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Have you tried explaining your side to people who won't even try to understand?
I always understand, in fact, I gained a lot of friends for I never judge a person without understanding them.
But they're different when they treated me, but I never did something to them, they just label that what I did was " bad and unforgivable "
and I really got shocked about it. The next day, as I entered our room, eyes that pierces my very heart, they stared at me
with malicious kind of thinking. I am afraid.
Well, think it over -- were your actions justifiable? (It'd be nice to know what you actually did so people who want to help you can give a better judgment, but if you really would rather not post what happened, know that you may not receive very helpful feedback.) If these people aren't even willing to give you the time of day to let you justify whatever you did, then they're not exactly being good friends themselves. They might need a little time to get over whatever happened, but if their anger persists, perhaps it's time for you to try making new friends.One of them talked to me, and I explained what happened. You know what he/she said? ( covering the gender )
" Bah! just shut up will you, I don't care about you anymore! " ...
Don't let social issues get in the way of your education, you'll probably regret that more than any mistake you've made in the past. (There are worse adversities you could be facing.) Just try to move along, and hope that your friends will give you a second chance. We've all made mistakes, I'm sure they have, and it seems a bit unfair to leave you high and dry when you (claim to) be the one to, as you said, always understand. Of course, like I said, this situation is hard to judge considering you haven't told us what you did.I'm afraid I'm losing my touch in going to school.
It's okay to "understand" as long as you're not letting people walk all over you. It's hard to trust people, especially when they've hurt you, but I don't think it's best to hold grudges -- which is actually what they seem to be doing. If you really had a good reason for doing whatever you did and your friends are that stubborn, then you'll have to let them think what they want to think until the situation blows over. But if you get an opportunity (don't constantly bother them about it), try to get them to acknowledge your stance, and at the same time listen to theirs. Even if your actions were justifiable, I suggest you throw in some apologies. Also, don't spaz out and ignite a crazy argument (you don't seem like the type to do that, but just in casies), remain calm and rational.I feel really depressed. Is it right for me to just always understand? Is it right for me to let them think what they want to think?
Just keep your head up for now, you control your emotions, don't let this get to you so much.