EGKangaroo

My mom always makes remarks every few weeks saying things like, "When you and your girlfriend, or you and your wife…, or when you have children..", and those comments put me in the most awkward positions you could ever think of. Unfortunately for me, I don't even think my parents know what asexuality is, but I'm not asexual, anyways. I wish my parents would think likes yours! I mean, I believe parents have the right to question their children whenever they want. After all, they are our parents, and for the most part, they want what's best for us. I understand their possible confusions or frustrations, but it definitely doesn't make it easy on us. I just need to find the courage one of these days to come out to them and tell them who I really am and who I really like.

Well, I have to say that your reasoning is very similar to mine. That'd be a dream of mine (seeing as I will be 19 in a week) to find a guy who I can relate to, have fun with, and enjoy my life with. Those wishes sound like they can only be found in a fairy tale these days, but hey, can't a person dream? I know I will have to come out to my parents eventually. That is very much inevitable at this point. And I know a person doesn't necessarily have to reveal their sexuality if they don't want to ever in their lives, but I know if I do not confront my parents soon, they'll just come to me and force it out of me eventually, which is something I don't want to happen. Plus, I can't live being closeted for the rest of my life.

Oh my gosh, if my mother did that to me in public, PUBLIC, I'd die. I'm soooo sorry that that happened to you. I probably would have just gotten super blushed up and would have simply said, "no". See, if my parents ever asked me (which they have) why I don't have a girlfriend and I respond with, "I'm just not interested in relationships right now", they'll just simply jump to the conclusion that I'm using that as an excuse to cover up my homosexuality. I hate it. Ugh.

As for who I feel an attraction to, I know I am only drawn to men. Sure, I admire women as friends and such, but even if a woman is really compassionate towards me, I just take it as though she's being nice in a friendly way. But, yes, I want the person I'm with to be a friend and a lover. A relationship is nothing if it consists of just sex and that's it (and I know I'm being explicit here on a Pokémon forum). There needs to also be a love/passion component to a relationship for it to work. I agree very much with your thinking. Everyone should look at any type of relationship like that.

I sometimes look forward to the days where I have already gotten rid of this secret I've been hiding all my life, but I can never find the courage to just come out, especially to my parents. And it's not even because I think they'll react in a hostile manner, but it's just because I can't see myself telling them. Luckily, my parents aren't religious, and as a result, I'm not either, but I'm kind of in the same situation as you. I think my parents already highly suspect I'm homosexual, but they're just waiting for me to assure them of that. I don't think my father would actually mind if I was gay. He's never asked me about relationships or anything of that manner, but my mom has. She's quite a curious being, and she's asked me twice before if I was gay, but I obviously said no because it's hard to just spill your guts when you're so abruptly confronted about something so private. Both situations have been super awkward for me. My mom is like yours. One minute she'll say she loves me no matter what I am or who I love, but the next she'll see two guys kissing on TV and say that that's "gross". I do think that if I did come out to her, she wouldn't think of me any differently and would support me to the utmost extreme, but I also don't want to have to deal with the probably ton of questions and comments she may have. I know what you're feeling, believe me.

That's pretty cool to hear that the Netherlands is considered to be one of the most tolerant countries when it comes to supporting LGBTs. People will always be judgmental, irrational, and will always jump to conclusions when it comes to the topic of homosexuality. That will happen no matter what country you live in, like you said. We just can't fix that, and I don't think we will ever be able to, either. It's also probably the main reason why many in the LGBT community are so scared to reveal their true selves. People are just scared to experience things outside of what they know. They don't like change – or things/people that are different from them, for that matter. Everyone is very quick to judge and scrutinize anything and everything that is out of the norm. Once they realize that they're just being illogical and senseless (and also realize that they're the ones with the unscrupulous mentality), they start to adjust and that's when the accepting comes in. It's a long process, though, and it seems like your friend is going through it right now, fortunately. But it's also unfortunate that he even went through it in the first place.

