What's your sexuality?

[Nolafus]

I'm gay. I don't really like to tell people since I don't think it's that big of a deal, and don't want people to make judgments based on that, but if someone asks, I'll tell them.

I've told my roommates and a few friends so far, but that's it. Like I said, I don't like to make a big deal of it. The only homophobic people I know are my family, namely my dad who compared gay people to drunks who spend their nights sleeping in the gutter, so I'm making sure to be 100% independent from them when I fully come out, haha.

 

[Her]

You can always tell who is looking for the edgy poster of the year award by their attitude towards less common sexual orientations.

I'm more or less asexual nowadays, but I've had sex with guys in the past and I develop crushes on guys occasionally. I suppose in the strictest of strict terms, I'd be straight, given my gender identity and all. But people irl think I'm gay and until I make more of an open transition to my desired gender, I have no problem with them thinking that. It's just easier to let people think I'm gay for the meanwhile, not complicating things with specifics like asexuality and being transgender and what not.

 

[£]

my sexual attraction to people fluctuates between 0 and slightly, and rises quite considerably if I'm comfortable and close with the person.

there's a name for it but I never use the label because it reminds me of Final Fantasy and I just prefer to say I was open to dating anyone I liked at the end of the day.

 

[Neo_Angelo]

Ok this is a post for all of you no matter what sexuality you label yourself with, I am a male who is attracted to females, however i do not brand myself as anything, the way i see things is that sexuality is something that can change over time and isn't something you can ever label, for those of you who are worried about what people think or how people might act towards you, be yourself! You are the only single person in this world who can ever truly understand how you feel. If you feel confused or you know your minds made up then that is how it is and you will eventually figure out for yourself what it is you feel.

Do not let anyone judge you for being who you are, there is no right or wrong answers as each person is completely different. I'd like to say i see things or maybe look at things slightly different, i do not go by sexual attraction, but rather than compatibility, what i mean by this is no matter how you see yourself sexually, you will be either compatible or not with the person you have feelings for (they will feel the same, or not). Do not ever think for a second that you need to identify yourself with a category, its never as simple as finding a tick box to mark off who you are, we are human beings, we are the most advanced life form on our planet, we can categorize animals into sexualities as they do not possess intelligent thinking on the same level as we do, they are more basically programmed to survive.

My advice to anyone is, don't worry about what others think of you, if they want to brand you into a category they are judging you and are not fully understanding you as an individual, be yourself and accept the fact that you are who you are and that is OK. every one of you guys and girls are special and remember that its you who has the power to be comfortable with yourself.

 

[Aslan]

I've been bi since I was 11 or 12 but it's more 90m-10f so I guess I could be very easily mistaken for straight? It's still ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ at this stage but I'm cool with either idea so.

:)

One method of telling what the sexuality of a person is by the length of their index and ring fingers. Since my ring fingers are longer than my index fingers, I am a straight male.

Apparently having your ring finger longer than your index finger also puts you more at a risk of prostate cancer so uh... you know. ):

 

[Mana1]

Gay. I wouldn't rule out being sexually attracted to a woman, but it's yet to happen and I'm in a relationship with a guy so yeah.

I do wonder one thing - those who identify as asexual, do you think of it as a permanent sexuality or more of a 'I'm asexual at the moment' kind of thing? I ask as the two people I've known in real life who identified as asexual only identified as that for a few years.

 

[Her]

I do wonder one thing - those who identify as asexual, do you think of it as a permanent sexuality or more of a 'I'm asexual at the moment' kind of thing? I ask as the two people I've known in real life who identified as asexual only identified as that for a few years.

All sexuality has the potential to be fluid. I say potential because some people are very pedantic about not being attracted to x gender ever in their lifetime and rule out said potential completely.

Asexuality is interesting when you think about the levels of it - there are asexuals who are simply indifferent to sex, asexuals who have chosen to repress sexuality as a whole, asexuals that are actively repulsed by sex, it goes on. The time periods are also fluid - some people 'grow' into it, others have always been that way and some people just fluctuate in and out.

 

[Sir Codin]

Funny little thing, first time I heard "asexuality," I thought it was referring to people who can reproduce asexually: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexual_reproduction

I was like "wait, people can actually do this??? WHY WAS I NOT INFORMED OF THIS???"

This is what happens when you're a shoe-in biology major.

 

[Candy]

Hmm... this is a tough question. While I do admire men who has a well-defined muscle tone, I'm not particularly attracted to them? I mean like, I'm not feeling sexually attracted, I just find those kinds of people cool-looking that's all.

Heck, I've never even been in love before. Sure, people might say that I haven't found the right person, but you really have to consider since during my 3 years of high school and 1 year of college I have yet to develop feelings towards anyone at all. I can't even say that I'm demisexual since I know I've been close to a guy for about a year before he moved back at high school, and let's just say that we really close as in waiting for each other after classes type of close. However nope, neither of us bears any kind of feeling of love towards the other.

At this point I still question my sexual orientation. I'd be straight myself if I think about it, but at the same time I have zero sexual urges even with fictional characters so...

 

[Cariad]

I don't really know. I'm attracted to both boys and girls, but attracted to girls a lot more than boys, if that makes sense, despite having a boyfriend. I call myself bisexual, but I could very easily be a lesbian if it weren't for literally the one boy I'm attracted to. I don't really know, or care.

I've been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember, and I've never really had a problem with it. I've literally always known I was attracted to them, there was never a sort of "realization" moment. I'm very open about my sexuality too - I'm not embarrassed to be bi at all and I tell pretty much everyone who asks. Never really run into any problems.

