You're not wrong when you that men have problems. They do. But I think your frustrations are misdirected, which is understandable. Feminism is something that is often misunderstood and vilified. This isn't a game of Who Has It the Worst, but rather an advocacy movement trying to solve problems faced by a specific gender. Just because you personally don't see a place in that movement doesn't mean you're being excluded, ignored, or persecuted.
I think it makes perfect sense to feel excluded from a movement claiming to fight for equal rights, which most of the time just fights for women's rights in a society where a movement purely for women's rights is no longer necessary. I like to think we're just putting the finishing touches on equal rights in the grand scheme of things - women have already gained the major rights that made the first and second waves fought for. The third wave, in my view, is complaining about petty things that are issues for both genders. Feminism is not a movement anymore, it's an ideology and it doesn't make any sense that it's fighting for women's rights alone.
In my experience many of men's problems stem from other men. For instance I am gay man. I am treated as less-than by other men because of my sexuality. Straight men see me as "female-like" because I am attracted to men like a straight woman would be. To them, this is a bad thing. Support from feminists would be helpful in solving this problem, because they argue being female and feminine is not a bad thing. There's more to it than that, but that's just an example and one angle to a multifaceted problem.
I've already discussed how feminism can help men. Not all men's issues can be solved be feminism. I'm not talking about this again unless somebody brings a fresh response to what I've said.
The feminist movement has been around for hundreds of years. Is that not long enough for a meaning to change over time? Additionally, it's only going to change faster as the Internet makes the transmission of ideas virtually instantaneous. There is no conference where feminists sit down every year and decide on a platform. It is a constantly evolving field of discussion and study.
The feminist 'movement' came in three waves, and the third is more like an ideology with no real goal but 'equality'. It's not been a constant movement for all of those years.
There are indeed many branches of feminism (white feminism vs. intersectional feminism, for instance). I will concede that. However, it would be very foolish to dislike an entire group of people just because you disagree with a fraction of them.
I don't dislike an entire group of people, I dislike feminism because it excludes men who have just as many issues as women do. I also dislike men's rights activists, if that helps.
It isn't wrong, it's simplified. You can't rely on a Google definition when there are entire libraries worth of information on this topic that discuss all of the nuances of it. That's lazy. Do your research and make a truly educated decision.
I'm not relying on a Google definition, I'm just making a point. Feminism has zero to do with men's rights. Just because you support men's rights doesn't mean feminism does.
Also, isn't the decision to fight for men's rights as well an evolution? Why wouldn't that be a branch of feminism that you would support?
Because fighting for equal rights for both genders isn't feminism and it isn't what I'm targeting. It makes no sense for it to be called feminism, and when it is, 99% of the time it still has the 'women have less rights than men' undertone, and that's why I argue with it.
When you get thousands of people in discussion on a particular topic, they're only going to agree broadly at best. That's just human nature. Even organized political parties have individual variations in beliefs. But, again, writing off an entire group because you disagree with a fraction of it is foolish. Especially when, quite honestly, the vast majority of that group means you no harm.
Feminism isn't a group, it's an ideology I disagree with. Even those that support men's rights have that idea I stated above the women still get the short end of the stick in oh so many ways. That's why I dislike feminism.
And no, I do not believe the majority of feminists fight for men's rights, if that's what you're purporting. And I won't believe that until it's proven to me because it's called feminism, and historically, feminism has fought for women's rights and I see no reason for that to have suddenly changed.