I love your use of philosophical sayings. ;] Your eloquence is so endearing, really. I feel like my writing and logic is so dumb compared to yours, haha. xD & that's awesome that you're already in the club! That was kind of premature of me for not checking if you were in it beforehand, but it didn't really cross my mind. I'm glad to hear you're willing to post in it, though. We'd love to hear your input on the discussions that arise. :)

Antescriptum (LOL): Don't feel obligated to reply to all of the nonsense I wrote down there. :p I know it's a lot to read, and we're kind of going back and forth on the same topic, anyways. <3

I'd assume you're right. PreScript sounds the most logical. I did find, however, that Antescriptum (before something has been written) can also be used, though it wouldn't necessarily be used correctly if it was placed in the beginning of a letter/piece of writing. Oh well, it's not a big deal. :p

Everyone always longs to have nice things. My philosophy is that if someone can afford to buy expensive and luxurious things, then by all means they should buy the items. People, however, tend to become greedy and self-absorbed when they're given the privilege to do such things, and that's of course where the problems start setting in. They believe that money can buy them anything, and in consequence, their sense of reality becomes totally obscured by everything and anything material. And, of course, you have those people who can't even afford nice things and become unbearable to be around because their entire lives revolve around constantly complaining about their "misfortune" and jealousy of those who actually have the high-priced luxuries they want. It will always come down to this: no one will ever be satisfied with what they have. No one. And that's sad to think about. You're right, though. The sentimental value that is assigned to something is always what will count the most.

I'd do the same as you any day! I was reading this picture (it was like a meme) on Instagram yesterday, and it said, "I'd rather have four quarters than one-hundred pennies", and the saying is so true! I'd rather have one true friend than ten friends, ten "acquaintances" who I probably wouldn't even be able to relate to. For the sake of the analogy, though, it doesn't make a person anti-social to choose a million dollars over a million friends. I mean, not one person could probably even be able to handle or even remember one million people. x) Haha.

Thanks for being so caring. <3 People definitely judge others simply on the fact of what they consider themselves to be.

"Oh, you're gay?"

"You must like dressing like a woman, painting your nails, love every guy you see or meet, and love Lady Gaga."

Ugh, no. I don't fit the gay stereotype at all. It's rather annoying when people jump to conclusions so quickly, but whatever, that's how society is and I don't think it'll ever change, at least not for the better, anyways. You're right, though, people love to categorize others, yet we're all so structurally built in such different ways.

& that makes it ten times better to hear that you're gay, too (although, even if you were heterosexual I wouldn't think of you differently anyways). I haven't "come out" to anyone yet, but I plan to in the near future, and the only reason I haven't yet is because I don't think I'm ready to deal with the criticisms and judgments that unfortunately come with revealing your "not-societally-normal" sexuality. Gosh, I make it sound so harsh, but society does, too! I'm so sorry that happened to you. <3 Seriously, coming out is definitely not something easy to do, and people totally jump the gun when they find out someone is gay because they've been mislead into thinking that being anything but heterosexual isn't "appropriate". Although I haven't revealed my sexuality to anyone in real life, I'm completely comfortable and accepting of who I am. I wouldn't change myself for the world, and it's not like I could, anyways.

Btw, if you're ever inclined to do so (and I do hope you do, please, please, please), PC's LGBT club would loveeeeeee to have you. :] We'd value your input a lot, and we've sort of build a community within ourselves to help each other out. I hope you decide to join, and if not, that's completely fine, too. xD

I can't change my personality or who I am, for that matter, but I do put on a façade which obviously makes me seem a lot more different than I normally am. People who I have to act fake around don't really ask me questions about myself because if they see they can relate to the fake me, they kind of already came up the conclusion that I am very much like them, and therefore they don't feel the need to "uncover" me for my true self. I hope that made sense, haha. xD But you're right. If someone is being a complete ***hole to me, I'm not going to deal with it just for the sake of friendship. Luckily, though, I don't really have to put up a façade for people anymore.

