FrozenOrange
AKA Frozen9
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- Seen Mar 31, 2012
i think to it's normal at age 14.
Well im 14 myself. And don't see anything bad in it.
Well im 14 myself. And don't see anything bad in it.
Anyone around 10-14 shouldn't be dating. People at that age don't really know what they're doing or actually know what they're really feeling. They usually just go what their gut and never think it over. Plus that time is when people are starting to find themselves so they don't really know who they are. I'm 19, and I still don't know who exactly I am and what I'm gonna be doing. I have yet to have a girlfriend and go on a date.
Age is just a number. It's really meaningless except in counting the number of years one has been alive since birth.
When it comes to relationships, I believe the only criteria to use to judge whether someone should "date" is whether they are mature enough. There is no single age that determines an individual's level of maturity. And we really shouldn't restrict a person's choices based on an number. Only where there is the potential for harm to be done should a relationship be disallowed.
You cannot call a relationship between two 10year old kids a date!tHey are just discovering themselves. I've seen many 16 year old act more mature in a relationship than some 20 year old friends of mine. 14-16 is the age when somebody discovers his feelings or his wants and begins to experiment.
But that also depends on the personality. I, for once, never needed to experiment nor wanted to. I knew what I wanted, I new what I needed from a relationship and I just waited until I found it. We are together 3 years now ( we got together when we were 15) and that's pretty much it. No complaints, no jealouses, no anger or fights, perfectly matched like the key into the lock.
This is a commonly held misconception, and it's understandable why you'd believe this. But as with mental maturity, physical maturity is reached by individuals at vastly different rates. It is not uncommon to see a female enter into puberty as young as 7. Some even start puberty earlier. There have been cases where females have gotten pregnant when they were 5 years of age.
Females also invariably mature sooner than males. Which would often explain why on the playgrounds at school, I often witnessed females chasing after guys, and giggling about them and talking about them with their friends. Whereas most of the guys wanted nothing to do with them. But on occasion, you do see a young male of the same age equally enamoured with a female. And yes, this does happen at the age of 10, and sometimes younger.
I started to enter puberty when I was around 10 or 12. And it was around that time that I started developing feelings for people. Feelings that I hadn't felt before, but that I liked. By your assertion, I'm very odd indeed.
It is because I am aware of how people mature at vastly different rates that I don't make any claims as to what is normal when it comes to people reaching puberty. It would be like me trying to guess where a paper airplane would land each time it's thrown. Even twins can reach maturity at different times, even though they're both born at virtually the same time.
Congratulations on your relationship then. I wish the both of you all the best, and hopefully many years of happiness together.
Wait, what? Aren't you contradicting yourself?I agree with that. Also it depends on the person! You cannot call a relationship between two 10year old kids a date!
Wait, what? Aren't you contradicting yourself?