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shenanigans
August 19th, 2011, 09:18 AM
Are you a very trusting person? How easy do you find it to place trust in people? Are there particular things you'll look for in a person before you place any trust in them, or do you just wait until you consider them a friend? How long does it normally take for you to trust people?

And another thing, once you trust someone, how easy is it for them to break that trust? What sort of things would they have to do?

Saryka
August 19th, 2011, 10:16 AM
I half-joke with my friends that I have a "Circle of Trust," and in order to be in that circle, one has to go through rigorous, painful, death-defying trials. In all honesty, though, I don't trust people very easily at all and it takes a long time for me to start trusting anybody. Since I'm not so ready to trust people, it's quite easy to break the trust as well.

Kevin
August 19th, 2011, 10:24 AM
Noo I don't like trusting people that much. Especially the gossips (although I wouldn't tel 'em anyway).

It might take a week, or it might take a year to trust people. It depends who it is to be honest.

Captain Hobo.
August 19th, 2011, 12:29 PM
I do not find it easy to trust people. I have to know you for along and time and be really tight with to trust you.

Vital
August 19th, 2011, 02:48 PM
I'm very trusting, to the point where it backfires on me. >> I get so many pranks played on me... but it's all in fun. =D I'm also a trustable person, I can keep secrets and all that other stuff.

PlatinumDude
August 19th, 2011, 03:05 PM
I don't really look for anything else in a person before I trust them; I just look to see if they're nice. It takes me a few minutes to trust someone. Once I trust someone, I don't think I'd find it easy to break it.

Katholic Nun
August 19th, 2011, 04:29 PM
I generally give people the benefit of the doubt, so I tend to trust people until they give me a reason not to. That doesn't mean I'll go trusting any random fool though - you can generally tell whether someone's an upstanding, trustworthy sort of person.

Nothing much fazes me when it comes to this, since I don't have many secrets or anything juicy enough to trust people with, but generally if I find out someone has been talking behind my back, that's reason enough not to trust them.

Naruto Uzumaki
August 19th, 2011, 06:07 PM
Far from a trusting person. I'll only trust someone if I've known them for quite a long time and if they've proven trustworthy. Most of the time the person in question who I think is trust worthy, isn't. I'm slowly giving up on humanity.

Mariah Carey
August 19th, 2011, 08:14 PM
It takes a lot for me to trust someone. The 'Circle of Trust' in the Meet the Parents/Meet the Fockers movies was totally based on me and my system of trusting people.
I've always been wary of letting people into my life, never wanting to feel the hurt that comes if someone you trust lets you down, because it hurts a lot. I just want to have a good circle of people who I know I can rely on or cry on their shoulder.

marz
August 19th, 2011, 08:27 PM
I used to be a very trusting person, back when I was innocent and naive. Now it's much harder for me to trust them. I'd only confide in someone I consider a real friend. But it's interesting because I only really consider someone a true friend after I start confiding in them. So in the end, I never expect to be able to trust someone, if it happens it happens. Most of the time it doesn't lol.

Uhh, it's pretty easy. I mean, telling one person is usually enough. I can make exceptions if it's someone they really trust, but then where do you draw the line. If you make an exception each time, before you know it, everyone knows.

Jak
August 19th, 2011, 08:43 PM
Almost everyone that had all my trust in them back stabbed me and/or let me down in a horrible way. I don't trust a lot of people completely now. It's just difficult, and usually goes to waste.

2Cool4Mewtwo
August 19th, 2011, 09:27 PM
I try to be a trustworthy person myself, but no, I don't think I have much trust for others. Over the years I've learned not to be a gullible person and I can definitely at least sense liars that try to lie/goad me.

Patatas Fritas
August 20th, 2011, 03:16 AM
I'm probably too trusting. It's ridiculously easy to gain my trust and hard to break it. I guess I'm one of those people who believes everyone is inherently good and if I tell them something important they're not going to go spreading it around.
It has happened fairly recently though and it was quite a major thing told to a lot of people I don't really know, and didn't want to know this. His reasoning behind it though just means I'm not going to tell him stuff anymore because if he's going to tell people saying they "have a right to know" then he's clearly not trustworthy.

I guess because I haven't really had anyone do anything trustbreak worthy I find it easy to trust people. If I've known them longer I'll normally trust them more but there are certain people who after a matter of days I could be spilling my life out too them just because they have a good personality and come across as being a trustworthy person.

Elite Overlord LeSabre™
August 20th, 2011, 04:14 AM
For me, I'm usually trusting of people unless I've seen evidence that shows otherwise, like them backstabbing others. This has come back to bite me on a couple occasions, as one "friend" ended up plagiarizing a written work of mine, and another just starting treating me like a lower life form soon after I became a member of his web site.

Once one loses my trust, they don't get it back. Plain and simple. I don't forgive and I don't forget. If someone does me wrong, that's it. I am through dealing with them, and nothing short of $250,000 will win me back :P

QuilavaKing
August 20th, 2011, 10:47 AM
I used to be far less trusting than I am now, but I still won't trust you unless you give me a reason to do so.

Mr Cat Dog
August 21st, 2011, 01:24 AM
With people I'm meeting for the first time, I'm always way to wary of them for my own good. Instead of letting my guard down and opening up, I'll always keep something back in case I don't end up liking them or they end up not liking me or other such stuff.

