The Post Your Problems Thread

[pokemonranger109]

hey have you tried puting it in a zip lock bag full of white rice my bro gets miousture/water in his cell phone and leave it in there for a day and i dried it up

 

[Dragonite's Wrath]

No, because I dont think I have any, and if I did, my stepdad(hate him) would notice and ask why its gone. He would find out about the wiimote, and then say something that makes no sense, bring up something I did when I was 6, and then destroy my Wii Console. I'm NOT exagerating about this
I've gotten water on them before (a few drops) and theyre always in the jackets, but what I'm worried about is the sugar

 

[Charizard★]

Well, just wanted to get some opinions on some of my 'problem' or whatever you would like to call them.

The main thing I dislike about myself is that I lack social skills. I always tend to be shy whenever I meet someone new and I don't talk much. I tend to always tell my self, I'm going to change, I'm going to be more outgoing, but I always tend to back out of it. Guess a main reason for that is the way I look. I'm not what you call 'handsome' so I'm a bit self conscious. And because of those two things I'm basically a shut in. I'd come home from school, and go straight home, unless I have clubs or sports, but I hardly ever go to anywhere else. Even in the summer I stay inside. Kinda abnormal don't you think?

 

[Alley Cat]

Well, just wanted to get some opinions on some of my 'problem' or whatever you would like to call them.

The main thing I dislike about myself is that I lack social skills. I always tend to be shy whenever I meet someone new and I don't talk much. I tend to always tell my self, I'm going to change, I'm going to be more outgoing, but I always tend to back out of it. Guess a main reason for that is the way I look. I'm not what you call 'handsome' so I'm a bit self conscious. And because of those two things I'm basically a shut in. I'd come home from school, and go straight home, unless I have clubs or sports, but I hardly ever go to anywhere else. Even in the summer I stay inside. Kinda abnormal don't you think?

Lots of people have social anxiety/fear of social occurence etcetc. I know that I do too. The best cure? Just get in there, and get down. Just tell yourself, that everything is going to be okay. Just let go of your fears and let yourself have fun. You're the only one stopping yourself from having fun. If you need to take a breather, then go take one. If someone does something you are uncomfortable with(i.e. hugging) then let them know that you are uncomfortable with that and don't want them to. Because I know firsthand, that's its A LOT easier to get out and have fun when people aren't making you uncomfortable. It isn't their intention, in most cases, it's just the type of person that they, and more often than not, it is because they WANT you to be more comfortable, so they try to include you. But if for any reason, something makes you uncomfortable, just ask if they could not do it. The only way to get over this really, is too keep going out and having to be put in these social situations. Good luck.

 

[Ray Maverick]

I feel empty inside... I'm very bored, and I find myself in my bed wondering "to be or not to be."

tl;dr I'm freaking bored

 

[Alley Cat]

I feel empty inside... I'm very bored, and I find myself in my bed wondering "to be or not to be."

tl;dr I'm freaking bored

Get out more! You say you sit in bet wondering.. well maybe that's why you're bored! DUH! Get out of the house, go do stuff, try somethng new. Put on a hat and dance around, go swimming, ride your bike, do whatever you want, and just have fun doing it! It doesn't matter what people have to say or do, just be you, and have fun doing it!

 

[kidpunk]

I am honestly lost. This thread has been so helpful to me in the past, so here we go again.

For the past couple of weeks, I've been very depressed. It's for many reasons, due to the fact that I have little friends who I never hang out with in real life, and that I've been realizing that the only people who care about me are on the internet. I know it sounds stupid, but that's how it is for me. Because of this, I've been feeling incredibly lonely and losing all hope. I'm not going to do anything extreme, but I just want so much to change. I've been trying to hide it around my friends, because I'm not the person to act depressed around them. I'm always the hyped up guy who can be there for anyone. However, I have told my best friend. She is extremely understanding, never judgmental, and always there for me.

