"Never Hit a Girl"

[bna_li]

My family told me to be kind to girls and women, so I do. I don't hit them. Never. I'd never hit a woman. If she punched me across the face and would do it again, then I think I'd have to try to do something to get my ass out of there.

You know how running from a girl would make you look?

 

[ManhattanTheStarr]

You know how running from a girl would make you look?

But hitting a girl would only make him look like a woman abuser, apparently. T_T

 

[Nick]

Usually I'm a chivalrous person, as in I'm usually the guy that will hold a door open for a girl and all that sort of stuff. But if a girl thinks she has the right to slap me just because she's a girl then all that stuff goes out the window. The existence of this double standard is one of the most irritating things I've seen around. If a girl slaps a man across the face it's seen as acceptable and not assault - why? Of course if a girl tried to slap me I probably wouldn't hit her back, but I'd catch her arm before she could hit me and rather just block her because I'm generally a non-violent person.

This is how I feel on the matter. I support chivalry, but this is one aspect of chivalry I find to be intolerable. Regardless, I wouldn't intentionally cause any harm to someone unless provoked and it being in means of self defense. Woman or man.

This double standard is almost as bad as the double standard of how men are looked upon as "players" and respected when they are promiscuous, but women are regarded as "prostitutes" and other unfriendly or otherwise hurtful words and looked upon with shame and disapproval.

You know how running from a girl would make you look?

Surprise! Some people, such as myself, don't care what other people think of them or how something makes them look. Shocking, isn't it? But I wouldn't run away from someone trying to intentionally cause harm to me rather than end it by any means necessary.

 

[Jaeden]

I think its actually sexist to think that you can't hit a girl. Not the "I don't need to respect women" sexist, the "women need to be protected" sexist. Sure, some women need to be protected, but to think that all do is incorrect. There are plenty of strong women who don't need to be protected.

Bottom line, while I would not hit a girl (or a guy for that matter) without provocation, I am not totally above hitting a girl if she initiates it. Actually, I'd probably just end up blocking or dodging the punch/slap/kick and walking away.

 

[bna_li]

Surprise! Some people, such as myself, don't care what other people think of them or how something makes them look. Shocking, isn't it?

Not really, no.

I understand that some people aren't concerned about their reputation, or maybe simply don't give a crap. Even so, being completely unconcerned can't true, unless one is completely and utterly self-serving and self-absorbed.

 

[Nick]

Not really, no.

I understand that some people aren't concerned about their reputation, or maybe simply don't give a crap. Even so, being completely unconcerned can't true, unless one is completely and utterly self-serving and self-absorbed.

Well, I don't want to go off topic, but okay, I'll take the bait...

One who depends on the reputation one has is someone I would strongly consider insufficient. As far as I'm concerned, social reputation is a cripple to one's identity and individualism as a whole. It's entirely based on the perceptions of others and their opinion of who you are, what you do, and how you do it. Most people let their reputation and the perception others have on them control them and that makes them lose their identity. Being unconcerned with others' opinions does not make one self-serving or self-absorbed, it makes them prone to being crippled for who they are.

In this situation, reputation is irrelevant. The way society has become, whether a man runs away, deals with a woman hitting by hitting them back, or does nothing, the perception of others is always going to be negative. "You got beat up by a girl" would be the typical response of the majority when a man doesn't do anything about it. "You hit a girl! You're a woman beater!" would be the typical response of the majority when a man does do something about the situation. "You're scared of a girl!" would be the typical response of the majority if a man runs away from the situation. Unfortunately in today's world, the majority of people are immature and those would be the ones who would be thinking in such childish terms of "reputation."

 

[Taemin]

I've detested this saying so badly since I was a child, whenever someone would say this to me I'd be attempting to hit them straight away, it's like saying girls are weaker than boys, and I don't believe that it should be said that girls are weaker than boys. Some are not stronger and some are. This may sound slightly violent but yes, it's what I think. If a woman hits a man for no reason, he should be able to do it back, and if a man hits a woman a woman should be able to hit him back. Simple.

I don't think it's so much of thinking they're weaker, as it is having some type of respect for them. :/ .

I wouldn't hit a girl unless.. maybe she grabbed my best friend, slammed them into a wall, and proceeded to beat the crap out of them, and then tossed them in front of a car. >__> That warrants a punch even if it was an old person.

 

[Zet]

I hit and not hit girls to make crazy feminists happy and angry at the same time by giving them their equal rights and then taking it away.

I don't really hit girls, I just wanted to sound cool by making it like I piss off feminists a lot.

 

[bna_li]

One who depends on the reputation one has is someone I would strongly consider insufficient. As far as I'm concerned, social reputation is a cripple to one's identity and individualism as a whole. It's entirely based on the perceptions of others and their opinion of who you are, what you do, and how you do it. Most people let their reputation and the perception others have on them control them and that makes them lose their identity. Being unconcerned with others' opinions does not make one self-serving or self-absorbed, it makes them prone to being crippled for who they are.

In this situation, reputation is irrelevant. The way society has become, whether a man runs away, deals with a woman hitting by hitting them back, or does nothing, the perception of others is always going to be negative. "You got beat up by a girl" would be the typical response of the majority when a man doesn't do anything about it. "You hit a girl! You're a woman beater!" would be the typical response of the majority when a man does do something about the situation. "You're scared of a girl!" would be the typical response of the majority if a man runs away from the situation. Unfortunately in today's world, the majority of people are immature and those would be the ones who would be thinking in such childish terms of "reputation."

I agree, actually. Lol.

