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Brother-in-law frustrations

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    • Seen Mar 29, 2015
    This entry is a follow-up for my "Hardships of reality" entry, as I've now figured out what was causing all of the pressure that I had during the summer.

    Surprisingly enough, it wasn't my workplace - in spite of this place being as stressful as it can be, there are people who actually appreciate the work that I put in there, & that alone keeps me going through this.

    Now, the real thing is something that goes a bit deeper than that. The problem in question lies within my brother-in-law. In other words, he's the husband to my half-sister. He's not a bad person at all, don't get me wrong, however there's one thing about him that really kills me.

    He is a very needy person, maybe bordering on the cynical. What I'm saying here is that since I've went back home, he keeps hounding me to help him. It's one thing to be asking for help, but sometimes I've got my own problems that I need to deal with. This was the case this past weekend, when he snapped at me for not offering to do anything that Sunday morning. Hey, I've had a 7 & a half hour shift at my workplace ahead of me, & I'd be damned if I have someone ruin my day by interrupting my peace & quiet, so that I can keep calm during my time at work. Nope, he's so hell-bent on harassing me to help him with I don't know what...

    It was even worse when I was with him in summer... That one time, he was feeling confrontational & kept saying that I'm not helping enough. How?! I'm cleaning up your bloody mess on a weekly basis, I'm trying to aid you in getting dinner on your table whenever I'm not at work, & overall doing what you're telling me as best I can. & he's telling me that I'm not doing enough?!

    ...If anything is going to push me into eating a bullet, this is going to do it, if this keeps up or even escalates. Having to deal with my workplace, & needy, snobby brother-in-law, & a hypocritical sister? That was too much... & I'm not doing that again, & thankfully, I don't have to.
     

    Synerjee

    [font=Itim]Atra du evarinya ono varda.[/font]
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  • Hang in there, bro. Have you tried confronting your brother-in-law about this situation yet? Perhaps he had been unaware about what you've been doing for him. Maybe bring it to his attention that you've already been helping him out as much as possible? Also, perhaps try actually offering help every now and then. I'm sure he would appreciate the initiative a lot. Best wishes.
     

    Le pug

    Creator of Pokémon: Discovery / Fat Kid
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  • 1-800-273-TALK (8255) Suicide Prevention Hotline.
    Don't joke about this kind of stuff, nothing is worth killing yourself over. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Seek help if you feel you need it.
     
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