Kura
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For those who are willing to read something long and drawn out and are willing to post an opinion or help us come to a compromise. It basically was ALSO a result of Pachy's blogs when in the comments, I felt weird addressing Skye, plus the recent thread (here: http://www.pokecommunity.com/showthread.php?t=239709 ) I made trying to understand men who like to dress femininely- since, because I'm not in that situation, I can't really understand it.
P.S. Please read the next blog entry and post your comment there, this is just the first part divided into two because of the word-limit:
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It's a LITTLE heated on both sides.. but I don't want this to result in hurt feelings at the end of all of this, so please read the next entry and help us out. Maybe we're both a little stubborn lol.. but I think it's cause we have such strong beliefs. I think we're trying to respect each other but out heads and hearts are going against each other.. so maybe someone can help us see the light.
P.S. Please read the next blog entry and post your comment there, this is just the first part divided into two because of the word-limit:
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Kura said:Pachy said:Kura said:Pachy said:Kura said:Pachy said:*shrug* We may never see quite eye-to-eye on that topic, mostly because you've had schooling in the profession and are prone to just stick a neat little latin label on things that you really don't have all the information on.Kura said:Pachy said:http://www.pokecommunity.com/blog.php?b=9442
Blogged original post in that thread you mentioned. xD
I like to back-blog like that sometimes especially to avoid spamming up the list with crap no one needs to see. Anyways, I hope that post clarifies things for you.
Okay. I replied to both you and Erik though haha...
It clarified a little.. I'm getting there.. but some things I still can't find an answer for.. because they're basically debatable.. ._. like.. person-to-person thing..
That being said at least I can generally tell you're trying to be friendly and that counts a lot more than how annoying that label pasting is.
Well I don't mean to. If that's what I've grown up with then obviously I'll have a natural prejudice.. but what's wrong with trying to understand the other side of the story? If there's something I still don't get then I'll say it. I'm sure there are some people that feel the same way as me as there are people who feel the same way as you.
It's not a crime, but you can't expect to get away with ignoring her and not piss half of me off...which makes dealing with you a tad harder because I've got to let that side air it's grievances and clear the air in that side before speaking. Still, if you are prejudiced, admit it and move on. Make an honest attempt to get over that is recognizable and I can respond better. Sometimes the tone I perceive from you isn't all to kind despite the wording. Maybe it's the inherent armor I'm still not done shedding or maybe there is something about you that you haven't told me yet, but in either case I'd like to clear it up, because otherwise you seem like a decent person with a willingness to compromise once the the air is clear.
I think you're still forgetting that even if I am prejudice, you're still disrespecting my opinion of you. You're basically saying that unless I admit my own personal flaw to you (which is technically none of your business) that you wont treat me respectably.. and I feel that that doesn't make you any better...
I don't see that you make it a point to know my metalhead side of me (heck maybe you're not even aware that I like metal music,) and why should you if that's not of interest to you- but liking a certain type of music is as much a part of me as any other aspect. Should I feel "pissed off" as you do? No, I don't think dealing with you is harder just because you refuse to acknowledge this part of you- and that's why I feel the same way regarding you.
And the funny thing about the internet, is that you can't perceive tone. So really, if you feel like I'm attacking you, maybe sometimes you need to realize that it just might be your interpretation. And also, in that case, perhaps you should ASK me if that's my intention so we may be able to clear up any disputes maturely.
Sometimes I feel like "Willingness to compromise" basically means "willingness to eventually make you accept Skye and address her" which is not a compromise if that's not my belief. If you're willing to work towards a new compromise then I'm all for it. I know at least I have stopped telling you not to use Skye altogether, which I believe is in your favour, and I feel like you should recognize my attempt to treat you more maturely and let you sustain your own beliefs.
I had only made mention to it at first because I didn't want others to patronize you- which they HAVE but now I guess you just ignore or delete them.
But now that you're fine with that, you can see I am not pressing you to get rid of Skye, and I only had asked you a question about how you and her both function earlier.
Though I don't tell you to chance, I still do feel awkward around her. Just like maybe a friend who has a friend who smokes pot may feel awkward if they were around them while they were smoking up. It doesn't mean they'll stop being friends, but I'm sure the friend who didn't smoke would appreciate it if their pot-smoking-friend would smoke up less around them. It's just being considerate.
This is basically what I am saying to you, and I hope you can respect that.
Hmm you were quick to spill something that's totally unrelated and immaterial to the issue at hand. That's...odd. Tastes in music are the last thing on my mind anyways.
Liking metal music isn't a flaw. o.o
But anyways, the analogy you're using is rather indicative of what I suspected. You seem to have some fundamental incompatibility with Skye, which neither of us understand quite why. That is what I've been alluding to. If that is indeed the case, then it must be immediately resolved, or a compromise reached where resolution is favored if you wish to maintain clearance to air your opinion on that matter.
Regardless, I do not meet any sort of prejudice with any sort of respect. I'm sorry, but I am incapable of tolerating prejudice without tangible effort to reverse the prejudice. I feel that part of that is admitting what about her you dislike. I suggest that if you are not ready to do that, you should merely be silent, and refrain from commenting upon my blog with that attitude. My patience wears thin and I only yield to compromise as much as the opposing party does...until the meeting in the middle occurs. I'd rather not draw a line in the sand, but if I must do so, I will.
I'm sorry, are you saying that my tastes and what makes me have the personality that I do is not as important as your femininity? It's not unrelated, I was making an association to your issue.
Dislike? The fact that I feel that you're feigning a personality. If you want to bring your feminine side out, then just do it. You don't need an alias to annotate it for you. That's the big issue.
I feel like you've manufactured this persona just to help you keep in terms of your femininity. Just do it. I know plenty of people who exhibit a MUCH more feminine side of themselves than you. I know people who fully crossdress, but they don't have a persona that comes across when they do. Yes, they give themselves a female name, but if I say "Hey Boris, you have a beautiful dress" he will say "Thank you" not "Address me with my female name." He understands that I'm addressing him.. so I don't know what your problem is.
If your patience is running so thin, then don't talk to me anymore. It's not worth talking to you if you're not going to take away your prejudice towards ME.
ASSOCIATION THAT IS RELATED:
>_> You're being like a bible bumper/ Jehova's Witness. Just because I don't believe in a certain God doesn't mean you should push your beliefs on me. Okay, I accept that you like to have Skye as part of you just like any other respectable person would respect someone's religious belief as them having their God be part of them. But I'm not going to go around saying "Oh my Allah!" or "What does The True Saviour Jesus Christ say about this situation, Tommy?" if I don't believe in it.
So why, Pachy, should I address Skye if you're completely capable of telling me about your femininity?
That's my problem.
But honestly, if you don't care to talk to me anymore, it's not a loss for me. Obviously you don't care to respect my opinion or the opinion of others' like mine, since you just delete them. So why should I bother if you only care to listen to the things that you agree with, just like a child doesn't want to listen to his mommy when she tells him to clean his room but listens when pizza is for dinner..
Grow up.
[TO BE CONTINUED ON NEXT BLOG]
It's a LITTLE heated on both sides.. but I don't want this to result in hurt feelings at the end of all of this, so please read the next entry and help us out. Maybe we're both a little stubborn lol.. but I think it's cause we have such strong beliefs. I think we're trying to respect each other but out heads and hearts are going against each other.. so maybe someone can help us see the light.