I think that if you truly love the person, it can work. You just need to make plans to meet up as soon as you can.
I've noticed that many many people who develop long distance relationships do so because they're rather socially awkward, and social networking is their go-to for meeting people. So many of them just don't understand how drastically different it is to be looking into their eyes, holding them in your arms, seeing the way their hair moves as they talk, watching where their hands go when they're excited; those little things seriously make a massive difference. I'm certainly not saying LDRs are bad, or less important, or doomed to fail, or anything like that; I'm simply saying that most people in LDRs underestimate how much better and just different it is to be with them in person. Recognizing that is very important, and it's important to meet up to make sure they way they are in person is still just as amazing to you. It's the same thing when you are in a relationship with someone in real life, but still don't know what it's like to live in the same house as them. You know?
You also need a plan for when you can live near (or with) each other. Without any plans like that the relationship looks hopeless and at least one participant is more likely to give up on it.
But again, if you have plans, and you really care for each other, you can most certainly brave the storm and be together one day. It's just a matter of patience and holding out, really. Most LDRs fail because the participants tend to not have plans, and therefore don't take it as seriously, eventually realizing it was just for fun and they don't really love the person on the other side of the screen/phone/whatever as much as they thought they did. :C
For the record, I had many many LDRs before my real life relationship. The LDRs were when I was young, and though they seemed like a big deal to me at the time... now that I've had a boyfriend in real life, it's very hard to picture myself committing to someone who I can't hug and cuddle. Very hard. But if I truly loved them, then of course I would do it; we wouldn't be apart forever, after all. There's hope: airplanes and boats and busses and trains and cars. ^__^
I've noticed that many many people who develop long distance relationships do so because they're rather socially awkward, and social networking is their go-to for meeting people. So many of them just don't understand how drastically different it is to be looking into their eyes, holding them in your arms, seeing the way their hair moves as they talk, watching where their hands go when they're excited; those little things seriously make a massive difference. I'm certainly not saying LDRs are bad, or less important, or doomed to fail, or anything like that; I'm simply saying that most people in LDRs underestimate how much better and just different it is to be with them in person. Recognizing that is very important, and it's important to meet up to make sure they way they are in person is still just as amazing to you. It's the same thing when you are in a relationship with someone in real life, but still don't know what it's like to live in the same house as them. You know?
You also need a plan for when you can live near (or with) each other. Without any plans like that the relationship looks hopeless and at least one participant is more likely to give up on it.
But again, if you have plans, and you really care for each other, you can most certainly brave the storm and be together one day. It's just a matter of patience and holding out, really. Most LDRs fail because the participants tend to not have plans, and therefore don't take it as seriously, eventually realizing it was just for fun and they don't really love the person on the other side of the screen/phone/whatever as much as they thought they did. :C
For the record, I had many many LDRs before my real life relationship. The LDRs were when I was young, and though they seemed like a big deal to me at the time... now that I've had a boyfriend in real life, it's very hard to picture myself committing to someone who I can't hug and cuddle. Very hard. But if I truly loved them, then of course I would do it; we wouldn't be apart forever, after all. There's hope: airplanes and boats and busses and trains and cars. ^__^