I've been denied Halloween twice...and ignored when I needed sympathy

[Autistic Lucario]

I wrote this in the wonderful Halloween Haunt chat because I was hoping someone could cheer me up.

There's not gonna be a Halloween for me this year u_u. Just like last year. When you reach my age, trick-or-treating is "a thing of the past" apparently and your parents frown on you for even thinking of it.

As a kid and as a teen, I loved to trick-or-treat. Especially in my later years. I'll never forget the wonderful experiences of seeing all the different costumes and decorations on peoples' houses. I'd always come home with enough candy to last through Christmas. No one can take away the magic of Halloween...well, almost no one.

There comes a time when your parents just don't want to have fun anymore. My mom said that I'm not going to trick-or-treat, not even with my friend because I'm "too old." I can't even go with my friend. So what does she say we're going to do? "We're going to stay home and do nothing." She actually said that. I don't get it...all the little kids are having the time of their lives, and their parents are enjoying it too. I love the Halloween costume I have now (necromancer) and I see no reason to stop enjoying myself on Halloween.

Last year, I was supposed to go to a Halloween Party. I was told there was going to be a dance with plenty of stuff to do. When we got there, it turns out that there was a new owner of the place and that she decided to charge everyone to attend, when it's always been free to members. Only about 6 people actually attended. There was no party. I was heart-broken that night. So I just walked out of there, leaving my parents behind. I walked home, took off my costume, and went to bed.

Next morning, I didn't get any compensation. Didn't even get any sympathy. It was just another day. Halloween didn't happen that year, and it won't happen this year either. There are no parties in my area, and even if they were, the only person who can drive is in another country.

This is what I have to say about Halloween:

"When you reach the magical age that kids want to be, the magic is gone."

I had no responses...nothing. Not even a "that sucks." The conversation about costumes continued right over my post about being denied Halloween a second time. This is why I don't use PC much anymore. People ignore everything I post. I don't even get any sympathy if I have problems.

There is strong evidence the users here in general are too busy enjoying talking about costumes and trick-or-treating that they have forgotten or outright ignore those who aren't as lucky. It's sickening.

One day, everyone will reach my age and realize that life isn't all sunshine and lollipops.

 

[Morkula]

Unfortunately, trick-or-treating is seen as something for kids to do, and once you get past 12 or so people tend to frown on you doing it. Some places even have laws saying 12 and under. :/

It sucks about the party last year though, but that doesn't mean you have to sit around by yourself on Halloween with nothing to do. Why not get a few of your friends together and have your own party? Or if it's too late to get something like that together, just dress up in your costume and hand out candy to trick-or-treaters that come by your house? There are plenty of ways to enjoy the holiday, even if you're "too old" to trick or treat.

 

[Abnegation]

I think that once you get to a certain age, Halloween just becomes another public holiday. It doesn't mean that you can no longer have fun however, you need to make it into what you want it to be. Invite people around who have the same mindset as you, or watch some movies. The same thing happens for many holidays like this, it's that part of your life when you merely become of age and you just need to find the part of the holiday that now appeals to you as opposed to searching for what once did in your childhood.

 

[Melody]

Honestly...you had to have expected this sort of treatment at one point or another. Now that you're 18, if that is indeed your age, your parents cannot tell you not to trick or treat, you've got the authority to go do it anyways whether they think it's appropriate or not. Naturally even then they didn't tell you not to go because they wanted to spoil your Halloween. Likely at this age people would just give you less and less candy until the supply dries up. It's a fact of Halloween really.

Still, I agree that your parents should have let you grow out of Halloween at your own pace. >_>

 

[Binary]

There is strong evidence the users here in general are too busy enjoying talking about costumes and trick-or-treating that they have forgotten or outright ignore those who aren't as lucky. It's sickening.

Well. Ahem. You're not the only one left out. I've got a few problems of my own. It's pretty saddening for me too. But I'm posting in the HH chat like I've got nothing on my shoulders and have a whole weekend planned out. And I'm a little younger than you. I was going to quote your post, but the next page just lost me there.

It sucks about your party last year. And that your parents aren't letting you have a little fun. But there are plenty of other things you can do, like Morkula and Abnegation have stated. Yeah, your parents should've let you grow out of Halloween at your own pace.

 

[Autistic Lucario]

I know I'm going to think differently about Halloween sooner or later, but it hasn't happened yet.

I appreciate your suggestions and would use them...if it weren't for three reasons,

1: Dad is the only one that drives. I can't yet. Nor can my friend.

2: I have only one friend in real life I can visit, but he has Asperger's/ADHD/Bipolar. As you can imagine, talking to him about something is tricky at best. He's not, shall we say, a "fully-functioning" adult. You would think he's 12-14 (looks that way too).

