The Post Your Problems Thread 2.0

[Weatherman Kiyoshi]

People can't help who they're attracted to.

Brings me to my problem.

Okay, so I'm homosexual and I'm open to only my closest friend (She's in North Carolina right now though so I can't go to her for advice ='( ) and one of my two best guy friends. I came out to him last year and he's very cool about it, but I've developed very deep feelings for him. I've told him how I feel and he hasn't shunned me or attacked me because of it, in fact, he is fully aware of how I feel and we sometimes talk about it. The thing is, he's supposedly "straight" and isn't into me the way I am into him. But, he's told me that he's experimented by himself and even admitted to thinking he was homosexual in two years ago. Recently, we were talking and he said that he'd be interested in messing around with me sexually, but he still says he's straight. This has all caused me to sink into very depressing phases which can only be relieved by talking to/being around him. It's like he's my drug and I'm addicted. I don't know what to do anymore. I get extremely depressed when I'm not talking to or hanging out with him. What do I do?

But that's the thing, we havn't done anything sexual yet. I feel if we do, it might tip the scale of his sexual confusion, but he keeps putting off trying anything. I'm in love with him. He knows it. I want to spend all my time with him, but I don't know where he stands on this...

Alright,
Being a homosexual guy myself, Here's my advice.

This guy is rather Bi or Gay himself, but in an obvious state of sexual confusion. And apperantly, Promiscuity.
I understand that you have a crush/are in love on/with this guy, but don't let it control your actions.

And about the whole "I'd feel free to mess around, but I'm straight";
let me re-state what I've said, in a more, how you say, understandable language.

HE IS ATTRACTED TO GUYS, BUT IS IN CONFUSION.
NO STRAIGHT GUY WOULD GLADLY HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER MALE.
(unless they were getting paid for it and totally cool about it, for some reason. :/)

If you have sex with him now, it will lead your friendship to a trainwreck of awkwardness. Trust me, having a real-life yaoi sex scene is not worth a friendship.

Let this guy sort himself out first, and then, if you still want to be with him, go for it.
If you want to hang out with this guy, go ahead, but don't let it get sexual until above said.


And you're not depressed, you're lonely and urning.
trust me, you're not slit-your-wrists, you're just desperate to get into a real relationship with him, because you seriously like him.

I'm kinda there myself with an amazing guy in my science class. It's no big deal.

Hold your head up high, stay confident, and make sure your don't drop your pants.

*pats on back*

Live your life.

 

[Spikey-Eared Pichu]

Alright,
Being a homosexual guy myself, Here's my advice.

This guy is rather Bi or Gay himself, but in an obvious state of sexual confusion. And apperantly, Promiscuity.
I understand that you have a crush/are in love on/with this guy, but don't let it control your actions.

And about the whole "I'd feel free to mess around, but I'm straight";
let me re-state what I've said, in a more, how you say, understandable language.

HE IS ATTRACTED TO GUYS, BUT IS IN CONFUSION.
NO STRAIGHT GUY WOULD GLADLY HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER MALE.
(unless they were getting paid for it and totally cool about it, for some reason. :/)

If you have sex with him now, it will lead your friendship to a trainwreck of awkwardness. Trust me, having a real-life yaoi sex scene is not worth a friendship.

Let this guy sort himself out first, and then, if you still want to be with him, go for it.
If you want to hang out with this guy, go ahead, but don't let it get sexual until above said.


And you're not depressed, you're lonely and urning.
trust me, you're not slit-your-wrists, you're just desperate to get into a real relationship with him, because you seriously like him.

I'm kinda there myself with an amazing guy in my science class. It's no big deal.

Hold your head up high, stay confident, and make sure your don't drop your pants.

*pats on back*

Live your life.

Reading this made me smile =) Thanks for this, I really needed it.

Also, on the whole yaoi scene thing; isn't that what every gay guy wants to happen? lol

 

[Weatherman Kiyoshi]

Reading this made me smile =) Thanks for this, I really needed it.

