I think that we do make an assumption as gay males that other gay males are promiscuous, but we have every reason to believe so, even though it may not true.
Okay, so let's look at long-term heterosexual couples. Where do these couples meet? At work, school, church, a small party (introduced by friends) or the grocery store? Gay men can meet under similar circumstances; however, this happens significantly less than heterosexual couples simply because there are more heterosexual people, and it is not always a good idea to act on intuition and flirt with a person of the same sex if you are not positive about their sexuality.
Conversely, short-term heterosexual couples meet at bars, clubs, and large-scale parties. Short-term homosexual couples also meet in these types of settings.
The locations are no different, however the opportunities are different between sexual orientations.
I'd say meeting people through a friend's introduction is probably the best way to do so. But, for myself, I am going to wait to start dating again when I move to downstate where there is a larger population; if you live in a relatively less populated area, the pickin's are slim, and I am not going to settle.
I have a question:
Is it every acceptable to out someone else prematurely?
For me, the answer is no. No matter how bad of a person they may be, no matter how homophobic they may be, it is never okay to out someone else.
I would definitely say that it is not right to out someone. Although, I do admit to outing this guy that would argue with me in class about homosexuality. I only did so because he went up to me and asked I wanted to have sex with him, and then he put he put his hands down my pants. I shoved him back and told him to leave, and told one of his friends what happened. Apparently he is really popular at the college, like REALLY popular, so I kinda started World War 3, but ultimately it was his decision. If I grabbed some straight guy's package, I would expect my reputation to tarnish as well! lol
But...under MOST circumstances, I would not do that to someone.