3: There are no parties or events in my area. Not even at the place I went to last year for Halloween. The only real Halloween stuff takes place on an Air Force base. I'd have to get a ride to get there. Dad's at a funeral, and mom failed her driving test years ago and hasn't taken it again since. My sister's only 15, so that makes her too young to drive. Even then, she wouldn't take me because of her 15-year-old attitude.

Thanks for the support, though. :') It means a lot.

 

[Melody]

Ah well.

C'est la vie. Life moves on and you won't die of boredom...I'm sure you'll find something to entertain yourself with. x3

 

[Cherrim]

Why don't you dress up and make a big deal about handing out candy. If you can't have a perfect hallowe'en the way you want to, you could go above and beyond to hand out candy for kids and be one of those cool houses where the people are really into it. :3

Otherwise, all I can say is "growing up sucks". :(

 

[Kura]

Why don't you host your OWN halloween party next year? Or if your parents don't want you having a party, why don't you just invite a few friends over, dress up, and watch a scary movie?

The magic doesn't have to be gone, you just have to make more of an effort to keep it going :3

 

[Stellar]

There is strong evidence the users here in general are too busy enjoying talking about costumes and trick-or-treating that they have forgotten or outright ignore those who aren't as lucky. It's sickening.

I definitely would not call it sickening. You can't blame people for wanting to talk about happy things rather than sad things, just how you can't be blamed for wanting to have fun rather than do nothing for Halloween. It's human nature to be drawn to the things that make them happy. At least you've made a thread where you can find people who have more to say on the topic, which is the beauty of a forum~

My thoughts on the topic? I think it's horrible that your parents have denied you a joy so simple and basic as trick-or-treating. Halloween was my favorite holiday as a kid because I loved trick-or-treating, but I just don't get the same kick out of it that I used to and that makes me sad. I envy you for still having that youthful attraction to it, and I think you need to take advantage of that for as many years as you can. You're only young once, and when the magic is gone, it's gone. Tell your parents you're only as old as you feel and that they should be thankful that they have a child who would rather go trick-or-treating than get themselves arrested doing God knows what.

 

[Autistic Lucario]

I definitely would not call it sickening. You can't blame people for wanting to talk about happy things rather than sad things, just how you can't be blamed for wanting to have fun rather than do nothing for Halloween. It's human nature to be drawn to the things that make them happy. At least you've made a thread where you can find people who have more to say on the topic, which is the beauty of a forum~

My thoughts on the topic? I think it's horrible that your parents have denied you a joy so simple and basic as trick-or-treating. Halloween was my favorite holiday as a kid because I loved trick-or-treating, but I just don't get the same kick out of it that I used to and that makes me sad. I envy you for still having that youthful attraction to it, and I think you need to take advantage of that for as many years as you can. You're only young once, and when the magic is gone, it's gone. Tell your parents you're only as old as you feel and that they should be thankful that they have a child who would rather go trick-or-treating than get themselves arrested doing God knows what.

This is a good idea. I haven't thought of that before. The only obstacles I have are mom and my friend's mom on the issue of me going with my friend for trick-or-treating. Also, I look younger than I actually am (14-16ish).

Plus, I really want to show off my necromancer costume. I'll see if I can convince her tomorrow, but it all depends on whether my friend still trick-or-treats.

Thanks for the tip. :)

 

[Captain Hobo.]

We can go out and see a movie with friends that would be fun.

 

[Autistic Lucario]

@ Cptn Hobo - I live in England :(, sorry that isn't possible.

My friend could pass off as a middle-schooler, he looks so young. He's 18 like me, but he looks 12-14 years and acts even younger. If my friend is trick-or-treating this year (and I believe he is, then this could be the happiest Halloween of my life. His mom is nice and if I ask her nicely, maybe I can go trick-or-treating with them.

My 16th Halloween was without a doubt the best one. I liked my costume, and little kids were actually afraid of my costume. They backed away from me, even when I was friendly with them :/. I was a necromancer (a sorcerer that raises the dead). I had a glowing skull staff, a black and red robe, a matching hood, some makeup that made my face look pale (although I'm mildly allergic to that), a long brown wig, and a thin mustache and goatee drawn on my face.

That year, people liked my costume...and a group of girls liked my British accent *blushes*.

 

[FreakyLocz14]

I trick-or-treated last year, and I was 19 at the time. I was supervising younger relatives, and I decided that I might as well have some fun since I had to watch them. I prefer to trick-or-treat on Halloween than go to parties. I'm not much of a party person unless there is an occasion.

 

[Stellar]

This is a good idea. I haven't thought of that before. The only obstacles I have are mom and my friend's mom on the issue of me going with my friend for trick-or-treating. Also, I look younger than I actually am (14-16ish).

