Does intelligence matter to you?

[Nihilego]

In any sort of inter-personal relationship, so simply friendship or something more, online or offline, does the intelligence of the other person matter to you? Elaborate; what sort of intelligence? Book-smart or social smart? And why? Are there any exceptions?

don't answer these individually plsthx xoxox

 

[Briar]

i wouldn't really require someone to be "intelligent" to be my friend and/or lover. it wouldn't really matter to me if they're not very good at math, or if they don't embody the conventional "nerdy" type of personality. what i would want, however, is someone who is well-read and whom i could have deep and meaningful conversations with.

 

[Eucliffe]

I usually interpret "intelligent" as either how the dictionary defines it or as knowing the difference between right and wrong.

For me, I care less about the former than the latter. I'd rather have a relationship (intimate or friendly) with someone who knows that it isn't right to kill a baby seal just for sport, or something along those lines. As long as his or her heart is in the right place, then they're OK (b' ')b

 

[Truality]

For online, as long as we are able to communicate properly, there's no problem and I will not question one's intelligence. For offline, though, it depends a little more on how much I'm interested in that person.

If I'm interested in them, then I disregard the intelligence part completely. If I just want to spend some time with them, then I guess it'd be the smarter the better. Though I guess you can say intelligence IS a bonus.

 

[~*!*~Tatsujin Gosuto~*!*~]

I split intelligence into two categories which are books intelligence and this is knowledge of school/college and that other good stuff and street intelligence which is you are intelligence with social stuff and that other good stuff. To me, i think anyone whether if its my boyfriend, family or friends etc. should have enough of both book and street intelligence.


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[Esper]

It matters to me that I can communicate with someone.

The other day I had to spend a short time in the company of someone who couldn't quite follow the thread of a conversation that was going on. As much as that itself was a little frustrating I found it made me simply not want to talk with her much at all.

That's not to say that I won't or can't talk with people based on their intelligence, not exactly anyway. As long as someone is smart enough that's all that matters to me really. Well, at least as far as intelligence goes. Book smarts specifically are something I appreciate and value in myself and someone else if they have them, but I'm friends with people who dropped out of high school and people who have graduate degrees so it's not really something I discriminate for or against. But really I don't think book smarts is that different from regular smarts. If someone has an education is just means that they applied their intelligence in school and all that. Doesn't mean someone without doesn't have smarts.

 

[Jayster23]

I'm quite intelligent, but I get bored really easily and go stupid. So depends on what mood i'm in. I'll be with the intelligent people at one point and switch up to the.. Not so intelligent people. As long as someone has a good taste in sport, they classify as intelligent to me :P

 

[Mr Cat Dog]

I guess I do? All of my friends either went to or are going to top universities, and while we don't talk about the intelligentsia on a day-to-day basis, there'll often be in-jokes involving science or economics or law or something which would require someone with a basic degree of those concepts (or at least an appreciation). Writing this down seems to make my friendships predicated on intellectual snobbery, but the truth is I've never really had 'stupid' friends (for want of a much, much better word that I'm unable of coming up with at this time). It could be possible that intelligence means nothing to me, but as all of my friends have it, I'd probably wager against it.

 

[psyanic]

Intelligence doesn't really matter as long as there's some kind of basis we have in common. Sure, I like meeting people who have a decent amount of intelligence but I nullify that if the person is a genius and a complete jerk. They don't tend to be that way (from my experiences), but you'll be correct that I'll avoid you if you're like that. I value personality more than anything.

 

[-Jared-]

Nah, intelligence doesn't matter. I'm not gonna refuse to talk to someone based on that, that would just be mean, in my opinion. :<

I will say though, that street smart people are cool in my book considering I am so very lacking in them. >__> So while I don't only seek out street smart people, I do love when I meet one. :3

 

[PlatinumDude]

I think that people who are smart academically and/or socially would matter to me because I want to be able to relate to them more easily.

 

[Keiran]

I tend to get along with people much more if they aren't ignorant and shallow. I don't care if you're good at math and the likes, though, because you can still be an idiot. I hate what ignorance breeds above all. I also hate sheeple, lemmings, etc. Those people are unintelligent to me and I'd rather not associate myself with them.

 

[Trance and Moss]

Intelligence does matter. However intelligence is a very complex thing to measure or quantify in any way. A standard IQ test only measures some parts of intelligence. I think you need to get to know someone for a fairly long time before you can be aware of their intelligence, and even then many people have hidden intelligence of very uncommon things.

 

[Alice]

It makes me sad when people don't get my references... but I have such odd tastes, that I'm sure no one else in the world likes all the same things that I do. lol

As far as generally, not being stupid... yeah that's important.

 

[Hiidoran]

As a few people have already said, it really just boils down to whether or not I feel I can talk to them. When someone isn't quite following me or just seems to be nodding along... I tend to get a little turned off and shy away. Then again, it goes the other way too. It's really difficult for me to keep up a relationship, to any degree, with someone I feel is out of my league when in terms of education or intelligence.

I think intelligence is simply a matter of perspective. When someone isn't necessarily that gifted when it comes to what we consider standard education, we might be quick to judge them as unintelligent, when it could simply be a matter of disinterest. Talk to them about something else, and their ability in it may astound, or dumbfound you. For that reason, I honestly try to keep an open mind and befriend everyone. It's only when you prove me otherwise that I'll shy away. :]

 

[Shining Raichu]

As far as 'book-smarts' go, intelligence doesn't matter all that much to me. Whether you can do long division in your head is just not that high on my priority list for friendships and romantic relationships. As for intellectualism regarding politics and the like, I actually find that a turn-off. I think it makes you an insufferable bore.

The kind of intelligence that I care about is the day-to-day intelligence. Basically the ability to think and articulate yourself so that I can communicate with you on my level. I don't need you to be Einstein to be worth my time, but you can't be as dumb as a box of hair either.

 

[Maka Chop]

I can handle it if a person doesn't know a lot academically. But actual intelligence? OH YES. That matters to me a lot. I really don't want to be friends with an idiot.

 

[WhiteExterior]

Intelligence doesn't matter to me as far as friendship is concerned, no. I've been friends with people who have a lower IQ and despite having grown up speaking English, they can barely form a proper sentence structure.

BUT it does affect how I can relate to them. People who have a higher intellect or even good grammar tend to be closer to me than people I have difficulty understanding or that have a hard time discussing things on my level. I won't say that I'm the most intelligent person in the world either, but I will admit that this trend has appeared in my social relationships, internet or in real life.

 

[vaporeon7]

I guess both matter to me somewhat. The person needs to have some book smarts, because it is really frustrating having to explain intermediate level words and their meanings to people when I use them. This is one of the reasons why I do not enjoy talking to children and prefer talking to older people. Social smarts matter somewhat also. They probably don't matter as much to me as someone else because I actually don't have much of them. It's as if I missed out on three years of socialising and I'm really behind. I am actually getting better though (and I can think Pokémon B/W for that). But it's nice to have people with a lot, to help me with my disadvantage.

 

[Dopefish7590]

Well, I don't care much for intelligence in general if they are a cool person, but it can be stressful hanging out with someone who has trouble comprehending even the most elementary statements, and has no ability to learn.