Also, on the whole yaoi scene thing; isn't that what every gay guy wants to happen? lol

No problem, anytime. :3

Yes. I'd perfer mine to be sweaty and nicely muscular with the scent of Old Spice in the air. But that's not the point.

 

[Spikey-Eared Pichu]

XD Well, I hope things between you and that guy from your science class turn out for the better.

I'd prefer mine to be tender and slightly innocent, lol. ugh, and to just inhale his scent XD whoops, getting carried away

 

[pkmnmaster69]

Hey guys I have a problem, my GCSE options are up soon, and I want to choose subjects to be a game designer, in the future. I'm interested in being one in the future, but I'm having second thoughts on being one. Mainly because, my brother, who wanted to be one in future, was interested but he later on lost interest, moved on from gaming and chose to something else. Also because of the fact that many people keep telling me that soon, as I grow older I will lose interest. I don't know what to choose out of what I'm interested in right now or whats best for the future. Please help me.

 

[The Cynic]

Hey guys I have a problem, my GCSE options are up soon, and I want to choose subjects to be a game designer, in the future. I'm interested in being one in the future, but I'm having second thoughts on being one. Mainly because, my brother, who wanted to be one in future, was interested but he later on lost interest, moved on from gaming and chose to something else. Also because of the fact that many people keep telling me that soon, as I grow older I will lose interest. I don't know what to choose out of what I'm interested in right now or whats best for the future. Please help me.

Focus on your ambition, while keeping a fallback. I basically flipped a coin between Physics and Psycology and it chose Physics but my first few subject choices were geared so that I could always change to Psycology. Once I had thoroughly over 2 years decided that indeed Physics was my career I started aiming towards it. You should think the same way. Also, if you pick the subjects you enjoy you can then use them to get into a career you enjoy. Asuming GCSE's are the equivelant to Scotland's Standard Grades (only SG's are harder!) then it shouldn't matter too much university-wise as they all look for Highers and you can always crash subjects if you need to. To summarise:

• Go for your ambition, but keep a fallback choice in mind when picking subbjects just in case.
• Pick the subjects you enjoy, and you will use them for a career you enjoy.
• Don't get too worried as GCSE's are not that big a deal anyway.

Good luck!

 

[pkmnmaster69]

Focus on your ambition, while keeping a fallback. I basically flipped a coin between Physics and Psycology and it chose Physics but my first few subject choices were geared so that I could always change to Psycology. Once I had thoroughly over 2 years decided that indeed Physics was my career I started aiming towards it. You should think the same way. Also, if you pick the subjects you enjoy you can then use them to get into a career you enjoy. Asuming GCSE's are the equivelant to Scotland's Standard Grades (only SG's are harder!) then it shouldn't matter too much university-wise as they all look for Highers and you can always crash subjects if you need to. To summarise:

• Go for your ambition, but keep a fallback choice in mind when picking subbjects just in case.
• Pick the subjects you enjoy, and you will use them for a career you enjoy.
• Don't get too worried as GCSE's are not that big a deal anyway.

Good luck!

Ok thanks for the advise and help :)

 

[dc_united]

My dad dies yestersay/early morining... I'm losing myself and dunno how to take it...

It's understandable to lose yourself. My best advice form experience is to do something fun with all of your friends, or go watch some funny movies. Just do things to take your mind off the grief for the moment

After punching a locker sixteen times, the knuckles of my right hand are bruised and swelling. However, I now have several blood-red lines on the back of my hand that DEFINITELY weren't there before. They don't hurt, so I don't think I split a vein, but it's really disturbing.

 

[processr]

Don't get too worried as GCSE's are not that big a deal anyway.

Agreed on that front. Your GCSE choice will only come into play on the very lowest end of the higher education spectrum - it's your A level choice that will inhibit what you can do at university.

