I tried doing the whole LDR thing a couple times when I was younger. As someone else mentioned how it eases some of the burdens of autism to keep their distance, I always thought it'd be the same for me with my PTSD. To just keep a 'safer distance' until I was more comfortable. Problem was - the distance never made the hearts grow fonder. :P
'First boyfriend' had always been on the opposite end of the state from me; visits were frequent enough, and we clicked and all, but it just never really worked. We were stupid enough to keep trying.. on and off for years, actually. But we both wanted too many different things - and most of those things were influences from where we grew up. Like, he wasn't willing to leave the big city and I wasn't willing to leave Farmville™.
The other had moved a few hours away for school after we had been dating for several months. He came out to visit during school breaks, but it was never enough for either of us. Only seemed to make it harder.
Neither of those lasted terribly long... Well, overall they didn't; once distance came into play, they were both on and off, unstable as ****. And neither one of them was ever worth the effort, honestly.
Currently, though, Boyfriend lives right down the road. A whole 10 minutes away, and he usually just stays here, anyway. The last 8 months have gone by so fast <3 -- but I remember when 3 solid months LDR was, like, a freakin' achievement. It was so slow and agonizing.. and hard. Have I mentioned that it's hard?
It's just so hard to trust someone, to believe them, when you can't look them in the eyes. It's so hard to want to date someone when there's never any kind of intimacy at all. You can't even hold each other's hands. I don't want that. D:
I can see how that would work out better for some people - as I said, I thought I would also be in that group to some extent - but I just don't like not being physically close. I want to be able to cuddle up with them and unwind at the end of the day, watch really terrible movies together, and go out and do things together (on the days that I can manage, haha), and all that cheesy crap about sharing and spending your lives together.