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The Rainbow Connection [LGBTS Club]

Delcatty123

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Ashley, don't worry about it, it's completely natural. Back in her day , sex change was probably scandalous and looked down at, she's just going to need a bit of time to adjust. However I agree with Shining Raichu, and it's not acceptable but I believe she just needs some time.
 

Alice

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y u no post moar?


I just stumbled across this video, and at first I thought it'd be a terrible idea to use a video of some complete stranger to tell your parents that you're gay, but he did do a really good job making the video, and he definitely says a lot of important things that the kid would never be able to, so it actually might help the parent accept it. What do you guys think?
 
Shining Raichu

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Davey Wavey is so amazing, but he's probably not the person I'd want to come out on my behalf :P. As much as I love him, he fits too many of the gay stereotypes to be applicable with my coming out. If that's how I'd done it, I think it would have made it worse... "You're like HIM?!" etc. Especially since they'd then look at his other videos and see that he does most of them shirtless :P

Though the idea of having somebody come out for you would be great. You wouldn't even have to be there for your own coming out! It'd take a lot of the pressure off a nerve-wracking situation.
 

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Shining Raichu said:
Davey Wavey is so amazing, but he's probably not the person I'd want to come out on my behalf :P. As much as I love him, he fits too many of the gay stereotypes to be applicable with my coming out. If that's how I'd done it, I think it would have made it worse... "You're like HIM?!" etc. Especially since they'd then look at his other videos and see that he does most of them shirtless :P

Though the idea of having somebody come out for you would be great. You wouldn't even have to be there for your own coming out! It'd take a lot of the pressure off a nerve-wracking situation.
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He is pretty funny, if you can stop staring long enough to listen to what he's saying. lol
 

-ty-

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A little behind on the discussion...
but I think for me, mutual sexual attraction is a must for a relationship.

Oh, my date was very nice yesterday btw. He was sooooooo tall; and yes, I am obsessed with taller guys. He is absolutely perfect in every way (so far), I hope the feeling is mutual, haha. Unfortunately, I have to wait a couple of weeks to see him again. I just have to take things very very slowly so that I don't mess this up :)

Okay, relating this back to the question...
I don't place restrictions on sexual appeal; I just know if am or if I am not attracted. So the same goes with age, I only date people who I am sexually attracted to. This guy is about 12 years older, but it's not as if I only date to satiate an age requirement; I only do so because I happen to be attracted, that also includes the attraction to the mature personality. So, sexual attraction and personality attraction are both musts.
 

Magdalena~

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Back from my vacation y'all! ^_^ Sorry for making everyone miss me so much. n3n
Delcatty123 said:
Hello, I wonder if I may be able to join?
I am 100% bisexual, demisexual and homoromantic , meaning I do have an attraction to guys and girls alike, however only feel sexual for guys and very special once whom I feel really strongly about.
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Hey that sounds like me. :3 Welcome to the club! ^_^

AshleyKetchum said:
Is it normal for someone in there 80s to judge about me wanting a sex change? My 85 yr old aunt has been fussing since July to the point I want to punch her. Yet my granda understands and is the same age so it's odd
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It's normal for absolutely anyone to judge transitioners. Sorry. 3: It's really annoying but I guess it's one of two things really:
1.) She will adjust at some point by getting the hell over herself.
2.) She will never get over it and at least that way you can just ignore her instead of wasting your time.

Good luck and I hope everything ends out okay. Unfortunately it's not uncommon for situations like these to never resolve themselves but please stay positive anyway.
QuilavaKing said:
I just stumbled across this video, and at first I thought it'd be a terrible idea to use a video of some complete stranger to tell your parents that you're gay, but he did do a really good job making the video, and he definitely says a lot of important things that the kid would never be able to, so it actually might help the parent accept it. What do you guys think?
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I would have liked to do that myself. I wonder if there's someone who does that for trans people?
I ended up giving my mother a letter, which turns out to be probably the worst reasonable thing I could have done, but it could certainly work for some people. There are just so many different ways of coming out. You have to really know your parents and what would suit them best.
Shining Raichu said:
Also, that list of terms looks great :) if someone wants to put it all together officially and send it to me or post it here in completion then I'll make it a priority to get to re-doing the original post lol
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Has this been done yet? I think Jared was doing it, but if not, I'd be glad to do it. ^_^
 
Esper

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Magdalena~ said:
It's normal for absolutely anyone to judge transitioners.
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I'm gonna quibble here, but it's not normal, just common. When you use a word like 'normal' you might make it sound like it's okay in some way, like in a "oh, people can't help it" way or something like that. I know that some people have trouble helping their thoughts and feelings and all that, but I'm with Andy in feeling that people have brains so they can learn to be better than that.
 
