Ok, I've pass by this thread quite a few times and never really thought much of it. I have a boat load of problems and I have no ide how to handle them. So here we go.
1.) One of my best friends is having relationship issues. By issues, I mean this is seriously bad. This guy put her in the hospital a few months ago for 3 weeks. I was sleeping when my phone went off. My friend was being abused by her boyfriend, and was hysterical. After deciphering her hysteria, I jumped out of bed (In my pajamas which were sweat pants and an old grey hoodie from my first boyfriend that he never asked for), got my keys, put on my shoes and drove down to where she was. Well, now that she's in school, he's been stalking her and asking her out. He can make you believe that cows can fly. She isn't sure about what she wants, and I don't want to go through the hospital thing again.
2.) My bus driver doesn't do anything about the kids behaivour on the afternoon bus. These kids swear, fight, basically beat the crap out of each other. The only people who actually do anything are myself and my best friend (from issue number 1). I've been punched, bitten, sworn at, kicked, stabbed with a pencil, hit with a notebook a few times. There are 5 little kids, all girls in kindergarten. This 6th grader and 4th grader are constantly beating them up. They all come running off the bus when I'm walking out of school and tackle hug me. They call me Aunt Angel since I'm the one who protects them. What can I do?
3.) Love life. Worst possible issue I have. I have a horrible love life. 3 ex boyfriends. 1st one cheated on me with my cousin, 2nd one left me because he was gay, 3rd one left because he moved to NC and got engaged. They all broke up with me on Valentine's Day too. 1st one has been stalking me lately, and I've already gotten police involved. Trouble is, they can't find him. No one can. I am depressed as all crap and have no idea how to handle anything anymore. I want to lock myself in my room and never come out.
Possible help please? Before I go anymore insane than school has made me would be lovely. Thank you. Sorry if it was rant-like, just needed to let it out.
I'm going to respond rationally and you may not like the responses, but please listen because it's always important not to lose your head when things get serious.
1) You must get BOTH of them to councelling. Her because I'm confused as to why she is still with him and to help her get through emotional trauma and him because... he's stupid.
You may begin this by going to a GP and work your way up from there. Going to the police, as a poster said beforehand, may be a good way to deal with it, but it may put strain on your relationship with your friend and you do not want to risk that unless it really is that bad. I'm not sure about the exact situation so I can't say much, but you'll want to only go to the police if you feel that your friend is not capable of making good decisions. Before going to the police however, you'd want to go to her parents and talk to them because they're going to find out eventually, it's better they know sooner than later.
2) Talk to your teachers, talk to the guys that are beating the kids up. Other than that, there isn't much you can do.
3) Stuff relationships. I know this is hard, but try to learn to be happy without being in a relationship. I know society puts a load on how important relationships are but they are simply a means to happiness. If you can be happy without being in a relationship, then there is no point in pursuing one until a good one comes to you.
I think you should also get some councelling. Since you're feeling depressed, you shouldn't let it go any further. If you don't want to go councelling, talk to people you are close to. If you are uncomfortable with letting it all out at once, then hint it, let it out in segments. Preferably a woman (I don't know if youre a man or a woman, but regardless, men seem to not give a crap compared to women, and this is coming from a man). Try to make the person you're talking to a friend in real life and not someone over the internet. Though it can seem like a good friendship, internet relationships can't really be trusted as you don't know who you are actually talking to, what they're actually like and so on.
PM me if you'd like to talk about it, but it would be much wiser to find a close, trusted friend whom you can talk to in person.
PS: I would also like to add that Scarf and sweetdreams have excellent advice on your situation.
My Problem (WARNING: Suggestive language used, as media dubs it, "Parental Guidance reccomended)
I'm broken from my relationship with my ex-girlfriend. It was buried nice and deep and I really thought I was over her from a month or so after the break up till a few months ago (Um, we broke up September 2009). And now, I can't seem to trust myself with other women. I'm very careful with my actions, but sometimes it slips and this girl that I was crushing on, I told her that I like her. AND now, she's completely whipped over me and I'm still just kinda crushing on her. I'm not doing anything with her, but I don't want to hurt her. I think with gentle direction away from me, she'll realise I'm not the right guy for her, but on matters with my ex-girlfriend, I'm just confused.
We did stuff under the covers when we were going out, but since we broke up, I haven't been able to do it with anyone else. I go to clubs thinking, "doesn't matter if nothing happens, but if it does, meh I'm good with it" but I chicken out. My ex, however, has a boyfriend that she rebounded to, and ended up "falling in love" with. They've done
everything if you get my drift. Surprise surprise however, I'm very critical of their relationship because I know how she is and it's put me off from the idea of love, at-least, for her. It's just lusting. However, for me, I really do love her but I know I can't do anything until atleast next year when she finished year 12 and her boyfriend goes to year 12 (HSC - sorta like the AP in america or VCE in melbourne, puts a large strain on relationships) and that is when I'll have any chance with her. As sinister and unfitting of me it is, it's my only option.
I'm not sure about anything when it comes to relationships now and I've hurt too many people over her on a subconsious level.
Mentally, I'm fine, but emotionally, I'm not sure at all.
