Why do some gay people desire to dress as a gender they do not identify with?
Also, do drag queens or anyone who puts on a comedic show whether it be on stage or among friends offend transgender people who are not putting on an act and do not dress to entertain or humor others? Not to mention, many people just assume from the actions above that transgender people are synonymous with cross-dressing/drag, does it, in a way, illegitimize transgender rights or acceptance by society as a serious issue? Lot's of questions/thoughts here, but overall, what are your thoughts?
Ok with the first question.
"Why do some gay people desire to dress as a gender they do not identify with". Well it all comes down to what they are attracted too. They are guys who like other guys. They don't need to have the fashion sense of a girl in order to be in love with the same gender. Most people I know who are crossdressers, or want to be apart of the lifestyle (such as myself) tend to be sexually attracted to a lot more than one gender. I'm obvioslsy not speaking for everyone, but for the most part, a lot of crossdressers live in bisexuality or some form where its close to it.
I've watched a few acts where a guy will dress up as a girl. There are people who will do it for show such as Gaga at the New York awards. There are people who crossdress on Halloween and for cosplay. The only thing that I don't really care for is when a guy trys to make himself not look like a girl, but make himself look a prostitute. I also have a friend who is an actual model that does drag on the side because she thinks its fun. I don't have a problem with. Most people who do drag shows on the side are actually not that bad at doing it. I say for the most part it doesn't get to me, just don't dress in a way thats insanely disrespectful in public eye.
Most people who crossdress for fun are really open in the LGBTS community. I don't think every single guy who though't it be funny to show off a bad costume is going to care that much. However you have people out there who do care. They have to respect the art that they are doing, and what that are really means for people. If you don't, then you shouldn't be doing it. People like my friend Shelby (the model), and Gaga have some big voices in the community. (Granted Shelby's is more local, while Gaga is global/countrywise).
The reasons why I crossdress, or at least am so excited to live it out is because of a few reasons. I felt really nice wearing girls clothing, it was fun. I was sexually attracted towards cross dressing, but I have a sexual attraction to both male and females. However, you don't have to identify with a certain sexuality in order to this. I'm sure that their are some crossdressers who still find attraction within their the opposite sex. I can't speak for them though, your going to need to find out why they do it on your own. With people who crossdress every know and then for acts, shows, or costume. I say let them have at it! A lot of people who do it for fun can be really pro-gay. Which is awesome! The only problem is when guys take it too far and act really stupid to it, or when it is being mocked on purpose.
I don't speak for everyone with my opinions, I speak for myself.