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Masculinity is probably the most misunderstood concept I can think of.
It has nothing to do with banging chicks, starting fights, getting buff or being a dick. Masculinity is about internal mastery, independence and confidence. This means being able to manage your own emotions internally without showing weakness. It also means being confident and independent enough to be assertive and risk taking. They are leadership behaviors.
Some can develop this, some can't. For those that can't the results can be brutal. Being depressed in a society that punishes depression.
Maybe in a perfect world. But traditional masculine men have the best life outcomes. If you have a son, you would want him to show those characteristics.
They are the leaders, have higher employment value and higher sexual value than feminized men. If they can handle it, it will develop character traits that are valued by society, if they can't... well yeah it will be damaging. But a parent has a responsibility to know when you are pushing your child too hard.
EDIT: the world is slowly changing though. Look at how popular it is for young guys to hit the gym/steroids and get huge. They think it is masculine, but I couldn't think of anything more feminine than taking an extreme approach in the name of vanity and approval from others.
It has nothing to do with banging chicks, starting fights, getting buff or being a dick. Masculinity is about internal mastery, independence and confidence. This means being able to manage your own emotions internally without showing weakness. It also means being confident and independent enough to be assertive and risk taking. They are leadership behaviors.
Some can develop this, some can't. For those that can't the results can be brutal. Being depressed in a society that punishes depression.
The three most damaging words I believe you can tell your child is to "be a man". Many kids are being brought up on that phrase, and it's unhealthy and uncompromising.
Maybe in a perfect world. But traditional masculine men have the best life outcomes. If you have a son, you would want him to show those characteristics.
They are the leaders, have higher employment value and higher sexual value than feminized men. If they can handle it, it will develop character traits that are valued by society, if they can't... well yeah it will be damaging. But a parent has a responsibility to know when you are pushing your child too hard.
EDIT: the world is slowly changing though. Look at how popular it is for young guys to hit the gym/steroids and get huge. They think it is masculine, but I couldn't think of anything more feminine than taking an extreme approach in the name of vanity and approval from others.