I'm glad you're staying. <3 You're seriously so awesome, and I'm glad you rejoined! I don't think I'll stay here forever, either, but I don't see myself leaving anytime soon. I have actually just recently returned, too, in January, and I have met sooooooooooo many wonderful people within a month's time. I'm really so glad I came back. STOP BEING SO RELATABLE, GOSH, THIS IS NEW TO ME. XD Thanks for your kind and caring replies. :)

sorry, I literally just got online (Saturday's are quite eventful for me in the mornings). I'll reply to you asap. :p

Hope you're having an awesome day! <3

(Before Script message (if that even exists): I'm sorry for making this reply so long, haha. I really couldn't help myself.)

WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE? Hahaha. <3

You're right that people are becoming more and more superficial and materialistic. Money doesn't make a person happy, love and the support of others does. Money can definitely provide us with great lives, but it can only buy fictitious friends - those who you cannot trust and are only your friends, well, for your money. Honest friendships have really been dying out as of late. There seems to be a lack of earnest people in the world today, and that's unfortunate. I believe we're all materialistic in our own ways. Sure, I like nice things, and if I work hard enough, I think I deserve nice things, but once it gets out of hand and a person's sense of reality is blurred by their superficiality, then that's when it becomes a problem, and it's a grave issue affecting many people. Nothing certainly beats a great friendship. That's one of those things in life that prevails over everything else. I wouldn't trade a candid friendship for anything, any day.

I don't like being alone, either, and a lot of times I question where I will be in the future (in terms of relationships and friendships). Sure, on the outside I may look like the happiest person in the world, but in reality, I am constantly questioning my future and what life has destined for me, and it doesn't help that I'm homosexual (I hope that won't make you think differently of me). I'm actually the type who would rather see others happy before seeing myself happy. I try my hardest to cheer others, but inside I am the one who needs a good boost, both emotionally and mentally.


Yes! This is exactly my thinking. I don't picture myself in the future being with ten different people and moving from friendship to friendship. I see myself having a solid group of friends and a hopefully stable relationship with someone.

I have felt that same way before. I feel alone although there are plenty of people around me who I know are always there for me, who are always willing to talk if I ever need someone. And then, of course, there's those people who you're with just so it doesn't feel like you're alone. I sometimes feel like a puppet because I mold my personality to fit those of the people I'm trying to relate to. It's seriously annoying, and yes, I'm always like, "God, please, I just want this to be over as soon as possible." It definitely does take a lot of time to make a worthy friendship, but that's something I've had to live with given my personality, and it's something I'm willing to continue working at for future relationships, if that makes sense.

There has been many friendships where, at the beginning, I have felt were going to turn out great, and then, yeah, in the end, I regret everything. There are just so many people in this world that cannot be trusted these days. It's sad but true. It's very difficult to find trustworthy friends, and even if you think you've found a person that's somewhat honorable, they end up stabbing you in the back when you're in the most vulnerable state. I've "been there, done that" way too many times now, and I guess that's why I'm always so cautious now.

It's really nice to be able to relate to someone. :] It just brings up your spirits right away. I'm glad you've returned to PC! I always post on "re-intros" mentioning, "yeah, I hope you stay active and stuff, blah, blah, blah", thinking that if the person left once, they'll leave again, but seriously, you better stay active! You are like my twin, lol. :p & thanks for the kind words, too. People need to start taking notes! x)

I've always been introverted, and it's not necessarily something I'm ashamed of being. I am definitely the type of person who longs to have solid, pure, and prolonged relationships. I don't know how some people can move on from friend to friend or lover to lover so quickly, seriously. I wouldn't categorize myself as antisocial, or any introvert as antisocial, for that matter, but yeah, we get exhausted. There are times where all I want to do is be social and meet people, but a lot of my life is also consumed by my wanting to just be alone. There has been plenty of times where I have been invited to go out with friends, but I decline and make up an excuse just because I'd rather be alone. I'd categorize myself as the type of person who "has an okay amount of friends/close friends but still feels alone". But, yes, of course that exhaustion occurs with people who you can't really relate to. In all honesty, though, we only really put in so much effort to make friendships because we don't want to be alone. Yeah, I would rather be alone most of the time, but I don't want society to think I'm a loner and judge me because of that. This world is cruel, like you said. I've done a lot of things just so that I am not incorrectly judged or criticized by others.