If I may be so bold, may I make a suggestion? Don't be set on game design. It's what every nerdy teenager wants to do (and not to mention it's so very clichéd), and so few make it that it's hardly worth it. Find out what subjects you enjoy (base it on your GCSE and Year 12 experience, as it's vastly different to Key Stage 3) and what subjects you're good at and go along those lines. Personally, I'm going to university to study Mathematics because a) I enjoy it and b) I'm jolly good at it. There are a number of different subjects that you've probably never even thought were taught that you may wish to move in to, and it may be that you have a knack for one or more in particular. :) Keep your options open, and make the difficult choices in two years' time when you're choosing your A level subjects. Good luck.

 

[Misheard Whisper]

I'm taking IGCSE right now (I think it's the same as GCSE, except the I means International because I'm in NZ), and it's true that it doesn't make much difference. I would have liked to take History, but there wasn't enough interest to make a full class, so it was dropped. Now I'm just taking English and Maths, so I won't have the three subjects necessary for University Entrance. I'll just have to take the easy option and get in via NCEA like everyone else. D:

Anyway, my problem? I'm not liking school at the moment. I started the term raring to go, but between the aforementioned History class cancellation, Swimming Sports last week and Athletics Day the week before, I'm already feeling like it'll be no fun. Even Drama (my once-favourite subject) is now horrible. I hate working in groups, but I can bear it unless its a group formed from my Drama class, who are the biggest bunch of idiots in my year. Perhaps five of us (being generous here) are serious about Drama, and the only one I really can get along with isn't in my group. So yeah, Drama sucks. I just end up sitting in the back and protesting at being forced to tell lame, sick jokes or act as a perverted 80-year-old.

And my new Maths teacher sucks.

 

[SquirtleGirl]

I still don't know what I want to do when I'm older. This fortnight I'm on Work Experience and about twenty peoiple have asked me what I wanna do. I want to do something in Design definitely, but I'm not sure what.

Anybody have any suggestions of different kinds of jobs in Art or Design? I want something that's well paid but I enjoy it too you know?
I mean I've thought of Interior Design and stuff but it would be hard to get work starting out don't you think?

Help would be much appreciated :)

 

[Zet]

What about an art teacher? I think that's a decent paying job, you can do work with arts and crafts now and then.

And don't worry I also don't know what I want to do, but recently I've been thinking about doing something justice related and Klippy has convinced me more to do a course around justice.(he's doing a criminal justice course and says it's great)

 

[Kura]

I still don't know what I want to do when I'm older. This fortnight I'm on Work Experience and about twenty peoiple have asked me what I wanna do. I want to do something in Design definitely, but I'm not sure what.

Anybody have any suggestions of different kinds of jobs in Art or Design? I want something that's well paid but I enjoy it too you know?
I mean I've thought of Interior Design and stuff but it would be hard to get work starting out don't you think?

Help would be much appreciated :)

What about typography? Design for TV stuff? Like garphic design stuff for TV. Stuff like motion graphics..
Um.. you can look at a website like 4stroke..
http://www.4stroke.tv/

Or Big Studios.
http://www.bigstudios.com/

It's kinda cool. Check it out. They have really cool demo reels.

I think you'll really like motion graphics.

 

[The Cynic]

I still don't know what I want to do when I'm older. This fortnight I'm on Work Experience and about twenty peoiple have asked me what I wanna do. I want to do something in Design definitely, but I'm not sure what.

Anybody have any suggestions of different kinds of jobs in Art or Design? I want something that's well paid but I enjoy it too you know?
I mean I've thought of Interior Design and stuff but it would be hard to get work starting out don't you think?

Help would be much appreciated :)

There are countless and you don't need to decide right now. I'm at Uni and I havn't even decided! Just take school subjects such as Art & Design (obv.), Product Design, Graphic Communication etc. since you enjoy them. Do your best in those subjects and then think about the courses at Uni you could apply to with those qualifications. Don't get too hung up on specifications.

