Meganium
[i]memento mori[/i]
- 17,226
- Posts
- 13
- Years
- she/her
- Houston, TX
- Seen May 3, 2024
Current mood: FURIOUS.
Currently listening to: ugh nothing.
(I meant to do a compilation of what has happened the past few…then this shit happened. This blog will be sensitive, meaning it will cause some controversy. I've been trying to formulate what and how to say it without providing any triggers or anything that could get me in trouble. But I'm just gonna leave you with this warning. If you find this blog entry to be very triggering, then you can close and stop reading. I apologize in advance though.)
February 2
This was not the way I wanted to start my Thursday.
I got a call from Manager 3 at around 8:30 in the morning, as there was an emergency (like always lol). I told her that yeah, I'll make it to work and cover someone's shift. So I got up, got ready, and got coffee made by Roy. Roy was also awake and he was in bound for Houston to go see his father. I would see him again later on today. The day started off smoothly as I got coffee and some donuts for breakfast. It was slow to start, but at the second hour it began to pick up.
Then, during the slow minutes of work, I suddenly got a message from my irl friends' group chat. I got a message that threw me towards Shock Avenue.
"Everyone, [my boyfriend] is going to jail."
Here's a background story before I advance. You got Danny** and Missy**. They've been dating for a year now, living together for most of it. These two are my bestest friends, and Roy's bestest friends. When we're not busy, they would always throw parties, or just a simple gathering where we can just chill, hang out, etc. When I was living in Houston, I was literally living on the same street as them, and it was easy access for me. It's tough these days because I live in Galveston now, but I still manage to visit them every now and again. But things went downhill a few days before Christmas. Danny lost his job as a security guard due to his attendance. Missy got her hours cut at her job as a sales associate. They were on their way to financial burden as 2017 rolled around. Danny got a job at a chemical plant, but he was randomly selected for a drug test that he failed even though he never really did drugs (Missy smokes marijuana). As Danny fell into a deep depression, he broke up with Missy, but she still stayed at the apartment. Roy and I never heard much of Danny until today…
My friends on the Facebook chat were asking questions such as "why?" "what happened?". I was following due to the fact that I was currently working. I had to focus on work but I still popped on the chat every few minutes or so.
Missy posts a picture of herself. Frowning. Bruised in her eyes, cheeks, and nose. Her mouth and lips are bloody.
It took me minutes to process, and it was throwing off my focus. I just…couldn't believe it, neither did anyone on the chat. I immediately texted Roy to check the chat out, but I wasn't surprised if I'd get an immediate response.
I was beyond furious and pissed. Domestic violence is something I CANNOT tolerate, whether it happens to myself, or to anyone for that matter. It happened to Missy. Missy is one of my best friends. I cannot allow Danny to continue to be my best friend because he's done something wrong and unforgiving. I understand the frustration these two were going through, but violence…ANY form of violence whatsoEVER is wrong. Wrong in SO MANY WAYS.
I couldn't do much while I was at work, so I had to wait until 4pm to text Missy to see how she was doing. Thankfully she escaped the apartment she was living at (Danny may be held at the police station maybe), and is currently staying at another friend's house. My main plan was to go to Houston after getting home and to change out my clothes, but my car needed gas and I don't get paid until tomorrow (Friday).
My main concern is…as long as she's somewhere safe, I won't be as worried as I was earlier. She didn't want more company as she's okay with the friend she has now, so I decided to just head on home as long as she promises me to text me.
I got home the subject was the first thing I wanted to talk to Roy about. I told him that while I am very shocked that it happened, I am furious about what it had occurred. I no longer wanted to be friends with Danny after what happened. Missy never did anything to deserve it. Then I realized…
You got two really good friends, friends who were there since you moved to a big city like Houston. You loved them so much. Now, everything feels so different. Things have definitely changed. Yeah, they're no longer together, that's one thing. But the parties, the hangouts, the meetups, the drives around Houston playing Pokemon GO, the drunk fests, the Christmas and New Years parties. They are now all memories. Memories in our minds. All because of this event. Nothing will be the same anymore. These two were the main reason why we, as well as other people, are united as best friends. I just don't know what to think anymore.
When I told Roy I no longer wanted to be friends with Danny, he did not like how I was responding to the incident.
Roy has been friends with Danny even before I moved to Houston. Even before he started dating Missy. He thinks there's still good inside him and that he'll be sure to apologize to Missy when the time is right. EXCUSE ME? Are you out of your mind? He FUCKING abused her. He HIT HER. I don't care if he's done it once, twice, or several. You lay a hand on someone, get the fuck out of my life.
I'm not even sure if Roy understood what was really going on. Now our opinions towards the situation is different and I tried my hardest to compromise. I couldn't. This was the first time I could not compromise with his opinions. I was anxious about it. You cannot just forgive him for an act of violence. The whole thing just…doesn't fit in my mind at all.
As of right now, it looks like I'll be sleeping in the living room tonight. We haven't talked since the debate, and we haven't interacted. This is not my anxiety speaking. This is a matter of defense, proving the fact that violence is never the answer.
All I'm asking right now, is I just hope for the best. Especially for her.
If you or someone you know and care has suffered from a domestic violence dispute, don't stay silent. Remember that you are not alone and that there will always be someone who cares for you. Physical, mental, and emotional violence is never the answer, even if it's not your fault. This is a serious matter and should not be taken lightly. At all.
February 3
So I wanted to briefly update on what happened with Danny** and Missy** on the previous blog.
Missy has moved out of the apartment where she was living at, and she is now staying with another friend of ours. Danny's family have decided not to bail him out, and he will be staying there for 90 days tops. A court date has not been set yet.
They both owned two cats, and they are now moved to different family and friends. Roy would keep one of them, but apparently he is still not over the death of Nazzie, our previous cat.
Roy and I have finally settled our differences, and while I still do not agree with his way of "finding kindness in people", we decided to bury this issue to the ground and move on. This is why I hate debating on certain issues like this. In some issues our stances will be different, and it will always put our relationship at risk.
Missy will be coming over to our place on Super Bowl Sunday to spend some time with us, which is also the day I will throw a birthday party for Roy. She will be surrounded by great friends, and great company…which I'm sure she will need it most.
**For security reasons, their names have changed to protect their identity.
Currently listening to: ugh nothing.
(I meant to do a compilation of what has happened the past few…then this shit happened. This blog will be sensitive, meaning it will cause some controversy. I've been trying to formulate what and how to say it without providing any triggers or anything that could get me in trouble. But I'm just gonna leave you with this warning. If you find this blog entry to be very triggering, then you can close and stop reading. I apologize in advance though.)
February 2
This was not the way I wanted to start my Thursday.
I got a call from Manager 3 at around 8:30 in the morning, as there was an emergency (like always lol). I told her that yeah, I'll make it to work and cover someone's shift. So I got up, got ready, and got coffee made by Roy. Roy was also awake and he was in bound for Houston to go see his father. I would see him again later on today. The day started off smoothly as I got coffee and some donuts for breakfast. It was slow to start, but at the second hour it began to pick up.
Then, during the slow minutes of work, I suddenly got a message from my irl friends' group chat. I got a message that threw me towards Shock Avenue.
"Everyone, [my boyfriend] is going to jail."
Here's a background story before I advance. You got Danny** and Missy**. They've been dating for a year now, living together for most of it. These two are my bestest friends, and Roy's bestest friends. When we're not busy, they would always throw parties, or just a simple gathering where we can just chill, hang out, etc. When I was living in Houston, I was literally living on the same street as them, and it was easy access for me. It's tough these days because I live in Galveston now, but I still manage to visit them every now and again. But things went downhill a few days before Christmas. Danny lost his job as a security guard due to his attendance. Missy got her hours cut at her job as a sales associate. They were on their way to financial burden as 2017 rolled around. Danny got a job at a chemical plant, but he was randomly selected for a drug test that he failed even though he never really did drugs (Missy smokes marijuana). As Danny fell into a deep depression, he broke up with Missy, but she still stayed at the apartment. Roy and I never heard much of Danny until today…
My friends on the Facebook chat were asking questions such as "why?" "what happened?". I was following due to the fact that I was currently working. I had to focus on work but I still popped on the chat every few minutes or so.
Missy posts a picture of herself. Frowning. Bruised in her eyes, cheeks, and nose. Her mouth and lips are bloody.
It took me minutes to process, and it was throwing off my focus. I just…couldn't believe it, neither did anyone on the chat. I immediately texted Roy to check the chat out, but I wasn't surprised if I'd get an immediate response.
I was beyond furious and pissed. Domestic violence is something I CANNOT tolerate, whether it happens to myself, or to anyone for that matter. It happened to Missy. Missy is one of my best friends. I cannot allow Danny to continue to be my best friend because he's done something wrong and unforgiving. I understand the frustration these two were going through, but violence…ANY form of violence whatsoEVER is wrong. Wrong in SO MANY WAYS.
I couldn't do much while I was at work, so I had to wait until 4pm to text Missy to see how she was doing. Thankfully she escaped the apartment she was living at (Danny may be held at the police station maybe), and is currently staying at another friend's house. My main plan was to go to Houston after getting home and to change out my clothes, but my car needed gas and I don't get paid until tomorrow (Friday).
My main concern is…as long as she's somewhere safe, I won't be as worried as I was earlier. She didn't want more company as she's okay with the friend she has now, so I decided to just head on home as long as she promises me to text me.
I got home the subject was the first thing I wanted to talk to Roy about. I told him that while I am very shocked that it happened, I am furious about what it had occurred. I no longer wanted to be friends with Danny after what happened. Missy never did anything to deserve it. Then I realized…
You got two really good friends, friends who were there since you moved to a big city like Houston. You loved them so much. Now, everything feels so different. Things have definitely changed. Yeah, they're no longer together, that's one thing. But the parties, the hangouts, the meetups, the drives around Houston playing Pokemon GO, the drunk fests, the Christmas and New Years parties. They are now all memories. Memories in our minds. All because of this event. Nothing will be the same anymore. These two were the main reason why we, as well as other people, are united as best friends. I just don't know what to think anymore.
When I told Roy I no longer wanted to be friends with Danny, he did not like how I was responding to the incident.
Roy has been friends with Danny even before I moved to Houston. Even before he started dating Missy. He thinks there's still good inside him and that he'll be sure to apologize to Missy when the time is right. EXCUSE ME? Are you out of your mind? He FUCKING abused her. He HIT HER. I don't care if he's done it once, twice, or several. You lay a hand on someone, get the fuck out of my life.
I'm not even sure if Roy understood what was really going on. Now our opinions towards the situation is different and I tried my hardest to compromise. I couldn't. This was the first time I could not compromise with his opinions. I was anxious about it. You cannot just forgive him for an act of violence. The whole thing just…doesn't fit in my mind at all.
As of right now, it looks like I'll be sleeping in the living room tonight. We haven't talked since the debate, and we haven't interacted. This is not my anxiety speaking. This is a matter of defense, proving the fact that violence is never the answer.
All I'm asking right now, is I just hope for the best. Especially for her.
If you or someone you know and care has suffered from a domestic violence dispute, don't stay silent. Remember that you are not alone and that there will always be someone who cares for you. Physical, mental, and emotional violence is never the answer, even if it's not your fault. This is a serious matter and should not be taken lightly. At all.
February 3
So I wanted to briefly update on what happened with Danny** and Missy** on the previous blog.
Missy has moved out of the apartment where she was living at, and she is now staying with another friend of ours. Danny's family have decided not to bail him out, and he will be staying there for 90 days tops. A court date has not been set yet.
They both owned two cats, and they are now moved to different family and friends. Roy would keep one of them, but apparently he is still not over the death of Nazzie, our previous cat.
Roy and I have finally settled our differences, and while I still do not agree with his way of "finding kindness in people", we decided to bury this issue to the ground and move on. This is why I hate debating on certain issues like this. In some issues our stances will be different, and it will always put our relationship at risk.
Missy will be coming over to our place on Super Bowl Sunday to spend some time with us, which is also the day I will throw a birthday party for Roy. She will be surrounded by great friends, and great company…which I'm sure she will need it most.
**For security reasons, their names have changed to protect their identity.