Extroverts aren't perfect, either, like you mentioned. Both sides of the spectrum definitely have their pros and cons. Most extroverts I know are just like those people which we hate to be with - those who you have to act fake around.

We definitely do stick together! You can certainly make a very good, long-time friend out of any introvert. We are trustworthy and will show our true selves given that the other person also does the same. My true friends - the people who I can relate to the most - are just like us, introverts, and I've never once questioned their motives. Society has that misconception that we're all quiet, antisocial, and fearful of everything social, but we are, without doubt, very much open when you get to know us.

I've heard of F451 before. I think it's actually been recommended to me before, too. I might pick it up and start reading it one of these days. Thanks for the recommendation. :]

ahaha, np. :]

I tried my best to understand everything, but you certainly jotted down some intense thoughts which made me say, "damn, that's vivid."

I can completely relate to you. I, myself, am a very introverted person, so being the way I am, it's hard to make true friends, especially those who you can relate to. I've always faced the issue of befriending people I haven't really been compatible with just for the mere wanting of friendship and company. I've put on that facade plenty of times, believe me. People will always try to define others even when they hardly know what goes on beyond just the physical.

I'm glad you're back! You will certainly bring a sense of honesty and integrity to the forums. If you ever post any of your writings or fan-fics, definitely provide me with the link so I can read! Your writing is endearing, for real. :]

Notice anything different with my name color or anything?

Hello there dude, welcome back to PC!

It's Hikari if you're wondering.

right now I gave Erika a lvl 15 and a lvl 18. figured that would be a good base. Actually all the gym leaders will have that a 15 and 18 for their base teams. I got the imediate four on the OOC now btw.

hehe nice reasoning. also you know that the gyms change based on your stats. Erika would only have two pokemon at similar levels to your pokemon. I'm actually working on that atm. (by 'that' I mean I'm making the base and top teams for the gym leaders.)

Pretty much the only big error I can think of is multi-merging, or basic mistakes in logic/discontinuities.

you can merge mentally with one pokemon at a time using the pokebracer. You can then merge on the physical level with the pokemon you are mentally connected with. remember when you merge physically its into a half human-half pokemon.

the reason you can only physically merge with the one you mentally merged with at the time is so people can't merge with multiple pokemon. If you merge physically you are also merged mentally, so 1 pokemon.

thats all i can think of based on your question. big idea is 1 pokemon at a time.

you can also send out pokemon normally.

Alright then mate. I'm just lounging around here on the forums.

http://www.pokecommunity.com/showthread.php?t=277767

instinct start up

though I think you may have noticed.

Nonononono! It's not bad at all! It was just surprising haha

Haha well your accent certainly made my day interesting XD

How... just... how!
Rednael is Dutch and his accent sounds Irish.
You are Dutch and your accent sounds Australian and cockney English.

HOW THIS HAPPEN. HOW THIS HAPPEN.
Like, I'm Australian and you sound more Australian than I do at some points in there.
HOW THIS HAPPEN!

Were you born in the Netherlands? Because your accent sounds like it's fluctuating between Australian and some form of cockney English :P

EDIT: I typed that while I was listening to the beginning of your accent challenge, and I'm near the end now and you seemed to acknowledge the Australian/English thing, but I didn't quite understand what you said XD

Oh nothing some Lerroux guy hacked his way (or something to that extent) to being Admin along with Rukario (who is def legit) and it's been through for a month or two and either now it's spilling into the rest of the forums or it's a REALLY REALLY REALLY well planned out prank for April Fool's.

So yeah. Not gonna worry 'bout it till like, maybe the third or something.