Seeing as you want career sugestions though here are a few:

Advertising (very well paid)Animator
Architect (very well paid) Architectural Technologist
Art Therapist
Artist
Arts Exhibition Organiser
Cabinet Maker
Cartoonist
Community Arts Worker
Computer Games Designer
Costume Designer
Craft Designer or Worker
Director - Film And TV
Display Designer or Window Dresser
Exhibition Designer
Fashion Designer
Film or Videotape Editor
Filmographer (very well paid - especially wedding videos! A Friend of mine does this)
Florist
Furniture Designer
Graphic Designer
Illustrator
Image Consultant
Industrial and Product Designer
Interior Designer
Landscape Architect
Landscape Designer
Make-up Artist
Model Maker
Multimedia Specialist
Photographer (very well paid)
Picture Framer
Playworker or Play Assistant
Sculptor
Set Designer
Signwriter
Special Effects Technician
Stage Manager
Teacher - Secondary School - Art and Design
Teacher - Secondary School - Technological Education
Technical Illustrator
Textile Designer
Wardrobe Assistant - Film or TV or Theatre
Web Designer (very well paid)

Those are actually just a few. There are limitless artistic careers. The world is your oyster! Have fun!

~The Cynic~

 

[SquirtleGirl]

@ Zet Yes I had thought about that but I don't know if I'd have the patience or temperment for teaching. It was something I haden't ruled out though.

@ Kura the big studios videos wouldnt play but I like the look of the other website thank you :)

@ The Cynic. Thanks for the list :P I could probsably get more info on all those on the UKAS website and where they hold courses and things.

Also I am doing Art and Design for my Leaving Certificate but Communication Graphics is limited to people who did Technical Graphics for their Junior Cert. for some reason :(

 

[BUG♥CATCHER★BREEZE]

@ Zet Yes I had thought about that but I don't know if I'd have the patience or temperment for teaching. It was something I haden't ruled out though.

@ Kura the big studios videos wouldnt play but I like the look of the other website thank you :)

@ The Cynic. Thanks for the list :P I could probsably get more info on all those on the UKAS website and where they hold courses and things.

Also I am doing Art and Design for my Leaving Certificate but Communication Graphics is limited to people who did Technical Graphics for their Junior Cert. for some reason :(

I just got back from Work Experience this week myself! Yeah, it's annoying the subjects are limited on whether you did the subject for the JC or not, I think it's the same for the Sciences and Business subjects too. I think it's about the course continuing or something...

My advice would be to pick something really out-there for Work Experience (something that you don't know loads about). Don't pick something boring like some people I know who picked the local shop. I presume this is for LCVP, and if it is, then at least you'll definitely be able to write loads on that report thingamajig back. So even if you don't end up doing that career, just don't waste this chance!

 

[umbreon_4_life]

Nail polish crisis!

Ohmigod!!!! I am so stupid! Girls being girls, I accidentally spilled dark purple nail polish on my light tan carpet in my bedroom. I have absolutely no idea on how to get it out! I tried nail polish remover, but that hardly did anything.=(

Any suggestions? Please?! It's still a little wet, just in case you need to know...

 

[Kura]

Soak it in a little mini basin of rubbing alcohol.. leave it for a few hours in it. Then put it in the regular wash and it should probably fix up just fine.


Edit: If it's carpet flooring, I dunno.. maybe try soaking rubbing alcohol on it and then steam the carpet?

 

[Jolene]

I dunno. I guess you could try and stain the rest of the carpet? Is it a nice color?




But seriously, Google says nail polish remover should work. Try it again.

 

[Kikaito plush]

ticked off

I am so ticked off by people I know.

So I am going to babysit my nephew tomorrow, but I have a hospital appiontent tomorrow at 1.30pm.

My sister's husband told me this " I will get him back at Two". I had told him before I have an appointent at the hospital. he said " take him with you" great now I have a baby to worry about while I am at my appointent.

And I have to rush down to pick him up at eight in the morning..and I am carring an baby inside me too..

anyway does anyone tick you off like this ?