I'm also polyamorous but I'm not sure if that even comes under sexuality...?

 

[Mana1]

I'm also polyamorous but I'm not sure if that even comes under sexuality...?

That would explain the username! :o

You're the third(?) person to identify in the same way. How odd - considering it's quite a specific situation.

 

[Astinus]

I do wonder one thing - those who identify as asexual, do you think of it as a permanent sexuality or more of a 'I'm asexual at the moment' kind of thing? I ask as the two people I've known in real life who identified as asexual only identified as that for a few years.

It's permanent in my case, although I've only been identifying as asexual for a few years. I can never see myself in a relationship. It's not really a choice that I can't, as my mind just instantly goes blank the instant someone shows any interest in me that way. I just don't "get" any part of relationships or sexual interest.

But yes, I'm asexual, and generally aromantic. I might get the tiniest bit of a crush on someone (in a "they look decent and I'd like to talk to them" sort of way), but I get over crushes really easily. Most of the time, though, I'm really happy to not have any interest in relationships, as it saves me a lot of possible stress and gives me the time to do whatever I want.

 

[twocows]

You can always tell who is looking for the edgy poster of the year award by their attitude towards less common sexual orientations.

If you think someone said something wrong, you should discuss why you think it's wrong, not insult whoever said it without specifically naming them.

 

[Dustmop]

I don't really know. I'm attracted to both boys and girls, but attracted to girls a lot more than boys, if that makes sense, despite having a boyfriend. I call myself bisexual, but I could very easily be a lesbian if it weren't for literally the one boy I'm attracted to. I don't really know, or care.

I've been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember, and I've never really had a problem with it. I've literally always known I was attracted to them, there was never a sort of "realization" moment. I'm very open about my sexuality too - I'm not embarrassed to be bi at all and I tell pretty much everyone who asks. Never really run into any problems.

All of this. I identified as a lesbian for awhile, tbh. My very first crushes and relationships were all with other girls; I actually never really had any attraction toward dudes until a few years ago. By my late teens I identified as bisexual, but looking back I almost consider that arrogant of past-me.


More recently I consider myself Pansexual, with a heavy preference toward feminine people... despite my current boyfriend being a little more on the masculine side than I'd normally like. :P

I know that a lot of these sexualities that are suddenly coming to the light are just seen as a "fad" or a "cry for attention," for whatever reason. Pansexuality included.
But I will always distinguish the difference between pansexual and bisexual because not everyone strictly "classifies" themselves as a man or a woman. Not necessarily everyone can even say they are one or the other. GID exists for a reason; gender isn't always so black and white, and I respect that.


I will still be sexually attracted to whomever I am attracted to, regardless of their preferred gender identity (or lack thereof). :v

 

[Kotone]

well plain and simple. im straight and i love my boyfriend. that's all.

 

[Who's Kiyo?]

I'm also polyamorous but I'm not sure if that even comes under sexuality...?

WAIT WAIT WAIT THIS IS SO RELEVANT TO MY INTERESTS

Not in the "I've felt this" way, but rather the opposite. I'm probably the strictest monogamous person (monogamer?) I know - like, I don't think I'm physically capable of bringing myself to live a polyamorous lifestyle; in the same way you couldn't physically bring me out of my homosexuality.

But since it has to do with the concept of sexuality, I'm going to state that this is relevant and ask someone who is polyamorous or knows a lot about it to educate me on things.

How often do you feel the role of sexual orientation and polyamory mix together? While figuring yourself out, did discovering those aspects of yourself come hand-in-hand? If so, in what way?

Do you feel that polyamory has a "coming out" stage like non-heterosexual orientations?

What do you think is more tiresome - dealing with people trying to understand your sexual orientation, or your polyamorous lifestyle?

They all concern the topic of sexual orientation too so I hope this isn't considered off-topic.

Please I've read so much about your people.​

 

[Hypocrates]

I'm a gay teen here woo. I've never once felt an attraction to girls in a sexual way, however I find it a lot easier to just emotionally connect with them. I don't want to date a girl or anything but I find it a lot easier to be comfortable around them than guys. I've not faced must trouble since coming out, however only my closest friends are aware and they're perfectly fine with it. People still use 'gay' and other derogatory terms as insults and negative adjectives and whatnot but I can't do much about that. Considering the marriage referendum passed, things are looking up. There's still so much to work for in the LGBT community so we can finally get equality but things should get a bit easier now, I guess?

 

[Kanzler]

I'm also polyamorous but I'm not sure if that even comes under sexuality...?

Definitely is a part of one's sexuality. This is why we use the appropriate word for what we're talking about.

 

[SleepyTrainer]

I'm straight.

maybe a Demisexual, yeah I think so, but that's not about what gender I'm attracted to

 

[Palamon]

Gay physical female. I identify as genderless. I'm sorry? Excuse my language? But the male genitalia doesn't seem anything exciting? I don't feel attracted to men at all? I don't want to have sex with a man. I can't see myself dating a man. And I think girls are attractive and I can and picture myself dating one. I live in a homophobic family and am literally shoved with "straight" down my freaking throat. Well, sorry, mom, I'm not fucking straight. I like girls. Girls are love, girls are life, and just because you're straight, doesn't mean I am. When I was younger, like, 15, I thought I was maybe "asexual" but I was unsure. Didn't know then. Now I'm 100% sure I like girls and only girls.