Are you in love?

[Wicked3DS]

I have a pretty big crush on someone, but I wouldn't say I'm in love. It takes a bit more before that happens.

 

[Spinosaurus]

No. Thank god.

Been burned by this too many times.

 

[Gigadweeb]

I like food just as much as the next person, but that's taking it to a whole new level.

hey come on man, chicken teriyaki subs are fuckin A

 

[Dracowyn]

Nah, not at the moment.

I seem to have terrible luck at love though, but then again, I guess a ton of people do.

 

[Dracowyn]

Yeah, i'm sure that even those you think of as sex machines have very bad luck, it's a tricky business.

Well yeah, like, for those people who actually are too. Having a one night stand or something is one thing, but actually finding someone who you can build a solid relationship with is something entirely different.

 

[gimmepie]

Yeah, but it seems that some people think that it's easier to find love if you're physically atractive.

It's because people are more inclined to socialise with you or date you if they find you attractive. That's just human nature.

 

[gimmepie]

Yeah, i know, but like Dracowyn said, a one night stand and someone you can build a solid relationship with are two different things.

I was never talking about one night stands xD
It's just human nature that people are more inclined to interact with people they find attractive, so generally speaking it is much easier for attractive people to meet people and develop romantic relationships.

 

[Dracowyn]

The thing is, what is being attractive? That's something thats subjective, even on terms of looks. And even if you have the most dazzling look of all people, if you're a huge dick I doubt you'll often find someone either, unless it's someone who doesn't have a great personality either.

 

[Universe]

I don't see it that way, because when you have too much experience in relationships you become more selective, and at some point no one will be good enough for you, i've seen that.

as someone with a lottt of relationship experience, i can vouch that this is actually not that true.. at least, not in the way you're wording it.

being selective tends to come with bad relationships regardless of how many you've had, because you start learning the signs and signals others give as premonition to possible bad behavior. it's easier to point out bad seeds with experience, and definitely helps with avoiding future problems. people don't become selective because "no one is good enough"... perhaps too many people are simply bad at relationships.

 

[noahr94]

No, and I'm happy that I'm not; too young for that.

 

[Pepperton]

yes obviously... this is my wife

Spoiler:

but in all seriousness yes i've been in love before and it was absolutely amazing, i honestly couldn't have asked for a happier, more wonderful relationship, but right now i'm not in love with anyone, and sometimes i miss that wonderful feeling quite a bit. i think once one has a taste of what true love is really like, they seek it more actively, which is both good and bad

 

[EmeraldSerenade]

i like this guy and he's ruining my life right now, kind of. we've met up a few times and "watched netflix" (we really just made out for the longest time + got really intimate) i can't really say i love him considering we've only known each other for a couple of months, but feelings can change over time.

 

[Cassandra]

Yes! I am in love with my wonderful girlfriend who I've been dating for about a year now ^^

 

[theunversed]

i was recently, but looks like i gotta get over it because i pushed them away by doing something stupid.... meh oh well that's life i guess

live & learn

 

[theunversed]

Just one thing? It wasn't worth it then.

not really but I'm over it. no point in wasting energy worrying about it. wasn't the first and doubt it will be the last

 

[pkmin3033]

God, I hope not - I have enough on my plate to deal with; adding something as complicated as that to it. Hypothetically speaking, if I WAS in love, I probably wouldn't recognise it, if I did I wouldn't admit it to myself, and if I was forced to admit it to myself I would then do my utmost to rid myself of it in whatever way worked.

There are currently two people I'm very, very attached to. But I wouldn't say I was in love with them. Especially since one is happily married, and if I brought up the topic with the other one they'd probably think I'd finally gone insane...at the very least. Imagining the conversation we'd have about it following a confession - or even a "what if?" scenario - makes me mentally recoil. That's an emotional minefield I really do not want to step into.

So, no. Nope. Definitely not.