I've only been in one relationship that I was really invested in and when she broke up with me, it was about as bad as it could have been. I was shaken up pretty badly by it and the aftermath didn't help. I was in rough shape for a while and it stayed with me to some degree even for a couple of years afterward. That relationship started around Christmas of '07 and ended the day after Christmas of '08. I probably didn't really get over it completely until two or three years later. I think that experience really shattered my naivete on the topic of love, which I think is part of growing up. Even with how bad that turned out, though, looking back on it, I think it was a good experience. The year I had was one of my best, for sure; that's why it hurt so much when I lost it.
I've tried my hand at a few more relationships since then, but I was never really invested in any of them and nothing ever really came of them, we just kind of stopped talking in every case. I guess I was never really that close to any of those women to begin with. It's a bit sad for me because I really like romance and love and I remember how happy I was when I was in that one relationship. I really wanted to recapture that feeling I once had and so I wanted to care about those relationships, I just... didn't. There's not much you can do if you find out neither of you is really interested in keeping the relationship alive.
I do miss it, but that's just how it is. It's not as though I'm unhappy. I would still love to experience that feeling once again, and it obviously makes me sad that I've had no luck so far, but it's not the end of the world. My life is pretty good and I cope with being single pretty well. It's just, it would be nice to be really and truly in love again.
There's the old cliched adage that it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I think I would agree with that in the long term. Short term, though, it really does feel like the end of the world. Unless you consider yourself weak-willed, though, I wouldn't avoid a relationship just because you're afraid it might not work out. It's always worth it to try. Now, if only I could follow my own advice.