Nakuzami

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Keiran777 said:
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/12/24/us/beliefs-salvation-army-hears-dissent-over-gay-views.html

Supporting hate like that as a charity just seems self-defeating to me.
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. . . It also said that this happened twenty years ago, lol. Well, I guess it doesn't surprise me all that much, seeing as Salvation Army started out as a religious charity and whatnot (at least, it was started by religious people. Who knew my Social Studies class would come in handy? :D) but it's still annoying, and annoying is an incredible understatement, that they hold to these anti-gay beliefs and everything.

Also, I think the listing of the various sexualities and everything is a great idea.

Shining Raichu said:
The Salvation Army are such freaking douchebags. It reminds me a lot of that blog someone posted a few pages back entitled "I'm Christian... unless you're gay". I think it's our responsiblity to circulate that as wide as we can and make sure The Salvation Army gets as little money as possible.
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Yay, glad I was remembered, even if it was as "somebody!"

I would post more, but I . . . kinda can't right now, have to get to bed since school starts again tomorrow (son of a . . .) !!
 

Magdalena~

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Hnurrrrrr we need more talking stuff.

Do people ever ask you questions about your sexual orientation 'n' stuff that you find to be awkward or going too far?

Sorry idk my effort rate is low because tired. ;p;
Scarf said:
I'm gonna quibble here, but it's not normal, just common. When you use a word like 'normal' you might make it sound like it's okay in some way, like in a "oh, people can't help it" way or something like that. I know that some people have trouble helping their thoughts and feelings and all that, but I'm with Andy in feeling that people have brains so they can learn to be better than that.
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Normal and okay are not the same thing. Normal just means something is so common that it is expected. At least the way I use it, but yeah obv I don't think it's okay to judge transitioners of course~
 
Shining Raichu

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Ugh sorry guys I've been terrible lately. I've had an uber-insanely busy few days, and then I have tomorrow off followed by three more insanely busy days haha. Anyway, ON WITH THE SHOW!

Do people ever ask you questions about your sexual orientation 'n' stuff that you find to be awkward or going too far?

It's funny that I should rejoin the conversation on this question, because just tonight on Facebook I got this random private message from somebody I only know as a customer at work and 'that guy I used to see at school who was a few years above me'. The message said (and I quote): "Just a quick question are you gay, sounds random but yeah dont mean to be rude".

This is insanely awkward for a few reasons: firstly, I barely know the guy. We've had a few quick conversations at my liquor store and nothing more. Secondly, he just came out of the closet himself recently and I have zero interest in him if that's where he was going with this line of questioning. And finally, if he picked it up from the few encounters we've had, then there must be something fundamentally or visually homosexual about me that I didn't think was there. While this isn't necessary all that important since I have no shame in being gay, I kind of like that it's not completely obvious when you first meet me because it gives me the option of deciding whether or not it's OK for somebody to know.
 
Shiny

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Do people ever ask you questions about your sexual orientation 'n' stuff that you find to be awkward or going too far?

Not really, and if they do, it's only because they're curious. Like my friend Rhys recently asked about gay men being size queens and it wasn't offensive because I knew his was only curious. And my biffle Sarah, when I came out to her she had aton of questions.
 

-Jared-

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Do people ever ask you questions about your sexual orientation 'n' stuff that you find to be awkward or going too far?

I had someone in my wood shop class in High School ask me a few times if I was gay. I wasn't ready at the time to admit it, so I said no, but he kept asking because he just couldn't believe the idea that a straight guy hadn't ever had a girlfriend by the time he was a senior. -__-


 
Hybrid Trainer

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Do people ever ask you questions about your sexual orientation 'n' stuff that you find to be awkward or going too far?