Plus, I really want to show off my necromancer costume. I'll see if I can convince her tomorrow, but it all depends on whether my friend still trick-or-treats.

Thanks for the tip. :)

No problem, I wish you lots of luck! No one should be denied a bit of Halloween fun. :3

 

[Professor_Ash]

How depressing, I'm sorry you're parents feel that way about this holiday. I feel the need to argue, feeling this holiday is enjoyable to those of all ages always. Especially parents in their child's early years.

 

[Prometheus]

I think Halloween's sad, Its a great night for wierdo's (Peadophiles)

 

[Autistic Lucario]

Guess what? I can't go trick-or-treating anyway u_u. I just found out that my friend is in nothern England and is staying there for the weekend. Halloween is on a Sunday.

I asked mom if any of her friends could take us to go trick-or-treating, but she said that they're all doing something. She gave me a tone of voice that sounded like I was getting on her nerves.

What about my sister? She gets to go trick-or-treating. She has friends who can take her to where the trick-or-treating is. I only have one friend and he's near Scotland right now. Last year was a let down...the first Halloween I didn't enjoy. Looks like it's about to happen this year too. Only I won't even get to dress up this time.

Last night I e-mailed mom with a high hopes for the outcome. I told her I was going trick-or-treating. Then half an hour ago, I found out that my friend was near Scotland and they were staying there for the weekend. That broke my heart right there.

Dad's the only one that can drive, but he's at a funeral in the US. His mom just died. He didn't even get the chance to say "I was in Transylvania on Halloween." I feel sorry for him.

Just like the title says, I've been denied Halloween twice...and ignored when I needed sympathy. Only this time, it's from my mom. There are no parties...no events...no nothing. Except for the place I was trying to reach this whole time.

This is what I have to say about Halloween:

It only comes once a year. If you can't grab it and cherish it, then it will scar you. As you get older, it becomes harder to enjoy because fate keeps messing it up. Eventually, Halloween gets so screwed up by fate that it loses its magic. Once it loses its magic, it becomes the saddest day of the year. Enjoy it while you can. Don't end up like me.

 

[ManhattanTheStarr]

Guess what? I can't go trick-or-treating anyway u_u. I just found out that my friend is in nothern England and is staying there for the weekend. Halloween is on a Sunday.

I asked mom if any of her friends could take us to go trick-or-treating, but she said that they're all doing something. She gave me a tone of voice that sounded like I was getting on her nerves.

What about my sister? She gets to go trick-or-treating. She has friends who can take her to where the trick-or-treating is. I only have one friend and he's near Scotland right now. Last year was a let down...the first Halloween I didn't enjoy. Looks like it's about to happen this year too. Only I won't even get to dress up this time.

Last night I e-mailed mom with a high hopes for the outcome. I told her I was going trick-or-treating. Then half an hour ago, I found out that my friend was near Scotland and they were staying there for the weekend. That broke my heart right there.

Dad's the only one that can drive, but he's at a funeral in the US. His mom just died. He didn't even get the chance to say "I was in Transylvania on Halloween." I feel sorry for him.

Just like the title says, I've been denied Halloween twice...and ignored when I needed sympathy. Only this time, it's from my mom. There are no parties...no events...no nothing. Except for the place I was trying to reach this whole time.

This is what I have to say about Halloween:

It only comes once a year. If you can't grab it and cherish it, then it will scar you. As you get older, it becomes harder to enjoy because fate keeps messing it up. Eventually, Halloween gets so screwed up by fate that it loses its magic. Once it loses its magic, it becomes the saddest day of the year. Enjoy it while you can. Don't end up like me.

Awww, don't beat yourself up about it. D:
Sure it seems pretty bad, but you should be grateful that you ever got to go trick-or-treating. I've only been trick-or-treating once (I'm not supposed to celebrate Halloween) and I doubt I ever will again. =/

Just cherish your memories of the other Halloweens that didn't go wrong. Trust me, celebrating Halloween even once was good enough for me, because that one night was one of the most memorable nights ever. (Heh, I'm so corny... Dx)

And who knows... if you ever have kids of your own, maybe you could go trick-or-treating with them, and relive those memories. :3

 

[Sydian]

ya im not alowed to go trick or treating nemoar either. it rely sux, and im actualy missing my mimi's halowen party 2nite because i hav a band thing to go to that lasts all nite so im mising out on the hay ride an stuf. but yeah, when u get to a certain age, it sems taht parentz don wana let u do nething. my step dad last year sed i coudnt go v___v but wutever. if u wan, u cud jus do wut i did and hav a costume on pc. c: tahts what im doin rite now!

~Sydian~