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First off I should preface this by saying that I completely understand not wanting to be around too much negativity. Other than that though I can't think of many reasons to resent people for talking about their problems, unless you're being forced to listen to someone speak about their issues ad nauseam.
I just hate it when people say "we all got shit to deal with" in an effort to stop others from opening up about their own problems. Someone venting about something that's troubling them isn't equivalent to them comparing their issues to others, let alone putting their issues above those of others. I'm sure some people do dramatize their issues and act like they have a greater burden to carry than everyone else around them. I know I have to keep my whining to a minimum otherwise I'm insufferable to be around. Some people genuinely want to get better though and they feel that opening up could lead to the help they need. Sometimes a hug from someone who cares can do more than a script from a doctor.
Another point I often hear against venting is that it's a form of attention seeking. Well yeah maybe some people do want attention and consolation for whatever is troubling them. What's inherently wrong with that? Is it preventing you from opening up and receiving attention, consolation, advice or comfort yourself? Even if nobody can help you with the issue at hand, simply being heard out by a sympathetic ear can go a long way. Why should people be expected to save their drama for their stone-faced, monotone therapists and keep things relatively light with almost everyone else in their life? It's not like you have to befriend someone who is too "whiny" for your sensibilities. Again I can think of cases where it would get annoying, especially if you thought they were constantly complaining about petty things. I just think that generally speaking, society is too harsh on those who vent.
I know I'm all over the place here so this is most likely a poorly constructed OP. The title asks the main question anyway so hopefully some discussion can come of this.
tl;dr just read the thread title and ignore my rambling bullshit lol.
I just hate it when people say "we all got shit to deal with" in an effort to stop others from opening up about their own problems. Someone venting about something that's troubling them isn't equivalent to them comparing their issues to others, let alone putting their issues above those of others. I'm sure some people do dramatize their issues and act like they have a greater burden to carry than everyone else around them. I know I have to keep my whining to a minimum otherwise I'm insufferable to be around. Some people genuinely want to get better though and they feel that opening up could lead to the help they need. Sometimes a hug from someone who cares can do more than a script from a doctor.
Another point I often hear against venting is that it's a form of attention seeking. Well yeah maybe some people do want attention and consolation for whatever is troubling them. What's inherently wrong with that? Is it preventing you from opening up and receiving attention, consolation, advice or comfort yourself? Even if nobody can help you with the issue at hand, simply being heard out by a sympathetic ear can go a long way. Why should people be expected to save their drama for their stone-faced, monotone therapists and keep things relatively light with almost everyone else in their life? It's not like you have to befriend someone who is too "whiny" for your sensibilities. Again I can think of cases where it would get annoying, especially if you thought they were constantly complaining about petty things. I just think that generally speaking, society is too harsh on those who vent.
I know I'm all over the place here so this is most likely a poorly constructed OP. The title asks the main question anyway so hopefully some discussion can come of this.
tl;dr just read the thread title and ignore my rambling bullshit lol.
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