not all types of cheating occurs because someone falls in love with someone else. quite a bit of it occurs because people can't manage their lust in the right manor.Cheating is never acceptable, it is understandable if you no longer love the person/developed a feeling to an another person, just cut off the relationship cleanly before starting a new one.
not all types of cheating occurs because someone falls in love with someone else. quite a bit of it occurs because people can't manage their lust in the right manor.
Absolutely! :)I'm curious here since I've never been in an open relationship - how? This is gonna sound terrible but I've always seen an open relationship as a closed one where cheating is basically allowed. Saying "we're together but you can sleep with other people" is, in my mind, essentially permitting cheating. I'm obviously not exactly right there but... yeah, could you explain this?
Is this a joke? You can't blame another person when you cheated on them. If you know that you are incapable of being monogamous, then you should know better than to enter into monogamous relationships. It sounds like you have poor willpower if you can't say no to "many people," and the fact that you shift the blame like that is really sad.Ive cheated on many people. Anyone whos ever been dumb enough to try to talk me into dating them after I warned them. Cant say I feel guilt for them inviting it.
honestly, that can't even be called cheating. they got into the relationship knowing full well she was more then likely going to sleep with other people & they got into the relationship anyway and thus agreed to her doing so. the only time they could be upset is if she brought back an std(if she doesn't have one already, that is).Is this a joke? You can't blame another person when you cheated on them. If you know that you are incapable of being monogamous, then you should know better than to enter into monogamous relationships. It sounds like you have poor willpower if you can't say no to "many people," and the fact that you shift the blame like that is really sad.
~Psychic
No, cheating is defined as any romantic or sexual relations done without your partner's consent. The only time having relations outside of a relationship isn't considered cheating is if you have your partner's specific permission in advance. This is clearly not the case for Ashes to Ashes, who herself admitted that it was cheating, and to say otherwise shows a fundamental lack of understanding of the definition of fidelity and trust.honestly, that can't even be called cheating. they got into the relationship knowing full well she was more then likely going to sleep with other people & they got into the relationship anyway and thus agreed to her doing so. the only time they could be upset is if she brought back an std(if she doesn't have one already, that is).
she said to each person she dated that she may sleep around if they got into the relationship. at that point, anyone who wanted to get into the relationship could not do so without consenting to her sleeping around.No, cheating is defined as any romantic or sexual relations done without your partner's consent. The only time having relations outside of a relationship isn't considered cheating is if you have your partner's specific permission in advance. This is clearly not the case for Ashes to Ashes, who herself admitted that it was cheating, and to say otherwise shows a fundamental lack of understanding of the definition of fidelity and trust.
Again, Ashes to Ashes should not have entered into these monogamous relationships in the first place if she couldn't be monogamous. Considering that she did this "many times" and won't actually own up to the fact that nobody is to blame but herself, this is clearly not the moral high ground. If a man tells a woman "I'm a bad man" when they enter into a relationship, if he abuses her then he is still responsible for his own actions, and you can't blame the woman because "well, he warned you." The onus is on the person who is doing wrong, especially because they clearly know better.
~Psychic
I give in because its easier to let them get hurt than to put up with nagging, and more beneficial for them than punching them in the face. These people know who I am and what Im like. I warn them beforehand. They insist, so I let them see how crazy they are. Most of them learn their lesson afterwards and are better for it.Absolutely! :)
The thing to keep in mind is that not all open relationships are necessarily the same. If a couple decides to open up their relationship, they generally have a conversation that sets some ground rules and establishes boundaries, and those differ based on individuals' levels of comfort and so on. Examples of those rules can be:
So if a couple sets a rule/condition, and one person breaks that rule, then it's still cheating. It's very important for those in open relationships to clearly establish boundaries in advance, because you want to make sure everyone is on the same page and no feelings get hurt.
- "please let me know in advance if you are planning on sleeping with someone"
- "we can do X with other people, but not Y"
- "I'm okay if you sleep with women, but not men"
- "no forming emotional attachments with other people"
Is this a joke? You can't blame another person when you cheated on them. If you know that you are incapable of being monogamous, then you should know better than to enter into monogamous relationships. It sounds like you have poor willpower if you can't say no to "many people," and the fact that you shift the blame like that is really sad.
~Psychic
Ashes to Ashes never actually told us what she told the people she dated - it sounds like you're just making assumptions, here. Her partners almost certainly would have asked her not to cheat on them if she had "warned" them, so that isn't valid. Either way, Ashes to Ashes literally said that she cheated on these guys - you can't even feign moral ambiguity here, because she admits it was cheating.she said to each person she dated that she may sleep around if they got into the relationship. at that point, anyone who wanted to get into the relationship could not do so without consenting to her sleeping around.
I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way. I can't imagine that these were enjoyable experiences for you, especially being pursued by people who can't take "no" for an answer. *shudders*I give in because its easier to let them get hurt than to put up with nagging, and more beneficial for them than punching them in the face. These people know who I am and what Im like. I warn them beforehand. They insist, so I let them see how crazy they are. Most of them learn their lesson afterwards and are better for it.
if either is abusing the other & neither one of them is a masochist, then they shouldn't even be in a relationship to begin with. thats the type of crap that leads to one of them in prison or on the run & the other to the grave.I think cheating is by definition unacceptable. If having sex with people outside of a relationship is acceptable, you wouldn't be calling it cheating (unless it's part of a cuckold fetish and that's complicated). I mean, to say that cheating is acceptable is to say that having that breach of trust is acceptable because that's what cheating really is at its core (as evidenced by how people can have sex outside of a relationship without a breach of trust). As for people in abusive relationships, I consider it de facto dead if one person decides the relationship isn't for them any longer but is otherwise compelled to stay. Some relationships can be very complicated, however, with both partners abusing each other yet claiming to want to stay with each other. In such cases, I would say that cheating is still wrong to the extent that one's trust is breached.