Here's the problem: She is kind of in the same hole I am. She just recently broke up with her boyfriend, who is 22 (She is 19). Let me give you a background on this guy so you know where I'm going to lead to. He is a compulsive liar, a drug addict, lives at home, has no job, parents completely spoil him, he parties and hangs out with his friends to much (to the point where he was avoiding her), and he was never there for her. He broke up with her only to want her back and repeat the process. Now he wants to go out with her again and he promises he has changed his ways, which I know is not true. His excuses for their two breakups are such B.S. that it isn't even remotely believable. He made her feel so bad about herself and he still wants her back. She cries to me about every other day, saying that she is lonely and that she has no one who cares about her. I try to give her advice, but she either ignores it or says she will try it, and never does. I want to stop giving it due to this, but I am just so hurt by hearing her like this everyday that I keep giving in.

I am still recovering from a relationship that ended terribly about a year ago. Let's just say that afterwards I did things I will always regret and I'm just now understand my sanity and regaining it. The problem is that I care so much about her that I want to be with her. We have so much in common and she tells me I'm her best friend. I'm on the phone with her for hours and we both share our problems. I've had so many deep conversations with her that I know her like a book. I want to help her and myself by going out, because maybe this will ease our pain of being lonely. She honestly is the only person that understands where I'm coming from. She tells me that she wants a guy that will be there for her: When she is sad, to call her or be at her house. To always be talking to her, etc. There are a few problems with this, though.

1. It would be an internet relationship. She lives in California and I live in New Jersey. I know it is stupid. However, she is the only person who has cared for me in such a way that I depend on her. She is the only person that can cheer me up and she makes my days better. When I'm depressed, I depend on her.

2. Age difference. While this usually isn't a problem, she is 19 (out of HS) and I'm a 16 year old Junior. This seems awkward for me, but it really shouldn't be a problem.

3. The fact that she is my best friend. I care about her so much in this respect that if I tell her how I feel, I might feel that I would lose her as a friend. I don't want that to happen to me. I don't want the only person who cares to not be my friend anymore.

4. I feel that we are slowly growing apart, and this is the only way that we can preserve our friendship.

I know she wants to meet a guy that can be there for her in her life (and live by her so that she can see that person everyday). I'm completely lost, so any suggestion I will take seriously. Thanks for reading.

 

[~*!*~Tatsujin Gosuto~*!*~]

I feel empty inside... I'm very bored, and I find myself in my bed wondering "to be or not to be."

tl;dr I'm freaking bored

Adding on to Alley Cat, if you do not feel like going outside surf the internet for things to do online and pick it up as a hobby, you never know you may love to do this and the feeling will go away. I kind of felt empty inside (but not too severely) and what I did was ask my mom to buy some craft sticks and now I'm making a good house out of it and its fun to do.


:t354:TG

 

[Lashh]

Hello, I am here with quite the serious problem and I hope someone will have haste in their reply, this is something VERY serious.

Earlier this week, two ASU students were shot to death in my neighborhood in the earliest hours of Wednesday morning. The two didn't even live in the neighborhood, and after doing a little bit of investigating, it's obvious that this tragedy is a drug deal gone wrong, ecstasy is what I'm thinking. The suspect is a hispanic male in his 20s.

Here's where we get to my end of this situation- after more snooping on the internet and eavesdropping conversations amongst friends who've been to the high school in my neighborhood and who've been to the highschool of the murdered ASU students. After all this, I think I have an idea of who the killer in this case might be. However, while I do want to turn him in because I know it's the right thing to do, I don't want anything to fall back on me in fear of my own safety. So, I honestly do not know what I should do. I really really want to send this lead to the police and bring these boys justice, but like I mentioned before, I have a fear for my own safety.

So, people, any suggestions? Like I said, this is some serious stuff right here.

 

[Livewire]

Hello, I am here with quite the serious problem and I hope someone will have haste in their reply, this is something VERY serious.

Earlier this week, two ASU students were shot to death in my neighborhood in the earliest hours of Wednesday morning. The two didn't even live in the neighborhood, and after doing a little bit of investigating, it's obvious that this tragedy is a drug deal gone wrong, ecstasy is what I'm thinking. The suspect is a hispanic male in his 20s.

