
Anywho, this stuff lead to a discussion of sorts. Technically, as I've said here, I'm bi-romantic, with a slight preference towards women. I've dated men before, and this brought up some questions from him. He actually asked if it was like a switch in my head or something. I wacked him in the head with a pen for that question, mainly because I was too dumbstruck to even think of an answer.
He did mention something though, I asked him what if he dated a bi woman, and she got a crush on another girl, what would he think. He laughed and asked if it was serious or not, nd I said whatever. The answer he gave was, "I'd be more pissed off if I didn't get to watch."
Thing is... I've heard this before. From many guys, even guys I've dated and mentioned I was bi...
Someone please explain this. I mean I get it. I'm not stupid... but why?
Oh, and hi guys and stuff. I am alive. :3
Hay gurl wuz goin awwn~ (
tl;dr below ramble)
So. I think the problem stems from many many
many other issues with society. One in particular is the male dominance order--not every guy is part of this though, and I personally know
many some a few a coupe of guys who aren't--and I admit to being part of this, sadly (;~;). We think we need to prove to each other (and possibly prospective mates) that we are, in fact, better than each other; and it usually either happens super subtly or super blatantly. It just happens. Most of us don't even think about what we say when we are in this "competition" state. It's our basic animal instincts kicking in, and it's present in almost every single society in the animal kingdom.
Another basis for this is the huge double standard that man sexy=cool bro, while woman sexy=oh no not acceptable she's a hooker; and the inverse for
finding people attractive is true; it's always cool to find women attractive, but it's never cool to find men attractive, sometimes even repulsive. It's the objectification of women deep-rooted in culture, as well as the idolizing of men that has been/is such a big part of society. For the longest time, in many cultures, women were objects and undervalued, and men were their superiors. And so it's kind of the same thing as talking about how nice a car is. Or at least is my interpretation. Let's compare, actually.
"Oh, I watched (female) so and so do x, y, and z with (female) so and so. It was so awesome~"
"Oh, my uncle let me drive his new Ferrari around the block. It was so awesome~"
Also, it could just be one's desire to express one's feelings for the beautimous act that is (fe)male-(fe)male sexual relations (drop perentheses-ed portions as needed).
tl;dr: I talk about how it's all an instinctual food chain thing/residual thing from our (earlier days of) male supremacy and female objectification. Pretty boring. I'm too smart. :p