With good friends, on the other hand, I'm very open and honest and trusting with them: mainly because I've known them for so long and we haven't pissed each other off completely as of yet! My good friends I'd trust with my life, so that's something good at least...

~*!*~Tatsujin Gosuto~*!*~
August 21st, 2011, 04:12 AM
Are you a very trusting person?
Not really

How easy do you find it to place trust in people?
Not that easy since most people can not be trusted

Are there particular things you'll look for in a person before you place any trust in them, or do you just wait until you consider them a friend?
I just wait until I consider them as a friend


How long does it normally take for you to trust people?
Like a month or two

And another thing, once you trust someone, how easy is it for them to break that trust?
Well it depends on the person and the thing that they have done because it all various

What sort of things would they have to do?
Well for starters lie


:t354:TG

Mew~
August 21st, 2011, 11:14 AM
I can find myself forgiving people, but it'll also have to depend on what they did.

Arago
August 21st, 2011, 03:58 PM
I'm very trusting. I have a tendency to see the best in people, even those who have done me wrong or who have lost my trust at some point or another. I tend to trust someone immediately after meeting until they give me reason not to. I forgive and at some points forget (though that's my memory there!) things that have caused me to become weary of someone's trustfulness very quickly. I believe the only thing I won't place trust in someone is if they've taken the life of someone else.

I consider this a flaw in my character, right there with being too forgiven and being too nice.

miju-kun
August 25th, 2011, 05:26 AM
To trust people, it takes weeks until I trust them. However, I don't trust that many people; I only trust people who are very close to me. But however, don't tell me a secret because I'll spread it. There was one time, I read my classmate's diary, told my other classmate about what was written on it O_o, it's a good thing the diary owner didn't know about it XD

The Sly Fox
August 25th, 2011, 08:46 AM
I don't trust a lot of people, mainly because the people that I do end up trusting always let me down somehow. Because of that, its just hard for me to trust people.

Truality
August 25th, 2011, 12:10 PM
I trust people, and in return, I'm trusted. Sure, I had a few backstabs myself but I always believed that these people who break others' trust will just learn their lesson someday. It's not easy to trust people nowadays, I admit it. But to me it seems like not showing trust is bigger of a blunder than to show it and-most of the time-create bonds with it.

Oh, and people stealing your work doesn't have anything to do with trust. It has to do with need. Even if it's the need to humiliate me and rank up themselves. I'm that supid of a person.

SeekerOfDarkness
August 25th, 2011, 04:49 PM
I don't trust anyone or anything, including myself. I've been stabbed and laughed at a lot in the past, and I've come to expect it now.

*Firestar*
August 25th, 2011, 05:43 PM
Trust is quite hard to earn with me, since in my life, I've had it broken too many times. I now have to really get to know someone before I can trust them, however, if I don't know a good reason not to trust them (Yes, I do use my own judgment of peoples appearances too sometimes to help make this decision n__n) then I would generally trust them to a certain extent. My trust goes someway, but not that far unless I really am close to you. So yeah, that's me n__n

Pokemon Trainer Touko
August 26th, 2011, 08:09 AM
I don't really like trusting people because... I just don't! But I really trust my friends lol.

Sammi
August 26th, 2011, 01:32 PM
For the most part, I'm trusting of the people I know. Or, at least, I try to be as trusting as possible, considering that I'm a paranoid person. I'd like to think I'm still pretty good about it though. Maybe.

Strangers, though? Less so, but I still try.

Shiny Celebi
September 3rd, 2011, 11:05 AM
I used to trust people, but some people did things to me to make me lose that trust. Now its hard for me to trust anybody. You have to earn my trust. I try my very hardest to be a trustworthy person though. If someone tells me a secret, I keep it, if I make a promise, I try very very hard not to break that promise, but sometimes I mess up. I want people to trust me because Id never do anything bad on purpose.

Ayselipera
September 3rd, 2011, 11:14 AM
Well when I was younger I was very naive and trusted everyone, but then found out the hard way not everyone is trustworthy! So since then I pretty much just have a no trust policy and go about not trusting anyone. So because of that I rarely tell anyone any kind of secrets of mine which has lead people to mark me as "sketchy" and assume a bunch of crazy and untrue things. I honestly find them hilarious though just because they things people have come and said to me are just bizarre. Anyways, I don't think I have complete trust in anyone, but there are a few people who I guess you could say I'm more comfortable with. Although literally all they would have to do is break my trust once for me to then group them with everyone else as untrustworthy.

Gold warehouse
September 3rd, 2011, 12:56 PM
Trust no one, never get disappointed yayay

Yoshikkko
September 3rd, 2011, 01:23 PM
Just like Ayselipera, I was a little naive and too gullible and trusting as well when I was 'younger' (I'm still a little young, but hey), and it really teaches you that not everyone has right intentions, even if you know them well. I was bullied very bad when I was younger (emotionally, not physically), and that also contributed. Not so much with just random people - also a little -, but more with people in school, that are being nice to you for no reason. If I can't find a reason for why someone in school is being nice to me, or is doing something to me, I get the feeling they are setting me up or trying to play a joke on me, or mocking me, because that always happened when I was younger. Also, I get the feeling that people are lying to me, when for example they tell me that I look nice. I ignore that feeling because I know it probably isn't true, but it's still there and I do notice it.