Blatantly refusing to acknowledge any of my points lol, you do you. Not really how a debate works, though.
And literally going out of your way to be outwardly rude in your response is how a debate works? As soon as you posted, it stopped being a debate. But this seems better.
It is a real shame, which is why many feminists address it.
I get the idea.
I personally do not know any feminists who claim that women need to be saved from "the big nasty man." It's more of a societal issue, and what is considered the norm and what is and is not accepted. There are a few extremists who may ignorantly accuse men as a whole and not the entire workings of society, just like there are men who ignorantly accuse women for many problems in the same regard.
Unfortunately, feminism is plagued by those people. I do not see a place for feminism in society because I see inequalities on both sides and I find it rather sexist to have one ideology specifically dealing with one gender as if the other is less important.
And no, I do not believe feminism is concerned with men's issues. You might be, but that doesn't mean feminism is.
Basically, yes, but also no. Men who have ingrained values and ideologies would be more difficult to change their views. Teaching young boys the importance of body autonomy, respect, and not instilling backwards views and beliefs is a very effective first step, however.
We should do the same with girls though, right? Is it not important to teach girls to respect men as equals rather than their butlers who will spend their lives opening doors for them, pulling their chairs out, and going out to work and make a living for them?
That is incorrect, it is not a matter of black and white, man vs woman, etc. It is much more complex and interwoven.
Maybe for you. We're talking about feminism though, and many feminist groups do find themselves in that place with that delusion. Just because you're better doesn't mean feminism is better. It's still an ideology about women's rights at the end of the day.
Being the target of stalking and domestic abuse is indeed an inequality that women face, as I already linked in my previous post. As I already stated as well, it does not negate the fact that men are targets, but women have a disproportionately higher risk of being targets. That is inequality, that is the issue. As I've already stated.
Yes, women suffer a disproportionately higher risk of suffering from domestic abuse and whatnot. However, is that a gender issue caused by sexism?
Think of it this way. Most relationships consist of one man and one woman. And in most relationships, that man is stronger and more prone to becoming aggressive. That's just something that's coded in his DNA. Women don't suffer more domestic violence because men are sexist and don't like women. Thus, it is not a gender issue.
It would be nice if you could specify what part of men's rights you are talking about, because like I said, they are very interwoven. I've already mentioned the issue about women's favor in court regarding custody, the high ratio of men in the army, etc. I would greatly appreciate if you could educate me on some more issues that men specifically face, since I am a woman and I don't have the first-hand experience and knowledge about it.
- Why does breast cancer receive 5 times the amount of funding of prostate cancer? They both affect roughly the same number of people.
- Why do women often get off with lighter sentences than men for the same crime?
- Why do men tend to receive less visitation rights for their children? Why do women seem to gain child custody so often? Just because they're women?
- Why do women have to meet less physical standards than men when going into the same jobs?
- Why are men often expected to be the ones making the money?
- Why do some women use their sexuality to empower themselves or play victim of sexual harassment? It's a double standard. If they're trying to use it to get somewhere in the world, it's great. Otherwise it's objectification.
- Men can't take advantage of sexuality like that. They'd be laughed at. Only in the media does that ever work.
- Why do men feel they can never report sexual harassment or rape because it makes them 'less of men'? In fact, why do so many men care so much about being 'manly'?
There is nothing wrong with addressing issues in society with children, when they are a target of it. Not to completely derail, but even Rugrats nails it when Angelica's mother is talking about her and says, "if Angelica is ever going to make it in a male-dominated power structure, she's got to eat, breathe, drink and sweat self-esteem."
Nothing wrong with a healthy dose of self-esteem and self-awareness, especially in young girls who are the susceptible targets of much malicious media, marketing and advertising, etc. The approach that "men are evil" is unnecessary, crude, and plain ignorant, but I am absolutely in favor of teaching young girls the reality of Western culture and instilling a strong sense of self-esteem.
It sounds like you're saying 'calling it "men are evil" is a bit crude and a nasty way to put it, but yes'. You don't like my wording, but you're basically agreeing with what I'm saying in that that's what happens. But I don't think we need to instill a strong sense of self-esteem in girls specifically. Everybody needs that. Boys face gender stereotypes too and they should be taught it's okay to be afraid, okay to cry, and okay to talk to people close to you about any and all problems, no matter how 'un-manly' they might think it makes them.
Sorry, what? There's something wrong with teaching boys to be nice to poor underprivileged girls? Excuse me? I don't think I'm understanding your point very well because that is just a very outlandish statement, even after reading the context with Noa's original comment.
By 'poor underprivileged girls' I mean normal girls with a dash of feminist claims of oppression. If you didn't get that, my bad.
I'd agree you're putting too much faith into the Google definition. It is a very intricate and wide-scale movement that cannot be reduced to a simple Google definition.
I don't see why you'd want to call anything more complex than 'fighting for women's rights for gender equality'
feminism.
I do not agree with oppression. Women are not oppressed, but there is absolutely an imbalance in power and other sociological aspects that require the movement in modern times.
See my bulleted list above.
Sure, the name is dated. That does not necessarily mean outdated. I disagree, it encourages exactly what society needs in relation to gender issues.
See my bulleted list above.
There is a lot of cause and effect in feminism that is very beneficial to men, as I've already stated in my previous post. Women accepting responsibility and insight that they are not perfect, and they can be rapists or abusers, opens up the path to acceptance that men are victims of domestic violence. Women accepting that they are not all meant to be maternal figures and accepting that in a lot of cases, the father is the best parent for custody, is beneficial to men. Women taking up responsibility for their country and enlisting in the army, where a very sadly huge number of men are killed every year, also helps out men. Feminism is about empowering women and allowing them to step up and allow themselves to take blame - while staying empowered and confident. Feminism struggles to achieve a balance of power and sacrifice in women. It's difficult, but that's why it's necessary.