Here's where we get to my end of this situation- after more snooping on the internet and eavesdropping conversations amongst friends who've been to the high school in my neighborhood and who've been to the highschool of the murdered ASU students. After all this, I think I have an idea of who the killer in this case might be. However, while I do want to turn him in because I know it's the right thing to do, I don't want anything to fall back on me in fear of my own safety. So, I honestly do not know what I should do. I really really want to send this lead to the police and bring these boys justice, but like I mentioned before, I have a fear for my own safety.

So, people, any suggestions? Like I said, this is some serious stuff right here.

Holy crap dude.

Well, If you are completely sure about who did it, then yes, file a police report or submit an anonymous tip. People are dead because of that. Justice has to be served. You should be able to get the information to the police in anonymity.

 

[Lashh]

Holy crap dude.

Well, If you are completely sure about who did it, then yes, file a police report or submit an anonymous tip. People are dead because of that. Justice has to be served. You should be able to get the information to the police in anonymity.

Holy crap is exactly what I was thinking the entire time. And thank you so much for your reply, I had set up a fake e mail account and everything to send in the lead via e-mail. But as fate would have it, I figured out that they caught the killer before I was about to send in the police report. No names yet, but I'm not gonna be surprised if it is who I think it is.

Once again, thank you for replying. That was something really looming over my head.

 

[Alley Cat]

Hello, I am here with quite the serious problem and I hope someone will have haste in their reply, this is something VERY serious.

Earlier this week, two ASU students were shot to death in my neighborhood in the earliest hours of Wednesday morning. The two didn't even live in the neighborhood, and after doing a little bit of investigating, it's obvious that this tragedy is a drug deal gone wrong, ecstasy is what I'm thinking. The suspect is a hispanic male in his 20s.

Here's where we get to my end of this situation- after more snooping on the internet and eavesdropping conversations amongst friends who've been to the high school in my neighborhood and who've been to the highschool of the murdered ASU students. After all this, I think I have an idea of who the killer in this case might be. However, while I do want to turn him in because I know it's the right thing to do, I don't want anything to fall back on me in fear of my own safety. So, I honestly do not know what I should do. I really really want to send this lead to the police and bring these boys justice, but like I mentioned before, I have a fear for my own safety.

So, people, any suggestions? Like I said, this is some serious stuff right here.

Anonymous tip like live wire said. Don't let them scare you or shake you down from doing what's right. It's just a tip, you aren't a witness, and they aren't going to have you testify. Just don't be scared.

 

[Patatas Fritas]

Well, I have a problem. I've known this person for a while now, and, after some recent events, this person has literally been on my mind ALL THE TIME. As in, I'm obsessed with them. I dont like it at all and I want to get over it so I can get on with my life like a normal person.

 

[Sydian]

Hm. The only thing I can think to do is to avoid them for a while, and not talk to them. Try talking to different people and doing things in places you're not likely to see them. It's easier said than done, but when I feel like I'm into someone too much, that's something that helps me. Oh. And uhh, when you talk to other people, make sure they know to slap you if you talk about that person you're obsessed with, haha. :P

 

[cazzler]

heres my problem...

I was going through Ebay when I saw Pokemon Platinum for $25, thats $45 under the original price from where I live. It's also in my area, the seller also had good reviews, so I thought, why not. Anyways I purchased the Item and it arrived 2 days later, I opened the package took the game out and placed in into my 3ds and what comes up? 'Axel Riders Stormbreaker' WTF!? The game even says Pokemon Platinum on it, it says it was new and not used (it was new, it was still in packaging). Anyways I try to play the game but it says to restart the console since theres an error... I got pretty mad RAWR! :P I contacted the seller about this, but it's only been half a day with no reply, hopefully I'll get a refund...

Thankfully it was only $25...

 

[Patatas Fritas]

Hm. The only thing I can think to do is to avoid them for a while, and not talk to them. Try talking to different people and doing things in places you're not likely to see them. It's easier said than done, but when I feel like I'm into someone too much, that's something that helps me. Oh. And uhh, when you talk to other people, make sure they know to slap you if you talk about that person you're obsessed with, haha. :P

Hmm, well, I'll try this then and let everyone know to slap me when I talk about them :P
Thanks~

 

[Asrossk]

Educational Crisis:

So my interests are in the fields of physics and computer engineering. However, I've been having recent experiences that have been putting pressure on me to petroleum engineering.

