On a random note, men have standards, too, but they're less perceived than those of women due to media.
Men are also under scrutiny for weight, just like women are.
Female objectification in the media is so potent that people forget that it happens to men, too, albeit not as often. I hate those half-naked man cologne commercials, or even charity calendars of half-naked firemen, officers, rowers, etc. It's the same kind of wandering lust, and it's icky and inappropriate. It's not as potent as female objectification, but it does exist. I think it's more acceptable because men have always held power and women haven't, so women feel more victimized and feel disrespected easier. Men are always portrayed as wanting attention, wanting to be buff and show it off ("sun's out, guns out"), so women just assume they're doing them a favour or giving flattery. Men, on the other hand, see naked women and typically make comments that aren't flattering, but are instead demeaning and equating a woman to sexual objects.
It's complicated.
I was just reading something on some other person's VM page XD and thought I would support some of the stuff you were saying / attempting to say that was being misunderstood.