Then, why disagree with it when you openly acknowledge that it is beneficial to you? That seems counterproductive.
The point I was trying to make was that it helps in some ways and I agree with it in many cases of gender inequality, but overarchingly I disagree with it on a core level. Like, Hitler did a lot of really awesome things for the German people, and a lot of them thought life was pretty great at the time. If I lived in Nazi Germany after the massive depression Hitler got the Germans out of, I'd probably love Hitler too. That doesn't mean Hitler was a great guy or I
should have loved Hitler, even though if I was a German at the time, my life would have been better overall.
Now, I am not at all trying to say Feminism is anything like the Nazis or Hitler. Perhaps that response may be triggered by the 'feminazi' nonsense. But that's not what I mean at all, I'm just trying to make a comparison to prove that something can benefit me in some ways, but I can disagree with it overall. It has nothing to do with the fact that the Nazis were super evil and therefore feminism is just as evil or anything like that. Just making sure I get the right idea across.
You say that feminism succeeding would help me, but there are lots of different feminists with different opinions. If Anita Sarkeesian's feminism was the one that came to pass, that would kind of suck.
As Noa mentioned before, hypermasculinity is a very real and very serious problem in society. It ties in with feminism. It's a very complex system that deserves to be understood.
Not sure where this ties in with anything I said, maybe it's just a closing note you wanted to add in. Yes, hypermasculinity sucks. We should go ahead and sort that out. I don't think we need feminism specifically to sort out men's issues though, I still prefer the name egalitarianism.
Do you really think that it's feminism that is letting this happen? Personally I think that the reason men are laughed at, not taken seriously when raped is because of toxic masculinity. Like I mentioned before, men are expected by their peers to enjoy and want sex, so the concept of them rejecting sexual advances is "weird", as barbaric as it may seem.
If you talk to other feminists, we don't think women are "victims" I think they're quite strong, actually, to be continuously fighting against subtle and outright misogyny in society.
That may also be a factor. I do, however, honestly believe that feminism plays a role. Stereotypes purport that men are the oppressors and women are the oppressed. Feminism spends so much time complaining about women being raped it does not stop to fight this idea. It seems to embrace stereotypes where it suits the agenda. But then, I'm not a feminist, so do correct me.
Why not though? I think it would be great if feminists banded together with schools to encourage young girls to take an interest in STEM.
I don't know when the last time you visited a modern school was, but boys and girls are encouraged equally to take interest in STEM fields. This isn't the early 20th century, nobody is sending the girls off to cooking.
I know it's not as simple as "teach men not to rape" because men who rape are already in a certain mindset.
I'll repeat what I said in another response: Oh, no, I definitely am aware that we live in an imperfect world and rape will never, ever go away.
But that doesn't mean we can still do our best to prevent it. That includes teaching children to respect people's personal space, learn when no means no, NEVER excusing bad behavior with "boys will be boys", "she was asking for it" etc.
And of course, this also means learning to properly defend oneself.
Why don't you include any messages for girls there? Why don't you talk about female rapists?
Yes, you can do your best to prevent it, but this is not something we should just be teaching boys is wrong, because it's not a gender-based issue - rape happens to both genders.
That's not an inequality in society women face. ...Yes it is. Every single woman in my life, including me, dozens of times, has been inappropriately approached by a man, whether it's "hey sweetie" or something more sexually aggressive.
That's not the point. The point is that that behaviour is not caused by sexism.
Men don't do that to women because they're female. Yes, they do. They want to sexually intimidate women because it gets their rocks off/boosts their ego/god knows whatever reason.
Let me clarify. I mean, they don't do it because they believe they are of the inferior gender. They don't do it because they're sexist. They do it because they're straight and they're attracted to women. That's not a gender issue, it's not sexism, it's genetics and it's dealing with bad people.
Why is it a problem that women have equal rights?
There are two parts to that definition:
Can you guess which part I take issue to? The first one. Because everyone should be fighting for the rights of both genders, not just women.
Giving women rights will never create equality, men need more rights too.
Whoa, whoa whoa?! That's pretty crazy. Maybe there's some exceptions but i know of no feminist who would say men are superior to women.
You misinterpreted the quote. I said "They make sure their daughters know that men are superior to women in every way in this flawed, evil society". You took the "They make sure their daughters know that men are superior to women in every way" part. Let me rewrite the quote:
"They make sure their daughters know that men are
oppressive to women
and are considered superior in every way in this flawed, evil society"
As for the other stuff. I don't see a problem with teaching our daughters that there are ugly, sexist aspects of society. It's just how the world is.
I'm talking about teaching daughters exclusively as if it's only their problem.
Once again, maybe I'm wrong, but it seems like your real problem with feminism is the name. If egalitarianism is exactly the same as feminism, just under a different name, would you say that would be better?
I'd say it's better. But unfortunately, you as an individual do not represent feminism. Many feminists are very different to yourself. I disagree with feminism over-archingly, that doesn't mean I have to disagree with every feminist in everything.
To say again: You and others like you are not in any way 'true' feminists. The others who may be sexist towards men are just as much feminists as you are.
I disagree with feminism because it fights for women's rights as if that will attain equality. Yourself and Hikari purport that feminism fights for men's rights too, but I do not believe that is what feminism stands for or has ever stood for. I believe the majority of feminists fight exclusively for women's rights. That's why I do not support it. I do not believe your beliefs correspond with feminism how I see it and how the world sees it.
It's like if we had one branch of really nice door-to-door sales people who offer you cookies at your door and ask for permission to advertise their thing and if you say no they politely leave, leaving a basket of cookies for you for your time. And they're the best cookies ever.
I'm still gonna hate door-to-door sales people.