It's not just my parents putting that pressure, it's my conscience. I tend to have just this natural instinct to want to help something that might have a critical effect. And so far I know for a fact that the field is going to weaken. My dad brought me to the recent Offshore Technology Conference in Houston and I can confirm for my self the retirement rate will be massively larger than the college graduate rate in coming years.

And I don't exactly want to feel like I'll be doing something with my life I'll only be bittersweetly satisfied with, but I don't want to feel I could have put effort into contributing something great that might save the field, especially since it seems that oil independence is still a couple or more generations away before it can be executed correctly.

My parents are putting a lot of hope and expectations on me. I know I still have time to decide, college is still technically a long way, but I've also been feeling that time has just been accelerating, and if I don't make up my mind well in advance or have a rough roadmap I will get caught by surprise.

edits: Elaborating bittersweet, I know I could enjoy things of the field like the fluid dynamics and physics as well as the mathematics and technology, not to mention the job is very high paying (by my research and experience), but then there's the core of petroleum engineering with the unique concepts and terminology and then the more pure aspects of it I'm afraid I might not grasp, if you know what I mean.

I've read through this a few times, and I think I grasp what you are saying, so here is my advice. (I know this problem is quite old, but I couldn't find any advice, so I thought it would be good to leave some.)

The first thing I have to say is time is still on your side. You have plenty of time to think about and consider your options and what would be best for you. Don't rush to a decision, but keep thinking about it. When I was coming up to choosing my A-levels, I found laying in bed at night was one of the best times to think over these things. It's quiet and you have all the time in the world to ponder. There is also no other human intervention, so it allows you to clarify what exactly you are thinking as a person.You might find thinking it over then could help too.

One thing that is good is that all your career options are down the path of science. If you cannot reach a decision by the time college rolls around, just try to keep all the options open. I have no clue what I am going to be doing for my adult life, so I have opted to study Maths, Physics, Chemistry and History. This gives me a verbose selection of career choices and keeps a lot of figurative doors open for me. I recommend you do something like this too so not to shut any important choices off or specialise yourself too early.

Another important thing you must consider is this, is it you who wants to study petroleum engineering? Your career is your career, and although parents can be very insightful, are they pressuring you to do it when you do not actually want to? This choice is entirely yours, so make sure you are 100% that you want to do this before studying any of these. If in doubt, look up course information and the aspects to each career on the internet.

I hope that helped you somewhat, feel free to ask me further on anything I said. You still have time, so just keep thinking about it carefully.

 

[Alley Cat]

Hmm, well, I'll try this then and let everyone know to slap me when I talk about them :P
Thanks~

Alternatively, talk to this person. Usually people are so obessed with someone because they have intense(good or bad) feelings for them. Tell them how you feel, and be liberated. Good luck. I know how hard it can be to forget and move on.

 

[Nihilego]

ok i could really use some help right now.

a good friend of mine who has some extreme on-and-off depression (bipolar? idek) just told me that he realised he is bi. and as a result of this he is now contemplating suicide and i am the only person he is willing to speak to. this guy has been through more in his life than most of you can probably imagine and he has attempted suicide before so i honestly have no reason to believe that he isn't being totally serious.

basically what can i say to him to try and help him come to terms?

 

[Alley Cat]

Suicide is such an iffy matter. It is hard to convince someone not to. Just tell them how stupid of an idea it is, etcetc. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Show him all the anti-suicide things out there, the "It Get's Better" campaign. Let him know that you love and care for him. Show him, rather than tell him. If you are writing an essay, you might not notice your own mistakes. In that same way, you might not realize how stupid your idea is, until you see someone else doing. Perhaps, if you come to him, saying how you have no reason to live, and if he tries to convince you out of it, you can use that right against. Try to make sure that he isn't left alone for large periods of times if you can. If you get any serious threats from him(i.e. a phone call or text saying goodbye, im killing myself or whatever) then call 911 or whatever the emergency number is where you live. Just be there for him. Let him know that people love and care for him, and never want to see him gone.