ShinyMeowth
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I live in Greece, and my parents fit to the article's description of American parents. I love my parents, but I hate the fact that they made that choice. Pushing your kid to its limits and further is the best way to raise it, since it guarantees higher chances of success in its life later on. Since my parents haven't been doing that for me, I've had to do it myself. I've had to force myself to work as much as I could, and I've pushed myself to my limits countless times. Still, I haven't managed to make the most out of myself. I started playing the piano this year, and I'm already working on Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata. Believe it or not, my mother actually dislikes that, since it counters her ways of slacking off and not focusing on my goals. Had I listened to her, my friends who have had experience playing the piano, or even my music teacher, I couldn't have brought my skills out, and I would probably have gotten bored of it and given up. As the article mentioned, achieving success and receiving praise is incredibly rewarding, and much fun. Another example is my studying of calculus last summer, at 13, which of course the Mathematician at my school frowned upon. But now I know more than my teachers, and find myself correcting them at the class all the time. I like that. For one, I am definitely not going to repeat my parents' mistake. I will raise my children by Chinese standards, and make them even better than myself. After all, what's more rewarding than seeing your children surpassing your achievements?
Now, Meduza, I have to disagree with your remarks on that mother's choices.
Now, Meduza, I have to disagree with your remarks on that mother's choices.
As much as you might find this ridiculous, one sleepover can sabotage a hard-working parent's years' time worth of effort. I'm 14, and my childhood experiences have been very fresh, and one thing I can definitely say is that when multiple kids are left unattended, they can sabotage each other's behavior, eventually growing more and more immature. I would never let my child receive influence by somebody else, especially from an average child at its age.I disagee with some of the choises these parents are making.
These are the following things Chinese children are not allowed to do.
• attend a sleepover (What's wrong with this? They're not going to become rebels after one little sleepover)
Same thing happens here, bad influence is always there to destroy your kid's future.• have a playdate (That's just wrong. You hsouldn't keep them from playdates if they want one.)
School plays are not only pointless, but also time-consuming, distracting, humiliating, and a huge source of bad influence for kids.• be in a school play (Again,what's wrong with this? It could be very educational)
I have my reasons for my decisions, my 8-year old kid is not one to question them.• complain about not being in a school play (Freedom of speech?)
I've grown up with time limits on the computer. It did not work. My kids are going to only be allowed to play Pokemon games, and watch the Pokemon anime, and use of the computer will be restricted to forums, news websites and blogs, that will first have to be approved by me or my wife.• watch TV or play computer games (Okay I agee to an extent. I'm sure time limits would be helpful)
I am going to refer you to my first and second points about bad influence. My kids are not going to be involved with sports, art or anything related to that. I actually completely agree to the article writer's choice of Piano and Violin, but I am going to expand it with Chess.• choose their own extracurricular activities (How in the world can they have ANY fun if they can't even choose their own activities? That shouldn't be the parents choice.)
Leniency causes kids to slack off. The Chinese are perfectly correct in their point about imperfect grades implying lack of hard work.• get any grade less than an A ( So what, one little B and/or C ruins it? Be at least a LITTLE more leniant.)
That is totally wrong. You have to open your eyes and look at the real world. Perfection is perfection, anything less than that is imperfect, and imperfection is simply not enough. It would be a waste to let your kids do anything less than the best they can, and I am not going to follow that path.• not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama ( I'd hate to see what would happen if there were two different children in a class living by this rule <.< They should aim high, but not for perfection)
The answer here is obvious, but since people fail to realize it I will have to bring it up. By choosing a guitar, a keyboard, a synthesizer, you name it, the kid is going to end up listening to Lady Gaga and Justin Bieber. An educated person must also have musical education, and real music is the way to go. And by that I mean classical music. The writer is wrong here, however, I will give you that, but that is not for the reason you used, it is simply for the fact that symphonic orchestras require more instruments than the piano and the violin. Your examples were flawed, but I would accept any classical instrument.• play any instrument other than the piano or violin ( Are saxophones and guitars are evil?)
My kids will play both of those instruments. They will thank me for that later. I am not going to expand on my reasons, they are pretty obvious.• not play the piano or violin. (Oh, god forbid that one. What would happen to them if they didn't play specific instruments )
Yes. She is right. That would happen. And the Chinese mother would have done the perfect thing.And read this after I looked into the article more:
If a Chinese child gets a B—which would never happen—there would first be a screaming, hair-tearing explosion. The devastated Chinese mother would then get dozens, maybe hundreds of practice tests and work through them with her child for as long as it takes to get the grade up to an A.