Flame Claw
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I don't lie, I tell the truth. THAT's what worries them.
We've all done it and there's no shame in admitting it. The real question is why we do it and for what reasons? Are we to be blamed for lying to our parents? Are there certain situations where we should lie to them? If we get caught, should we be upset even though we lied?
Just recently I had a friend speak about her sister and the fact that she lies to her mom. She created a facebook page and kept it a secret just so her mom wouldn't know about it. The irony of it all is that her mom even asked her if she wanted to make a facebook account (note: the mom has one herself) and the daughter told her no, even though she already had one.
Well, eventually someone found out and told her mom about it. My friend's sister ended up getting in trouble for lying and keeping it secret, while in the end she was angry at her mom. I mean, why? She lied about it, her mom even offered, and she said no. Does she have a right to be angry? To me, I wouldn't say so, especially since her mom offered. This is just one of her lies amongst many while growing up though.
I used to not lie to my parents, then I reached puberty. When I lie to my parents, it usually something that involves me doing rebel stuff like telling them where am I, did I clean the room, am I using the computer, or stuff like that.
They're... harmless lie so I don't think that it matters but..
This.I lie to avoid getting in trouble from my parents... but another reason is because I get embarrassed pretty easily from my personal tastes. It's so bad it's almost like a complex.
Spoiler:It depends on the reasons behind the lying. The act itself isn't negative (imo), it all depends on the motive.
Hiiro's example is an odd one, but I think I can understand the girl's point of view. She probably didn't want her mum controlling her Facebook account, which is why she declined the offer and then proceeded to make one herself. It's a statement of independence, everyone likes to feel like they have some sort of control in their life, especially in the young teen years where you're just passing from being an entirely dependent child into a much more independent young adult. Some people just like to hasten that process.
I don't know how old your friends sister is, but I'd guess she's about 10-14? Correct me if I'm wrong. She probably notices everyone older than her having a Facebook and sees it as something that would make her an adult, and she wouldn't want her mum involved in that.
Or of course, she could just be doing things she shouldn't be doing on there.
Lying is something that's natural, and I think the majority of the time there is a good reason for it. In order to avoid a negative situation, being judged by other people, being punished, losing out on a good oppurtunity, etc. the world is too harsh for people to be honest all the time, and that's just as true for kids as it is for adults. I personally think it's only a minority that lie for malicious reasons.
When it comes to parents, they're the main authority figure in a child's life. Nobody likes having someone in control that tells them what to do and what they shouldn't be doing, and almost every child is going to lie to their parents about certain subjects. They know what's expected of them, they know what they shouldn't be doing and they'd rather tell a quick and simple lie than face the consequences. I think a lot of people would.
And for some families as well, parents don't feel like a 'parent', they don't feel like someone you're close with and able to trust and tell anything. In some cases they are literally only an authority figure, a more accurate description would be the family police officer. At least, that's what it feels like with my parents. I'm sure some would say the same.
I'm someone who will only be honest with someone I'm personally close with emotionally. With some subjects, I'm not going to trust anyone. That's just how I am. Whether my parents ask about certain things, or if it's a stranger on the street, my response will be the same. Just because they're my parents doesn't mean they get a free pass to know about my thoughts, feelings and actions. As a result, I will lie about some things. I don't think that's wrong, I think it's natural. Nobody's really to blame I think. I don't blame my parents for not having a strong emotional bond with me, and I think that is what is really required if there's to be honesty. It's just the way things are.
I lie to avoid getting in trouble from my parents... but another reason is because I get embarrassed pretty easily from my personal tastes. It's so bad it's almost like a complex.