He's not the dominant sort, but he's...fragile. He sees me as his big, dominant, comforting BF, and if I challenge that by acting subby or liking htings like that, it sort of messes with his mental image of me. He's...complex.
That said, I could violate any of his request at any time, but he'd probably be really hurt if I did. He wouldn't stop me if I tried to, though.