Not really, I'm usually quite open minded to questions. Like Jubilation said it's just curiosity and theres no harm in that.
Although when I first came out to one of my friends they started asking about top and bottom and a whole bunch of other sex orientated questions which I think was a bit too far seeing as I'd just told him I was gay xD
 
Keiran

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Do people ever ask you questions about your sexual orientation 'n' stuff that you find to be awkward or going too far?

I've had this happen too often. A female friend will try to get me to sleep with them, and when I say I'm not interested, they tend to ask if viagra would change that, like it's a cure or something. Then they'll never speak to me again as if I embarrassed them. -_- So now I just tell female friends that I am gay.
 

Railgun

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Anyone know how to handel the feelings of wanting to dissapernce? Not die but actually vanish. I have had the feelings lately. Maybe it's me stressing out lately about my family not doing anything about the feelings I have. They seem to ignore what l say lately. Mabe it's just me
 
Shining Raichu

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I have had those feelings before, but more because people were giving me too much attention rather than not enough, and not for anything to do with my sexuality or gender. I think what you need to do, rather than try to vanish, is to try to make yourself more visible than ever before. Make sure you are heard and that you can get what you want. Just keep shouting until somebody listens. That's the only way anything will get done in this world.
 
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AshleyKetchum said:
Anyone know how to handel the feelings of wanting to dissapernce? Not die but actually vanish. I have had the feelings lately. Maybe it's me stressing out lately about my family not doing anything about the feelings I have. They seem to ignore what l say lately. Mabe it's just me
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Are you feeling like you want to distance yourself from your family because they don't accept you? Because it's okay if that's how you feel. They're your family, but what you need more than family is people who will listen to you, your feelings, and accept you. That's what family should be doing, but if yours isn't then you might want to find a group of people who do.

I dunno, maybe I'm just imagining this, but it seems like what you're describing is yourself avoiding dealing with things that you might need to deal with. You could do what Shining Raichu says, but I feel like that could antagonize your family and if you're stuck living with them for a while you might want to try something less... well, less antagonistic.

But yeah, those feelings are crappy. It helps if you do things that make you feel accomplished and good about yourself.
 
johnny18

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Shining Raichu said:

Do people ever ask you questions about your sexual orientation 'n' stuff that you find to be awkward or going too far?
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Some of my friends do and I normally try to change the topic :P

Scarf said:
Are you feeling like you want to distance yourself from your family because they don't accept you? Because it's okay if that's how you feel. They're your family, but what you need more than family is people who will listen to you, your feelings, and accept you. That's what family should be doing, but if yours isn't then you might want to find a group of people who do.

I dunno, maybe I'm just imagining this, but it seems like what you're describing is yourself avoiding dealing with things that you might need to deal with. You could do what Shining Raichu says, but I feel like that could antagonize your family and if you're stuck living with them for a while you might want to try something less... well, less antagonistic.

But yeah, those feelings are crappy. It helps if you do things that make you feel accomplished and good about yourself.
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That's what I always feel about my family ~.~
 
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Magdalena~

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Gonna answer my own question!

Do people ever ask you questions about your sexual orientation 'n' stuff that you find to be awkward or going too far?

I'm pretty good with questions. Very little makes me feel awkward. So far every legitimate trans or lesbian related question someone has asked me, I have answered, because I have found them acceptable, and even if they aren't acceptable, I think the solution is to communicate that fact instead of getting annoyed.
AshleyKetchum said:
Anyone know how to handel the feelings of wanting to dissapernce? Not die but actually vanish. I have had the feelings lately. Maybe it's me stressing out lately about my family not doing anything about the feelings I have. They seem to ignore what l say lately. Mabe it's just me
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Listen to Scarf. If you're not happy being around someone, the solution is to avoid that someone. Either forever or until they adjust and become more pleasant.
This is sort of what I did with my sister and it worked wonders. I've done it with the rest of my family with less striking results, but sometimes that's just how it is.
 
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