Master Jecht said:
i like a girl with a nice eyes and a bright smile. Those two features are just stunning. I don't know why but when a girl puts on a hat they get twice as hot in my view.
Alakazam17 said:
Well, they have to be intelligent, kind-hearted, funny, not obsessed about looks, a little quiet, and probably a little crazy. XD
As for appearance, I have a thing for brunettes. I rarely find myself attracted to a blonde girl, oddly enough.
cεll said:
I like girls with a sense of humor and that great smile on their face everytime you look at them.
The eyes really matter. I prefer brown alot <3. And she should be really cute..
Date me, you three! Just kidding.
The question here is, what do I value in the opposite sex? *thinks dreamily of the Black Cat Bandits, fictional characters she's created*
The Outside
It really is hard to find guys with long hair, but I find it sexy. If it's shorter than two inches it annoys me... I don't care about the colour though, of their skin or their hair. I'm not picky when it comes to figure, but generally the thinner and leaner the better... but it depends--sometimes the stockier guys are really handsome! Nor do I care about height--they can be tall, short, whatever. I also don't care about age--I once fell in love with a man who was fifteen years older than me and I was fine with it. Also, a pretty face is a definite turn-on for me, but glasses are a no-no unless there are pretty eyes behind it or if his hair is long and curly. Gee, I'm picky, aren't I? Oh and also, a guy HAS to be clean; stinkiness is a definite turnoff unless he's just so unbearably attractive in other categories.
I also like guys who have a good fashion sense, who don't try to look too plain or conservative. I like guys with style! (And this goes for personality too, as I'll explain later.)
{Compare this to my boyfriend. He's kinda blah in figure, nothing too interesting. He wears glasses but doesn't have a pretty face to back it up. His hair is short and slightly spiked. And although he keeps himself clean, he keeps his room kinda messy. Meh, oh well.}
The Inside
I like guys' personalities to be passionate or exciting, or a combination of both. Intelligence and/or cleverness and wit is a big plus. But in addition to being respectful and supportive, he must also be confident in himself, enough so that I'm intrigued by his life, but not to the point where he spends all his time bragging. I really don't like it when guys are too modest or have a monotone voice.
As far as the issue of domination goes... Well, thinking that girls are inferior is a huge turnoff, of course. I don't think I'd like to be called a dog all the time (nope, not even when the wolf is one of my favourite animals). But I don't like him to be too passive or submissive. I like to be able to have a say in things, true, but I like guys who are productive in ideas, who can take the initiative most of the time. But he still has to have an open mind, and not shut himself off to everything I say. Oh, and I hate arguing and competing, so I don't like guys who value those two. I'd prefer someone I can easily keep the peace with. Haha, but I also enjoy guys who like doing things for me--that's one reason why I'm keeping my boyfriend for now! Not as in a slave, but as in someone who enjoys enjoys giving things to me and/or taking me places. (Or, someone I can feel comfortable taking places. I find it amusing that I have a car while my boyfriend doesn't even have a license. XD)
As far as the issue of sex drive goes... I obviously don't want a guy who wants nothing but sex with me, so that eliminates one extreme. Other than that, I don't really care how sensual or touchy-feely he is--heck, he could be completely uninterested in sex and I'd still love him.
A lot of turnons come in the form of similarities to myself. I like guys who share quite a bit in common with me, yet still has a few differences that keep me interested. But it's not a must. However, he must sort of fit in with my interests. I don't care that much for guys who are obsessed with sports or gambling (okay, an interest in sports is fine, but...), but a definite turnon is someone who shares a few common interests with me. I'll happily accept a geek, especially if they're into RPG's like me. Artistic guys are awesome too, as are guys who like to party. And guys with a dark side are so awesomely awesome that I can't describe the awesomeness in words! Dark sides cause my heart to melt like dark chocolate. And if he's a bit daring and enjoys breaking a rule or two... <3 In turn though, he must also be able to handle my own dark side and my own individuality. Xenophobes and faint hearts won't last two days with me.
And now for more huge turnons:
-Similarity in religion. This is such a huge turnon that if it's there, I automatically fall in love. Being a very spiritual person myself, I really go for that. Sorry, muggles (and maybe evangelists) frustrate me...
-The ability to speak from his heart. I always do, so I expect the same.
-Did I not mention a dark side?
-Similarity in music tastes. If you like dance and/or new age, count me in. Being a music lover myself, I'm especially turned on by this.
-If lacking in similar interests, acceptance of my interests and by beliefs. That's not a turnon--it's a must. I almost started hating my boyfriend when he said (years ago) that he didn't like my religion.
-Loving nature, animals included. (Well, my religion worships nature, so that goes hand in hand.)
-Someone who has a group of friends I can get along well with. I'm very fond of friend groups.
And now for things that are popular turnoffs, but I don't mind:
-Lacking a sense of humour. I can provide that for him. (But he has to be able to laugh!)
-Drug addicts. As long as he doesn't force the drug on me or constantly blow smoke in my face, it's fine. And if the drug is illegal, it might even become a turnon!
-Interest in other girls. As long as it doesn't cause him to neglect me, it's fine. I personally hate having to choose only
one significant other anyway. This also means I'm perfectly okay with dating someone who already has a girlfriend. Attraction is natural and shouldn't be limited to one person.
-On a similar note, someone who's into porn. Porn doesn't bother me...
-Someone who swears a lot. As my history teacher said, swearing is what prevents people from shooting each other. And f**k censoring. (Gee, that last sentence was hypocritical...)
-My family and friends hate him, and/or his family and friends hate me. As long as he doesn't succumb to them, it's fine.
-Being assertive. As long as he isn't too persistent on the things he suggests, I like guys who give suggestions.
-Selfishness. He doesn't have to value me over himself. As long as he still cares for me a little bit, it's fine.
-Imperfection. He doesn't have to fit my ideal boyfriend description exactly. Otherwise I would be breaking up with my boyfriend about now!
And now for more turnoffs:
-Someone who doesn't like my tastes in music.
-Someone who believes dark sides are a bad thing.
-Fear of the dark. And I don't mean the song by Iron Maiden. (Which is awesome IMO.)
-Disrespect for any aspect of my personality. This is a huge one.
-Someone who sounds like he's bored with me every time I talk to him.
-Someone who hates my family and/or friends.
-Someone who's really,
really strict about me avoiding other guys. Or anything, for that matter.
-Someone who can't keep a secret. I can, so I expect the same.
-A "territorial" guy; that is, someone who will try his best to keep other guys away from me.
-Someone who tries to mold me into someone I'm not. He has to like me just the way I am. Okay, I can change a little, but it depends on how much the change conflicts with my personality.
*Note: All of the above turnoffs, with the exception of disrespect and the last one, can be forgiven if I'm attracted to him enough. I can forgive pretty easily...
...Wow. I sure said a lot about guys, didn't I? I bet you can guess how straight I am...
