I agree, actually. Lol.
Worrying about one's reputation might cause one to lose one's identity. However, why do you assume that reputation changes someone's actions, instead of someone's actions shaping their reputation? You make reputation out to be some sort of perception of a person, instead of an actual representation of a person. That being said, I believe reputation serves as a very important sort of guide to interraction between human beings. Personally, I do value my reputation, merely for fear of being misrepresented or misunderstood. Also, I didn't really understand what you were trying to say in that last part of the first paragraph.
Yeah, it's pretty much a lose-lose situation. Therefore, from this point onwards, males must cease from all contact with females.