It's definitely news to me that being patriotic, caring about the state of your country, and wanting to help the people within it is now considered twisted.
If you go through the legal process and become an American citizen the correct way, I have no problem with what country you came from, what your religious beliefs are, what color your skin is. If you truly want to live here, prosper here, exist here and make a life for yourself here because you truly believe the United States is YOUR home, you ARE my family. But if you break our laws, cross the borders without caring about the consequences, bring with you an anti-American sentiment or a sense of entitlement, then no, I do not consider those people my family. I have never denied, nor will I ever deny, that these people are human beings. And I most certainly do not believe they deserve to die, starve, or suffer. Let's get that cleared up right now.
Those who truly want to live in America, those that are willing to sacrifice some of their culture to adopt our own complicated and diverse culture, deserve to be here.They may dress in their native garb, speak their native tongue within the home, follow their own set of religious beliefs. But they are Americans. You are right; America is a myriad of different cultures, ethnicities, languages, etc. That does not mean these people are foreign. Maybe that distinction is unique to my line of thinking, but when I think of a person from India who has lived here in the United States for two or more generations, I do not think of them or their family as foreign, even if they speak a different primary language. Nor do I think of a person from Mexico who just recently received legal citizenship as a foreigner. There is something inherently "American" about them per se; they have a certain mindset, a desire to change and become a true member of our society. That is different from the mindset of an illegal immigrant who may chance crossing the border to make a few dollars to return home with.
(Please note that I am not saying all illegal immigrants act this way; some of them come to escape violence. But as I've said before, to assume ALL or MOST of them are coming to the United States to escape violence is an obvious overstatement.)
Maybe I'm crazy, but my idea of "family" extends beyond my blood relatives. The people of my community here in South Dakota mean a lot to me, and participating in my community gives me a sense of well-being and happiness. If you do not care about your fellow citizens any more than foreigners, do you not donate blood, if you are eligible? Do you not donate to non-profits, volunteer in your local community? Maybe I'm misunderstanding you. To me, caring about the people within your country is important. If we all had a "who gives a crap?" attitude towards one another, I think the country would be in quite a sorry state.
Do you not believe the United States has a right to dictate how its borders operate? Do you believe that we should not be able to legislate the number of immigrants that come into this country as we choose? If it's a sense of entitlement to believe there should be some sort of process to become a citizen, then I suppose I am entitled. As I said said previously, I think our current process is egregious and ridiculous in length, and to be honest I do believe it should be easier and take less time; but just because it's rigorous does not mean we should get rid of it altogether. The "it's too hard so I'm just going to cheat" argument does not sound too appealing to me.