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As is pretty well known, most people who frequent the internet and talk mostly online are almost always introverted. Not always, but it's generally a vast majority.
In any case, it could be generational (young people are far more likely to be online than someone older, regardless of personality type), physical (ie, anxiety or other such disorders) or just preference that online is just more enjoyable than real life.
So for anyone either wants to talk more about their own stories facing their introversion or anyone with questions about it, this is the point of this topic.
Here's what's been bothering me, or that I've been dealing with. I'm introverted by nature; I might come across perhaps even an ambivert at times, with how opinionated and talkative I am, both online and off; I can generally make friends and be in, albeit small, social situations generally without issue, but I feel I'm 70/30 at best. Introverted being the majority. I don't like huge groups of people, hate public speeches and performances, and greatly dislike being grilled for information by those I have no desire to share myself. Then I shut down like a vice.
What's interesting is, I befriended a shop owner a few years back; a leather shoe place and while the guy, let's call him by boss, is charming and talks to a lot of people, he's also, I've noticed, a bit narrow-minded and even hypocritical at times in his worldview.
I befriended him to such an extent (or impressed him with what I've done on my own working with my hands), that he's allowed me to internship at the shop and learn the trade of cobbling and other such things, and just hang out. And while that's nice, here's the point I mean about narrow-mindedness.
Being at the shop has greatly assisted me socially, even as unpleasant as it used to be. The thing about him was... he's used to dealing with a certain type of person. The kind who frequent the world and are like him; these are his friends, his girlfriends, almost everyone he knows. In his mind, the world is still as it was in 1981.
I have a feeling I was probably the first introvert he's ever gotten to know on a more personal level. He and I have discussed my own shortcomings and working through them, but I don't think it's possible for him to understand what it actually means to be an introvert.
What he doesn't get is, an introvert's personality can and will change depending on outside circumstances. IE, we will go into defense mode and all but shut down or other such things when put in a situation that is threatening.
To him, because everyone in his world is just like him, and as an extrovert, he always acts the same way in any situation, with anyone. And that's fine; that's just the way he works, but he seems to think that's the only way for someone normal to act.
Thus he comes across as wholly incapable of understanding my duality in certain situations and why sometimes I get very put off by his crass nature that begins to border on aggressive. He's very blunt and hard to swallow, but it's made me think at how some people might view introversion as a literal mental disorder, if only from simply not understanding how other people work. I have no other mental disabilities; I'm not autistic, I grew up pretty normally, it's just that I've always been a bit paranoid and introverted. That's how someone like me would act. Like a cat when cornered in an inescapable situation; they will kill themselves to escape. That's a good way to describe it.
Like, I try to tell him that a whole world he's never seen (remember, 1981 mentality) exists online and he's never come across the people I regularly converse with. We're from different worlds, basically. And what annoys me is, I'm open to his knowledge on his world, but he seems to always brush off the notion that my world, with others like me, or even far far worse off than what he assumes I even am, exists at all, and yet he likes to call me the narrow-minded one.
I'm just wondering if anyone else has dealt with these sort of situations or people, or have been misinterpreted due to your introversion and whatnot.
I think it might be a lot more common than I thought.
In any case, it could be generational (young people are far more likely to be online than someone older, regardless of personality type), physical (ie, anxiety or other such disorders) or just preference that online is just more enjoyable than real life.
So for anyone either wants to talk more about their own stories facing their introversion or anyone with questions about it, this is the point of this topic.
Here's what's been bothering me, or that I've been dealing with. I'm introverted by nature; I might come across perhaps even an ambivert at times, with how opinionated and talkative I am, both online and off; I can generally make friends and be in, albeit small, social situations generally without issue, but I feel I'm 70/30 at best. Introverted being the majority. I don't like huge groups of people, hate public speeches and performances, and greatly dislike being grilled for information by those I have no desire to share myself. Then I shut down like a vice.
What's interesting is, I befriended a shop owner a few years back; a leather shoe place and while the guy, let's call him by boss, is charming and talks to a lot of people, he's also, I've noticed, a bit narrow-minded and even hypocritical at times in his worldview.
I befriended him to such an extent (or impressed him with what I've done on my own working with my hands), that he's allowed me to internship at the shop and learn the trade of cobbling and other such things, and just hang out. And while that's nice, here's the point I mean about narrow-mindedness.
Being at the shop has greatly assisted me socially, even as unpleasant as it used to be. The thing about him was... he's used to dealing with a certain type of person. The kind who frequent the world and are like him; these are his friends, his girlfriends, almost everyone he knows. In his mind, the world is still as it was in 1981.
I have a feeling I was probably the first introvert he's ever gotten to know on a more personal level. He and I have discussed my own shortcomings and working through them, but I don't think it's possible for him to understand what it actually means to be an introvert.
What he doesn't get is, an introvert's personality can and will change depending on outside circumstances. IE, we will go into defense mode and all but shut down or other such things when put in a situation that is threatening.
To him, because everyone in his world is just like him, and as an extrovert, he always acts the same way in any situation, with anyone. And that's fine; that's just the way he works, but he seems to think that's the only way for someone normal to act.
Thus he comes across as wholly incapable of understanding my duality in certain situations and why sometimes I get very put off by his crass nature that begins to border on aggressive. He's very blunt and hard to swallow, but it's made me think at how some people might view introversion as a literal mental disorder, if only from simply not understanding how other people work. I have no other mental disabilities; I'm not autistic, I grew up pretty normally, it's just that I've always been a bit paranoid and introverted. That's how someone like me would act. Like a cat when cornered in an inescapable situation; they will kill themselves to escape. That's a good way to describe it.
Like, I try to tell him that a whole world he's never seen (remember, 1981 mentality) exists online and he's never come across the people I regularly converse with. We're from different worlds, basically. And what annoys me is, I'm open to his knowledge on his world, but he seems to always brush off the notion that my world, with others like me, or even far far worse off than what he assumes I even am, exists at all, and yet he likes to call me the narrow-minded one.
I'm just wondering if anyone else has dealt with these sort of situations or people, or have been misinterpreted due to your introversion and whatnot.
I think it might be a lot more common than I thought.
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