Worrying about one's reputation might cause one to lose one's identity. However, why do you assume that reputation changes someone's actions, instead of someone's actions shaping their reputation? You make reputation out to be some sort of perception of a person, instead of an actual representation of a person. That being said, I believe reputation serves as a very important sort of guide to interraction between human beings. Personally, I do value my reputation, merely for fear of being misrepresented or misunderstood. Also, I didn't really understand what you were trying to say in that last part of the first paragraph.

Yeah, it's pretty much a lose-lose situation. Therefore, from this point onwards, males must cease from all contact with females.

 

[Nick]

I agree, actually. Lol.

Worrying about one's reputation might cause one to lose one's identity. However, why do you assume that reputation changes someone's actions, instead of someone's actions shaping their reputation? You make reputation out to be some sort of perception of a person, instead of an actual representation of a person. That being said, I believe reputation serves as a very important sort of guide to interraction between human beings. Personally, I do value my reputation, merely for fear of being misrepresented or misunderstood. Also, I didn't really understand what you were trying to say in that last part of the first paragraph.

Yeah, it's pretty much a lose-lose situation. Therefore, from this point onwards, males must cease from all contact with females.

Social reputation is the only aspect of reputation I feel that is unjust and would do the world a lot of good to be without. Reputation influences what many people do because, as you said, it does guide interaction between human beings. That's why I feel as through it ruins an individual. One who's concerned with reputation is one who's concerned what other people think of them and often deals with wanting to please others at any cost.

Someone who shows concern with their reputation is often someone (not everyone) who is willing to create fabrications to cover quirks or otherwise frowned upon personality traits. But for the reasons you value your reputation, I don't think you should feel at all concerned with it because there are going to be plenty of people who understand you and relate to you. You represent who you are; not your reputation. The only thing in life that shapes who you are are the lessons you learn throughout life and the mistakes you make, in my opinion.

The last sentence of my first paragraph, paraphrased, basically says that if you don't worry about your reputation and the perception of others, you don't have to worry about having a cripple to your personality and self-image. Anything you do can be taken negatively, as I stated in the last paragraph with a man hitting, not hitting or avoiding the woman who's causing him physical harm. You're not going to be at all understood by the masses, especially when the masses are defined by a majority of individuals who are otherwise unintelligent and immature.

 

[BHwolfgang]

I can't see myself as hitting a girl on purpose. I might accidently run into her or something, but hopefully that doesn't count. My family taught me not to hit girls, because it's not the right thing to do. Now I know that there are some exceptions to that. If a girl comes at me with a chainsaw or machete, then of course I'm going to kick her through the window.

 

[Rich Boy Rob]

This double standard is almost as bad as the double standard of how men are looked upon as "players" and respected when they are promiscuous, but women are regarded as "prostitutes" and other unfriendly or otherwise hurtful words and looked upon with shame and disapproval.

Thing is, it's usually the girls that call each other sl*ts. Men don't generally mind if people are loose, men or women.

 

[Percy Thrillington]

Nearly two weeks ago, a girl tried to assault me after a drink friend told her something I supposedly said and she lost it. I was too busy laughing at the whole scenario to actually bother defending myself, but if she had been hitting me with enough force to do some damage, I would have stopped her by any means necessary.

I don't start physical fights with anybody, let alone girls. If a girl is irritating me, I either tell her to shut up or make fun of her. Much more entertaining than battering her.

 

[Nick]

Thing is, it's usually the girls that call each other sl*ts. Men don't generally mind if people are loose, men or women.

Generally, when dealing with a straight man / straight woman scenario, men don't mind, which is simply because they're thinking and looking to get some with anyone they can. Some are respectable of a woman, but when you compare the number of respectable men with those who look at woman lower than them, you'll come up short. As I said, the world is full of a majority of those who are uneducated and generally immature.

In today's society, it's acceptable for men to behave in such a piggish manner. Men cheer each other on, or even get jealous of other men who are generally promiscuous; women look in distaste at the character of another woman (and even men, most of the time). And out of the men who don't look at a promiscuous woman with disapproval, 3/4ths of them are disrespecting them. Just not publicly.

But even if I found that argument to be sufficient, it's still further proof that there is a double standard; just like the double standard this topic is about. If it weren't for the fact that the majority of the ocean is filled with sharks who don't know how to treat anyone - specifically women, let alone themselves, with respect, I doubt this would even be a problem. Considering the majority of crimes reported regarding domestic violence throughout history, it's easy to see that a majority of men generally don't respect women. Hell, thanks to the idiots out there, men even have their own mascot clothing to do it in! I hear wife beaters are all the rage.

 

[xhir]

I take the "never hit a girl" thing as a discrimination against girls. :/

 

[Honest]

I'd never, ever, hit a girl. Even if I was getting beaten up. Worst case scenario, I'd have to block her fists from connecting with my face. Nothing more physical on my end.

 

[Surmonter]

I take the "never hit a girl" thing as a discrimination against girls. :/

As do I. My friends call me the biggest male feminist on the planet. ^-^

 

[Azonic]

IMO guys are just as able to hit girls as girls are allowed to hit guys. But I wouldn't do it because then I'd look like a douche.

 

[Devil's Guitarist]

whats with society these days??!?? real men never hit women. NEVER. unless they are robbing you or pointing at you with a gun there should be no reason to hit a lady. Those who hit a lady are the lowest part of humanity.
so yes, if you hit a woman with no reason or becaue she just slapped you or called you something you dont deserve to be called aman, you should be dead.

 

[Trap-Eds]

so yes, if you hit a woman with no reason or becaue she just slapped you or called you something you dont deserve to be called aman, you should be dead.

I wouldn't go that far. Yeah, a guy shouldn't hit a girl over something trivial like what you said (if it doesn't cause any harm), but if they do I find it pretty harsh to think that they should DIE. Perhaps just a stern talking to. Words can do wonders.