I think if anything, try to break it apart into things that should be focused upon? I'm sorry for your loss, and I think any kind of consoling that you can give your family would be fruitful. In terms of school, I would focus on that first before the bowling aspects; try to prioritize with that. If you need any assistance with schooling, just give me a holler and I'll see how I can help. With your friend on the bowling team, don't be afraid to pull an ultimatum on him if our sister and yourself are bothered by it.
Sorry it took awhile to respond - been busy on my end getting crap done.