The overwhelming majority of my friends are female, and it has never been a problem. I generally act exactly the same way in front of other people, regardless of gender, whether I'm with them alone or in a group. I have self-control, and I know all my friends do too. Otherwise, they wouldn't really be my friends because I could never trust them. Occasionally some dirty jokes get thrown around here and there, but that's just life. No harm in it.
Mm... Maybe you trust your partner, but you don't trust the opposite gender.
After all, men are sleazeballs generally. Even if you're as trustworthy as can be, male friends tend to joke sexually and might cop a feel without your wanting. Women are just as guilty as trying to be flirtatious and promiscuous as well, regardless how loyal and trustworthy you are.
So it's not the relationship that's faulty; moreso the suspicion of these "friends" and their intentions. I don't trust the majority of men because most men have proven to be just after a piece of ass. Women I see the same as men, too. I trust my fiance at 100%, but I don't trust the women of society, so we generally just avoid it altogether.
It makes me feel fuzzy when he tells flirtatious girls at work that "I don't want your phone number; I already have someone".
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I see, so I'm a sleazeball and most of my friends are flirtacious and promiscuous. Either that or you're just a hypocrite. You think others are so shallow-minded when it's clear that you're the shallowest of them all.
It has nothing to do with their organs. It has to do with past experience. All of the men I've met, besides my fiance, have been total douchebags and just after sex all of the time. My entire family cheats on one another constantly, and all of my old friends from school share that same attitude.
I see, so when I asked you to help me with spoken French and in return I would help you in various academic subjects, you rejected me simply because I have a penis and by your logic, I'm only after your body. I see how it is.
If your family has issues with sex, then they have issues with sex. It's not just because they're men and women who are attracted to each other. THEY HAVE PROBLEMS.
From personal experience on my side, the majority of women aren't looking for a male friend to play video games with. They're looking for a compatible figure, regardless the other person's relationship status.
I actually get both kinds of requests all the time (either gender, but mostly female, because most social networks are female-dominated), so I can tell you that they are. I'm surprised you would say the first line when PokéCommunity is so chalk full of people who are making video gaming friends regardless of gender.
From our experience, women and men alike are primarily just after sex when they befriend someone of the opposite gender. The wrong idea might even rub off without you knowing, and that's not good.
While it's true that people can get the wrong idea, you are simply wrong on your reasoning. They're NOT primarily after sex. I keep in touch with people all over the world both online and off, and the kind you think makes up the overwhelming majority is only an extreme minority that spends too much time in chat rooms.
People aren't attracted to every guy/girl they meet, so unless you are attracted to every guy/girl in the world then you should be able to have a normal friendship.
Are you suggesting that people should befriend people who they're not attracted to? That actually sounds somewhat reasonable, but I'm not sure if it's necessary.
I have a complete mix of friends from very girly girls to boy-ish boys, but I tend to lean on my guy friends more for advice and stuff, despite being a girl myself. The last school I went to was an all girls school and I ended up having no guy friends after three years there because I just didn't know how to interact with them and stuff, yet within three weeks of my current mixed school, I was best friends with a guy. I think it would be awkward maybe if I started going out with any of my close guy friends, but none of us think of each other in that way, we're just friends and that's perfect for me.
I think it's very helpful because there's times when they come to me for things that they don't want to go to other guys for because the guys would tease them for being girly or something (I dunno. They're weird.).
I think having a mix of friends is the best thing, because most people have different friends for different purposes, so it's whatever their comfortable with :)
I can totally relate. I go to girls for advice on different things all the time. You only get to live as one, so it's always a good thing to get the other perspective.
I myself have several female friends, though I have more female friends online than I do offline. Now that's either because I'm not as good at interacting with girls in person as I am online, or just because I seem to spend most of my time online now because I do online schooling and live in the boondocks. xD
I know what you mean. Before I was active on the internet, I never really talked to any girls except for a few daughters of family friends, and members of the extended family. Even then, I was weirded out by the whole experience. The internet helped me get over all that, and because I talk to so many different kinds of people, even in real life I can handle almost any social situation.
Why is having friends that are exclusively girls/boys unhealthy?? =/
It's only unhealthy if you think it is. Think about it as a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you raise a little boy to believe that he can't control himself around girls, and if he gets involved with anybody female he'll have sex with her, then you're conditioning him from an early age into believing that he will have sex with any girl he associates with. That's just wrong, but unfortunately, this is how a large number of people around the world are raised.
I think I know what you're trying to say, but there are two types of people in the world, and everyone should know how to interact with each other in various situations.
