A coworker and friend of mine asked me this yesterday when our shifts were ending, and I replied with "I don't even know anymore."
So there's my answer. It's very complicated for me, especially considering the fact that its an online relationship and she's worried I'm mad at her since we haven't been speaking much lately, while I'm worried about the same. Our relationship status on Facebook was set to Complicated, then it went to married, and according to her, she's widowed. I don't know if I'm reading into it as a metaphoric sense or anything, or she's just bored. She does things like that when she's bored, as do I. But I hope it all works out, because she's the only person I've ever cared about in that sense.
I'm not really interested in replacing her if it doesn't work out, since I'm not someone looking to wrap arms around. Overall, though, this is the only true relationship I've ever had and I don't really want it to end. There are a lot of successful internet-based relationships I know of (like Michael and Kelly, for example) that I would like to result in the same.
Then again, a few days ago she texted me asking how I would react if she got plane tickets to come to New Jersey and see me... I'm so confused.
And now I'm starting to get really into this, and am getting kind of depressed... *sigh*