Too bad you don't have a blog to properly rant in. 3;
Anyway, if you want my opinion, I don't believe either one of you was in the wrong, except Jerky's tone could have been a little nicer. Did he really use caps lock? Anyway, it'd be cool if everyone wasn't so insistent about choosing their own gender. I chose May in Emerald version and Dawn in Diamond. Dawn is cute if you ask me. xD But I don't think he had any obligation to be the girl anyway. :/
So yeah, I believe he was doing a fine job besides the fact he was being disrespectful. D: