Okay, I had to google "Rogerian" to know what you mean.
I can appreciate wanting to find compromise. It may not appear that I am, but I hate conflict and avoid it almost all the time. But there are some things that I just can't tolerate. 'Cuz, for instance, you still have queer kids killing themselves so there's obviously some bad fumes that need to be aired out.
If people inwardly didn't like homosexuals but didn't outwardly express their hatred I'd have no problem. But they do, so it's a problem.