Yes it's me Curious. My curiousity has lead me too another problem. Well, not exactly..
You see, it all started with my friend at school. I am the smartest kid in my year level and my grade. My what I like to call her - frenemy gives me dirty looks and talks to other people and to me sarcastically yet in a mean way. She is quite smart too, but it an attention seeker and loves to bathe in it, that's what she's known for. She's got most of the year level and all of my grade wrapped around her finger. Firstly, with the sarcastic and mean remarkes she tries to offend me and put me down. I don't know what school is for her, it must be a competition since everytime I do a little bit more work than her or gett a better mark she says comments to to other people; knowing I can hear her like:
"No, at least I am not a nerd"
"I chose to do my assignment simple"
Anyway, I do not know how to react nicely since with her it's Fire against Fire. I am honestly really cackling at how she is insulting me for being something she wants to be? She depises me for the thing that she wants to be. Any advice on how to respond?
Many kids call me a nerd yet they ask me for help. I am a really good person, but I don't help them and I won't help her either..
An example of what I mean is this:
I post on my Facebook Status that I have ART homework. She of course asks me and I don't reply because I am busy. She then accuses me of making her stress when it's her fault for taking it that way. She firstly then write on her wall:
"Whoevers is in 8D please tell me what the Art homework is cause (My full name goes here) says we have some."
I reply: "It's art."
She replies and says: "Oh, I don't care about art. Let Nathan the nerd deal with the homework."
Then about 5 minutes later she askes me in chat: "Whats the Art Homework?"
I am like so confused. She said she didn't care about it, calls me a nerd for doing it and being interested in it yet then she has the hypocritical nerve to ask me what it is?
I replied: "Why should I tell you? It seems like you weren't interested in it before? I'm sorry, according to you I am too nerdy. Kthanksbye"
The she replies: "You're such a b***h. You have become b****y towards me for no reason. Yarararara we she knows what shes done.
The convo goes on from here about being you-know-what..
So.. any advice on how I should confront her?
Well, let's get the simple diagnosis out of the way: She's obviously two-faced. Two-faced people crave attention and don't know any positive way to get it. She's evil to you in public to keep up whatever appearance she has, but she isn't really like that. I won't say she's an angel if you get to know her, but she's certainly not that mean if she asks you simple questions.
To resolve it, don't do anything stupid that would cause excess drama. No violence, no arguing, no physical altercation of any kind. Now, you're obviously a smart person. Hit her on the mental level. Confuse her, prove her wrong, make her look like an idiot. If you do it right, she won't understand enough of it to escalate it.
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I happen to have a problem as well:
For the past six months I've been with this chick named Hayley. When I met her, we traded some wild stories and told each other everything that's ever happened to us. Within the first two days, she told me a few different ages: 21, 17, and 16. The latter proved true, but I didn't think anything of her lying.
We went on our happy little lives for two months. Everything was perfect 'cause I was dating my dream girl (red hair, glasses, has a gothic schoolgirl outfit). One day, we were talking and she admitted that most of the stories she had told me were lies. That was actually a good thing because those stories had been pretty bad. Once again, another little red flag went up in my mind and I ignored it.
Four months in, she texts me. She has something to admit: She was hanging out alone with her "long-lost friend", her friends saw them, and said friends threatened to tell me. At first I didn't think much of it, but then I realized that if her friends had to threaten her to get her to tell me, it must have been bad.
That's where I lost it. All of my trust in her vanished, and I flat-out banned her from hanging out alone with guys. At this point, I started thinking a lot. If she had lied to me so much in the past about very important things, how could I trust her? I decided to give it some time.
Time kept going by and she had me whipped. I was only allowed to talk when she was in a good mood, my hugs were deemed inadequate at times, and if I didn't talk to her in X amount of time, she'd get upset. She continues to be this way, even today. But that's not the problem.
Enter Jessica, the chick next to me in English. We started talking a few weeks ago because we were both stuck in crappy relationships. With her, my hugs are never inadequate and she never gets mad at me for talking. I look forward to hugging her, and I could date her very soon if I wanted because her cheating ex dumped her.
But she isn't all that good. She's
the scum of the earth a Juggalo. She smokes, she's a sex addict, and she does multiple kinds of drugs. Pretty much everything I stand against. I've hated her friends for years, I openly insult several of her exes, and I'm on the verge of pulling a Scott Pilgrim and fighting one of them just to make sure she's safe.
The problem: What do I do? Do I stay with the emotionally abusive chick I'm with, go to the drug-addled wannabe clown, or go back to my previous lifestyle of vengeful, meaningless sex (TSO does not approve of that)?
